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Do you believe it's okay to be talking to/dating multiple people at once? If so, are you upfront with them that there are others? (Page 2)
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I believe in not having many multiple relationships @Brainsbeforebeauty n you are right with those words.
👍👍 same... And aww look at you, so pretty in pink🤣🤣
Hell yeah it is better to in a serious relationship, Ug hv u seen that I look pretty in pink lol
Meant cuz your username was in pink yesterday when they switched gender/color for April fool's
Hahaha 😁 talk about that. Lol I saw couple of guys in pink n was like damn did this app crush. They got me on that.
That's okay, I was answering like asshat blues would🤣 had fun being blue LOL
It is ignorant to think anyone you date is NOT playing the game! Why wouldn't someone try to find the BEST option? Why do people go on vacation... Because they want to experience something different from the normal. Same goes with dating. You date multiple people to stay out of a boring, one-person lockdown. I like pizza, but don't want to eat it EVERY DAY FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE! So, embrace the variety of dating different people!
Not everyone considers dating/relationships a game... And not everyone treats people like options instead of people with feelings
That is where you are mistaken, for it IS a game... with the goal being "find your best option"! Only weak people wish for someone to 'settle' on them when their partner has better options. Why would someone settle being with a 6 when they could be happier with an 8 that they found later on? The people that whine about the game are those that are a 5 or below, bc they know their options are limited. It is ok to hate the game, for those that hate the game have already lost in life. So, all they have to hang on to is their hatred of the game that kept them out of playing.
You couldn't be more wrong, the only way I lost was when I lost my husband 8 1/2 years ago when he passed away, but we had been together twenty years at that point..
And again, you're taking your views and opinions and treating it as fact for everybody, not everybody views dating and relationships the way you do, thank God... .
It's implied that people are doing this nowadays. Another reason I avoid men. They just aren't worth it.
Men aren't the only ones doing it though... And at least on here, it seems like more women think it's okay and more men that said they wouldn't
With any relationship, honesty is paramount. I could never focus on more that one woman at a time.
Same here, except man in my case not woman lolol 😅
You always need to be up front. If you are "playing the field" you should let everyone know. When you start to get serious you should stick to one person. Don't uses another person to make person A jealous. From experience I have put my self in the position where person B found out about person A. It was not good. Have a fun week.
Yes... If you are not exclusive.. i would also be up front about it..
I'm personally a date one person at a time, I don't believe in dating multiple people at once, not would I date someone who was dating others
It's different for everyone.. but like I said up front honesty is key..
Honestly speaking
I do not appreciate that
Because I believe one person should be meant for one person
Or at least give one person the time to decide if they're that person for you or not.. I wouldn't be okay either dating someone who was going out with other women. Nor would I date multiple people at once.
Well said my dear
Because relationship's need honesty and loyalty too
Two partner's trusting each other is very important too
Very true
Please can you send a DM
Let's talk better, if you don't mind
I'm sorry, I don't dm on here Had too many issues in the past with harassment and fake accounts, etc. So I stick to the public threads
Oh I understand you
Because I don't really know what you might have passed through in the past
But I must also tell you, every One are not the same
Life always deserves a second chance
Dm me, let me tell you more..
But I don't think
Tbh, creates problem for you only, when you are emotional and dont wanna hurt the other person, but you made the foolish decision of roaming around.
Ummm this question isn't about me, I don't date multiple people at once, Hell I don't even date... But I've always been a one person at a time person... I don't believe in dating multiple people at once nor would I date a guy that was going out with other women
i am sorry it wasn't meant like for 'you'. i was just saying in the conversation tone.
Ah okay.. I'm sorry for assuming, but there is a lot of people that go anon on this site just to insult the poster... People always say just block anons from answering your posts but I don't do that because not all people that use Anon abuse it.. I don't have a problem with all anons on here, just the ones that use it to troll or to insult/attack people or make up shit, like the one that keeps creating new accounts to say all women are bisexual and will argue, insult anyone that says that's not true lololol
oh i faced it too :)
It’s ok as long as everyone you’re dating knows about it
I think it causes issues, confusion, or hurt feelings.. I'll stick to one at a time
If you want to be exclusive then bring up being exclusive
I no longer date. My wife won’t allow it lol. When I did I was ok with doing this. Would answer honestly when asked but never volunteered the information if not asked.
Honestly the question never came up.
Nah it's cheap. Might as well be friends with benefits and do your thing. You're already going this far, no need to sugar coat it. As for me I can only be happy with one
I hope you mean that "you" on a general sense lol because I don't believe in dating multiple people at once nor would I date someone who was...
Yeah I did mean general sense. I know you're traditional and classy, ofc
Haha classy might be a reach 🤣
I think only people ok with this are ok with cheating
Right!! I'm definitely not one of them...
That's what dating is all about: playing the field and seeing which one you prefer to spend the rest of your life with, or at least the next few years.
So you see dating as comparison shopping? If you're dating multiple people at once, how can you even have the time to really get to know them long enough to know if they're the one?
Yes! You go out with guys several times to see which one suits you best and you eventually narrow down the competition. It's not a race. You don't just pick on the first date although, rejecting someone could very easily happen on a first date! You don't have to worry about being loyal until you've chosen "the one".
One time, I went out with a girl the first time and, although she had a nice personality, she was a bit of a pig. Not just because she was fat but because, while we're sitting there eating over a pizza in a restaurant, she burped without even covering her mouth and then a strand of onion was hanging from her mouth down to her chin! I stayed friends with her for a few weeks after that but, we eventually hit a lull in our online conversation and never got back to it.
Yeah no, that's personally not my idea of dating... I believe in one at a time
If that's the way you wanna do it...
Actually I don't even try to date lol
But when I did, it was always one at a time...
Well, like I said, that's completely up to you. But, don't be surprised if he's got a few fish nibbling at his bait.
Then I just wouldn't be one of them
obviously not dating others but you can talk to other people it's not bad a ton of guys talk to the other girls
I'm only interested in one person at a time
Yes life is like a game and you only play it once. Why not have freedom, why restrict yourself to one and follow this dumb rule society has set?
I say have multiple, jus aslong as you tell them about it it's fine
In the UK we call that cheating.
Pretty much!!
When I was dating, I was totally open about it. It is always better to be open so you don't have to make up excuses or offer explanations.
Talking to: ok
Dating : only one or two dates then you have to decide yes or no.
No I don't like that shit
I don't either
Multiple people = multiple problems.
Right! And less chance of really getting to know them if you're spreading your time out between too many at once... To me, if you can't even invest the time into really getting to know me, how could I believe/trust you'd invest time in a relationship💯
That's called speed dating.
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@Brainsbeforebeauty
why not play the field so many marriages end up in divorce prob because they were told to not be slut and not find what they truly want first.
Really? Mine lasted twenty years🤷🏼♀️ and if the first didn't last, it wasn't cuz I didn't date around first, it was because he became too jealous, controlling, abusive
I will always only date one person at a time
Same here! To do otherwise to me it's leading people on or chancing hurting someone
Sure. Until you’re exclusive you’re not exclusive so why act that way?
It's not about being exclusive, it's about giving enough time to one person to really know if you like them instead of treating people like an option... People can get hurt when someone's dating multiple people at once, even being upfront. That don't always stop people from catching feelings, why take the chance/risk of hurting people?
If we’re just dating then we’re just dating. A guy doesn’t have the right to treat me like his girlfriend just because he decided and I’m not going to act like his girlfriend just because I’m afraid he’s going to catch feelings.
How is taking the time to get to know someone one person at a time acting like their girlfriend? If you like sometime and are interested in them aren't you interested in trying to get to know them better? And how can you really do that, if you're juggling time between multiple people? I'm not judging, I'm just curious as to why people would think spending time really getting to know someone one on one of considered acting like a girlfriend?
But we must spread love right i am talking about the second quote
You can spread love to just one woman, if you're dating/having sex with multiple people is that really love?
Love is free why not spread it to everyone
Spread too much love and you'll also be spreading STD's
Even if protected sex?
You do know you can get some STD'S just from oral sex or mouth herpes just from kissing right? And do you really wanna be kidding someone who's dating sometime else so you don't know where their mouth has been prior to kissing you? I sure the hell don't
I have no idea , i am not an experienced candidate 😹 i hate it when i have to speak the truth
I will be damned if a man tries that with me.
This has nothing to do with the question or your answer , but you are absolutely gorgeous!! I love that look and that picture! Have a great night
Same here!!
@Brainsbeforebeauty 4 dislikes, probably from guys 😂
Don't sweat the dislikes... Probably from guys you wouldn't want to date anyway, 🤣🤣 why they being salty lolol
I think its okay, because its dating at that point. When that person declares the other as their boyfriend or girlfriend, thats when its clear a selection has been made
Talking to? TALKING to? Seriously? Are we in some kind of unstated exclusive relationship because one of us said "hi" to the other?
🙄You know what I mean.. If you're flirting, showing interest in dating or showing sexual interest..
Still no. There's no exclusivity until you've had a conversation agreeing to exclusivity.
If you were looking for a job and were 3 interviews in with one firm and it's going well, would you stop taking calls for other interviews? Same thing here.
No it's not the same thing! People aren't jobs, and you shouldn't treat relationships with people like job interviews🙄
Why lead people on? If you're talking to/dating multiple people, aren't you just thinking of your feelings and what YOU want and not the other people involved?
Again no. Because until you've had an exclusivity conversation you absolutely, positively can NOT assume exclusivity. I don't assume she's exclusive with me. If I want her to be I have to broach the conversation and we have to discuss it. And if I did that on a first date, just how many second dates do you think I'd be likely to get?
And how many second dates do you think you'd get if they know you have a date with them on Friday, and a date with someone else on Saturday?
Or if they knew you had just crawled out of someone else's bed a half hour before the date (yes I know a guy that actually did that 🤦🏼♀️) the point is, if you're REALLY interested in someone, you wouldn't have interest in someone else... Isn't the whole point of dating/spending time with someone to see if it's someone you can connect with, have that bond, to see if it's someone you'd want a serious relationship with... I'm sorry but I wouldn't take a guy serious, wouldn't take his interest as serious if he's going out with other women at the same time...
To answer your first question: FAR more than if I asked for exclusivity on the first date.
How on earth can anyone be "REALLY interested" in a person if they've never spent meaningful time together and/or had a meaningful interaction before? Most of the time the first date IS that first chance to determine if you click at all. So no, I'm not "REALLY" interested in a girl I don't know and with whom I've never been on a date before. That's the whole POINT of going on a first date with her.
I think you're confusing asking out someone you already have a long pre-existing familiarity with, with a genuine first date where you've just met. It would be patently insane and you'd come off as psychotic if you brought up exclusivity on a first date. Hence it's a terrible dating strategy.
How is at least giving the date a chance, exclusivity? Again, if I made a date with you on Friday, and you already lined up a date for Saturday, it's like you didn't even give it a chance... Why not wait till AFTER the date, to see if you clicked before making a date with someone else? And again I think you're missing, if you juggling multiple people at once, how are you really getting to know them? You're not, because you're too busy dividing your time between them.. And conversations get rushed, when you texting multiple women at once instead of just talking to just her...
If your way of dating is so great, why is there so many people having trouble with dating/getting into relationships🤔
I think it's okay as long as everyone knows that it isn't an exclusive relationship.
Yes, it is perfectly okay. You must stop when exclusive with one person.
I am not good at sharing just the way I am
Same here!!
Not kool in my opinion.
Same!! I wouldn't do that nor would I date someone that would
Not really, sticking to one shows consistency
I think its fine as long they aren't having sex with them.
Id have no problem with it
I'm personally more a date one at a time person myself,
You make it sound like community cervix, i mean service is a bad thing...
I would never date a polyamorous woman.
If it's not exclusive then sure
As long as you lying about it it's fine.
Yes, that's literally how poly works.
Not for me
👍 Me either
Very Problematic.
Right!
I'd get confused.
nope lol
Agree
Sure especially if your the courting stage.
Why would you court more than one person at a time? Isn't that leading people on or giving them false hope? Or breaking their heart if they develope feelings and then you choose someone else?
Keeping options open. Now days it’s dating app’s. Tend go on more then one date. I tell people ahead of time also.
Nope
It's only okay IF you are up front
No, it’s not my style
for sure, thats how to get a threesome going