Does a person who wants/accepts sleeping together on the first date lose their value?

Question

Value as in makes for a decent longterm partner choice in your eyes. About both men and women. And how long is your longest relationship?

SphynxUK · Accepted Answer

If someone wants to sleep with me on the first date, fine. They don’t lose their value. It’s about what I want. I wouldn’t see anyone again if we’d slept together on the first date. That’s not what I look for when I’m looking towards long term possibilities.
I could have quite easily slept with my ex partner on the first date, but I already had a strong connection with him, which was apparent when we finally met in person. I wasn’t going to risk it.
And, the longest relationship I had was a 14 year marriage. Technically 23 years if you include the on/off part before we got hitched.

Nata2496 · Accepted Answer

Instantly. I wouldn't sleep with anyone before marriage and I wouldn't marry a man who didn't wait the same for me. I have been with my husband since we were in school, 14 years ago.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

For me, the answer is no, they do not lose their value. I need to know that we are sexually compatible. I have a long, very thick penis that most women find uncomfortable, especially the next day. There was on woman that was in my friend zone for several years. One night we hooked up and had no problems with my size. Apparently, she was a size queen in waiting. We married about two months later. We are still happily married.

Ray1980 · Accepted Answer

Depends on what you're looking for; I hate to say it & makes us men sound bad but there's a train of thought most of us have when it comes to women we will sleep with & women we will marry (wife material). Now I'm honest about my intentions with women to my own detriment at times; most men aren't.

Phoenix-gb · Answer

If it's something that happens organically and neither party feels forced, then it's not something that would change my opinion of the other person. If anything, that we got on and were that into each other that it happened like that would only strengthen my feelings towards the other person.

BossLady16 · Answer

So, I wouldn't... but it's because I think there is a stigma about it. If I'm really interested in a guy I don't want them to get the impression that I just hook up with random people. If a guy tried to hook up on the 1st day i would feel like he did that often and probably would be a red flag.

My longest relationship/marriage just ended of 10 years. We hooked up the first week... ummm made out the first date.

Spongeboblol · Answer

Omg i really love this person but im too horny at the time, i think i can't wait 🤤😂😂 but he said he will marry me , what should i do helppppp, if we will meet in person for the 1st time (LDR)

Anonymous · Answer

With a girl I think it doesn’t matter because if she has to make it a policy then she’s been with too many guys regardless of how many dates they had before sex. The ideal girl has zero reference for what to do, and then it doesn’t matter whether she does or doesn’t with me.

lenxía22 · Answer

If they just sleep together and do nothing, they don't lose any value. But if they have sexual relations before marriage, they have damaged their own values.

Kiss_Me · Answer

Yes. A first date does not know me well enough to have sex. Having sex implies you want them to stick around for a while. I would not even know if I wanted to see them for a second date.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

The straight answer is, no. It actually depends. It depends on how you approach it. If you two automatically + romantically engage with each other and it leads to sex, then it's alright. If you try to force it. That's when you lose it.

Changiis07 · Answer

I wouldn't want to sleep with anyone before marriage. If they love me they can wait

VanillaSalt · Answer

Not necessarily. I would shut her down if she hasn’t put out after several dates but depends on how the sex happens first date… hate drunk sex.

exitseven · Answer

I think it is possible for two people to have a real connection from the first date. Enough of a connection that they have sex and eventually have a loving relationship.

Shamalien · Answer

Yeah if they are willing to fuck on the first date then they have no self control and aren’t relationship material in my opinion

Massageman · Answer

in my opinion, yes.  Longest relationship - about 55 years with my Savior Jesus. Second longest - over 40 with my wife. Third longest - over 35 with my parents.

Emilyis · Answer

Most definitely. I would NEVER sleep with someone on a first date. not even a b/j.

dustybiker · Answer

Unique situations do present themselves. It doesn’t degrade anything when things feel meant to be.

UpdateGloomyNights_ · Answer

Never sleep with someone before marriage. a woman's body value. A man who wants me must wait to marry

WhitneySnow · Answer

I don’t agree that it should, but I’ve noticed that for a lot of people it does

Anonymous · Answer

Depends. If they like each other so much they sleep together and end up long term then it's a valuable thing in life. But still too much of a risk because if it doesn't work you add another number and less partners will want you

BLP11520 · Answer

First date sex? What the heck is wrong with people? Is intimate relations that cheap like a handshake?

Twalli · Answer

If she's willing to wait until I'm read I don't care.

Anonymous · Answer

Women who fuck on the first date lose all long term value.

Paige90 · Answer

If so, I have lost my value!

Anonymous · Answer

Not sure. For long time i believed it now i am hardly looking for girls which fuck on the first date. I am 40

melanieeeB · Answer

Hell no, it takes two to mingle

Irunya41 · Answer

No its a choice as valid as any other

Gloree · Answer

CAPITAL YES. Don't let anyone deceive you.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Sluttier a girl is the less valuable. Absolutely.

Anonymous · Answer

Well that and/or if they have a high body count.

EnglishEuropean · Answer

They're literally cheap, so yes.

Gangactivities911 · Answer

Not to me but to most people I’d say so.

Seinna · Answer

To me yes...

slatyb · Answer

Not to me.

zagor · Answer

Not necessarily.

anylolone · Answer

Not on my standards.

clemdenim · Answer

Nope

Anonymous · Answer

Not to me

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely.

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