Would you be okay with letting your boyfriend hangout with random hoes and his boys?

[Anonymous]

Hi guys, just wanted to see what other people thought about having your boyfriend constantly going out with his single boys and surrounded with random girls that none of them know plus alcohol. I feel that it’s wrong but he’s saying I’m overreacting and he’s not talking to any girls even though I find that very hard to believe when someone’s in that type of environment. I know for a fact if the roles were reversed, he would lose it and break up with me. He has broken my trust many times and lied to be about these situations, where I would find out from someone else that he’s in these situations. When I catch him lying his first thing is to say he’s done with me for accusing him and I’m the shady one not him. I’m a homebody and barely go out. He use to be a party animal and It’s hard for him to adapt to being in a long term relationship. We’ve been dating for almost 5 years and for a month he’s fine doesn’t really go out but then it’s like he has this urge to go out and do stuff like this. Please let me know your thoughts and if I’m just wasting my time on this person or I’m overreacting.

[DeltaRecon]

Sounds like he wants to party still. I was like that for many years until I grew out of it. I met my wife a month after I stopped partying very much which was probably a good thing as she probably would not have become my wife if I still was. But if he is still partying and you’re ok with him going out once a month or once a week. Especially if you’re a homebody. Go out with him. He might like that you came with him. Tell him he can only go out if he takes you with him. He might just want out of the house and go do something. Maybe tell him you could both go but he is driving as you will be drinking for the night and then change roles later letting him drink and you drive. Put some responsibility and respect into the relationship and find a positive way to have this bond your relationship closer together. You may not need to go every time as he may just want space to hang with his friends also. That could be a good thing also as it may give you time to relax without him and let you do other things while he is hanging out with friends. Just throwing ideas out there. Rein him in a little and show him you want to have a good time with him also sometimes. It’ll show you are still willing to let him have fun, but want him to also spend more time with you as well.

[Guy13]

Self-absorbed and not relationship friendly material

[SueShe]

His behavior is more than just toxic. It is dangerous and irresponsible, mainly in view of the fact that alcohol is playing an important role in the entire situation.

He was a party animal in the past and that is not likely to change any time soon. He does not tolerate that his girlfriend tells him how to behave because if he abides, he loses his face with his friend and this is something he cannot accept or tolerate.

You will always come second to his parties and your only option is to sever this toxic relation because he is bringing you down. Be wise and listen to reason. There is no need for you to have to live and accept his behavior. He will not change and that means that you will have to adapt to him. That is not how a relation works.

[Iron_Man]

I’m a guy I would only have a girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Yes, I don't own him.