What is the worst you have to deal with in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

When it comes to relationships, I’m more likely to break up with a man if he finds body hair a turn off because he’s not the right guy for me. To me true love isn’t about being turn off about physical appearance but it’s about acceptance and being fine with it. It’s easy to break up with someone if you find out he expects you to change your physical appearance but it’s way harder to know if the partner you’re in a relationship with is abusive or is a cheater. I’m able to tell if a guy is lying without any problems when talking face to face. I read horror stories on newspapers about how a woman thought she found the one only to be beat up and shouted at. Divorces happened because of cheating and not being compatible.

Cheating

Lying

Abusive partners

Unrealistic preferences or expectations

Parent is not understanding or caring

Others

All of the above

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[Anonymous]

You can do what you want with your body. But the reality is that most men prefer smooth bodies because it looks more feminine. I know that pisses you off to hear that but that’s the truth.

There is a minority of guys out there who don’t mind hairy girls. I’m sure it’s not too hard to find one. But I am seeing this bullshit push by feminists who are trying to shame male attraction preferences (overweight women are pushing this crap too).

At least you have an issue that can be easily resolved. Men often get rejected over things that are extremely difficult (being wealthy) or impossible (being tall) to control. All you have yo is buy a razor, shaving cream and take 15 minutes to shave. But you don’t even want to do that. Well best of luck.

[Asker]

I will definitely find one who doesn’t seem to mind because to me a quality man is one who doesn’t care about physical appearance and that is hard to find and I will treasure him way more.

[Asker]

I personally don’t care about wealth, or if he’s over 178cm tall. I just want a man who is good, and I don’t expect much from him therefore I will expect him to accept me for who I’m.

[Asker]

It’s only fair if he didn’t expect too much from me and knows how to treat me with respect, is faithful, understanding, caring and is not afraid to be honest with what he wants. I am willing to give him the same treatment too, I have seen some loving couples accepting each other’s flaws and I was brought up in a family where my mom and dad are accepting of each other no matter what.

[Opinion Owner]

“ I will definitely find one who doesn’t seem to mind because to me a quality man is one who doesn’t care about physical appearance”

In an ideal perfect world that would be nice. But honestly you see assuming men think the same way you do. It’s been going to be rough going until you discover otherwise.

Yes looks aren’t every thing. I would much prefer a semi attractive woman with an awesome personality vs a hot one with a shitty personality. But looks DO matter. They are a piece of the puzzle but a big piece nonetheless. Your partner will want to feel excited about getting in bed with you.

You don’t want to shave? Fine. The more power to you. But don’t be surprised if this narrows your options a bit. Men are not “forcing” women to shave. But they do have preferences.

It is not superficial to prefer a smooth legged and armpitted woman. She doesn’t have to shave every day either. Once a week is fine with me.

[Asker]

Some men even though I they preferred shaved they will not leave their partners even if they don’t shave, some will leave and others have no preferences. I will feel safe if the guy I’m dating has no preferences and is fine with anything so I won’t have to worry about him breaking up with me or cheating on me. That’s why after a month of dating I will ask him what is his preferences if he preferred shaved I will tell him we are not compatible and he should find another woman who matches his preferences so me and him will benefit from the breakup. Even though I hate beards, I know it sounds shallow but I will still date and marry a man with a short beard because if he’s a good man why not? If he earns $1.5k a month I will not mind at all because I’m not planning to have kids. If I want kids I have to marry a man who earns double my salary, due to the fact raising a child is expensive as hell. When I was very young I was very shallow and expect way too much from a guy. As I turned 21, I realised all these things I expected were not necessary. I wouldn’t demand him to shave, but I will let him choose what he wants to do with his beard. Some guys chose to shave off their beards because they hate growing a beard or maybe it’s because of work or it’s a burden to them.

[Asker]

I have seen so many women around my age wanting to marry a rich man so they can show off to their girl buddies about how lucky they’re. I read some sad stories from men where the women they loved dumped them for richer men. In Asia countries like Singapore and China, many women these days unfortunately want to lead a high life so they can have a collection of handbags, jewellery, clothing, etc. Even women these days want to date a white guy so they can have beautiful mixed kids and to show off to people. What’s your country women like?

[Asker]

I do agree appearance does matter but it shouldn’t matter too much to me when I’m picking a life partner. Everyone is different based on my experience.

[Opinion Owner]

Funny I’m white and I dated a young Asian woman a few years ago. She didn’t like facial hair and yes I shaved just for her even though beards were in at the time. I didn’t care because she did things I liked. For example she had this sexy school girl uniform and she would sometimes wear it. That drove me wild. I made adjustments for her just as she did for me. Sometimes you DO make adjustments for your partner. Just as long they aren’t onerous (and at most an inconvenience) it’s worth just as long as your partner reciprocates which I have a will.

Then I had a fling with a young white girl a year ago. The second time we hooked up I noticed her legs were bristly. She hadn’t shaved in at least week. I didn’t say anything but tbh it put a big dampener on the experience. I didn’t like the feeling of her leg hairs rubbing against my body. I didn’t go down on her even though I did the first time.

So later I very carefully asked her if she could please be smooth while we planned to might up again. She wigged the f*ck out despite me being polite about it. We never met up again.

But it’s this f*cking attitude that men having preferences is somehow “sexist” that modern women are pushing is what driving men nuts. You don’t see men complaining about things women want that they can control (e. g. being well dressed). We only complain about things that are very hard to control that women have unrealistic expectations for. Not saying you are like that but a lot of women really are. It’s ridiculous.

[Asker]

Does society take the feminists’ side?

[Opinion Owner]

It does for sure nowadays.

[Asker]

It’s very messed up that society doesn’t care much about men. In my country the law is going to change to protect men too but it’s only after they received so many men voicing out their bad experiences. If the girl you’re dating doesn’t expect you to shave or look good, will you expect her to shave?

[Anonymous]

Good luck finding a good man who isn't put off by your body hair. There are very few guys now who will tolerate it. I know I won't.

To answer your question, cheating is the worst thing I've had to deal with. I broke up with her because she cheated with an ex and I found out months later that she had also cheated on me with her boss.

[Anonymous]

Thankfully I have no experiences with cheating but I’ve dealt with someone who was stringing me along for years while he was constantly giving me false hope and was overall indecisive about me (still hung up on his ex) but not allowing me to leave (he’ll threaten me with suicide if I were to leave him…)

[CuriousMufuxka]

D. Bullshit promises and retarded expectations. Preferences I've learned to deal with.

[Cowboy6666]

I think cheating, but the first 4 options are most common these days.

[Wise4myage]

Its cheating to me.