I’ve been with him for 15 months. When we went out on dates before he was never like that. He makes more money than I do, he works at a restaurant so gets tips on top of his wage. I only make minimum wage working at a retail store.
@bademoxy you might find it interesting but there was an economic theory that if a place has a hot water/waitress, chances are, the economy is going to crash as attractive individuals tend to get better jobs
No I don't think it should be that way always. I think the person who asked the other person out should take on the responsibility of payment. But let's face it we're all on a budget of some type so if it's a 50/50 split sometimes that's cool
It's quite common as the meals can be expensive. Never done that though. But I can see myself doing that if I was in an expensive country. (My country used to be an inexpensive country, but not nowadays)
The person who asks the other out should pay unless there is a prior arrangement. I am the sole breadwinner in our marriage so I naturally pay but I can see taking turns or some such.
I prefere to go dutch. Is this not a common thing in america since it is western? I only know that in Asian/middleeastern countries men are expected to pay.
I think it depends on how well you know each other and the culture where you live. Here we usually pay for ourselves and if you know someone well, you/they could suggest paying.
No, but the financial means of each may mean that one or the other may pay or they could each pay for themselves, one of the old school thoughts I still hold onto is the guy usually pays for both. or the asker of the date pays for both.
Ehh, technically it falls to whoever made the plans. But chivalry is still alive and well. And guys are so sensitive to being over eager, or not seeming like a dickhead. We walk the razors edge for you biatches.
If you work and make a somewhat similar pay ofc you should split the bill. The whole point of the man paying is because women didn't work or if they did were severely underemployed. If you dont want to pay consider being a homemaker.
Fuck no. At the same time, if you insist hardcore, nope. You still aren't paying. Agree to disagree. You want to pay, then I probably know you are hardcore something I don't want to deal with.
Then what happens if the woman out earns when things get serious? The woman wears the pants. It's a situation that I have seen, not sure I could take that hit. People do it all the time.
Ha! You two will breakup before the end of the two weeks. Once you realize how much it costs to have a girlfriend you will run to find another man who will pay for everything.
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It depends. How is his financial condition? Or maybe he was hurt before by a gold digger and is being cautious...
I’ve been with him for 15 months. When we went out on dates before he was never like that. He makes more money than I do, he works at a restaurant so gets tips on top of his wage. I only make minimum wage working at a retail store.
Ask him straightforward: "i have been seeing that we are paying our bills these days. Is everything alright?" *Lean on him*
newsflash 4 U - attractive women get WAY more tips than guys do waiting on tables.
I know someone who knows someone a hot waitress in an upscale restaurant who gets over
$400 in tips PER NIGHT.
@bademoxy you might find it interesting but there was an economic theory that if a place has a hot water/waitress, chances are, the economy is going to crash as attractive individuals tend to get better jobs
Hope this serves as a food for thought
No I don't think it should be that way always. I think the person who asked the other person out should take on the responsibility of payment. But let's face it we're all on a budget of some type so if it's a 50/50 split sometimes that's cool
If the guy takes her out, he pays.
If she takes him out, he pays.
If one offers and cannot pay, it needs to be communicated beforehand.
It's quite common as the meals can be expensive. Never done that though. But I can see myself doing that if I was in an expensive country. (My country used to be an inexpensive country, but not nowadays)
The person who asks the other out should pay unless there is a prior arrangement. I am the sole breadwinner in our marriage so I naturally pay but I can see taking turns or some such.
I prefere to go dutch. Is this not a common thing in america since it is western? I only know that in Asian/middleeastern countries men are expected to pay.
Thank you
Both men and women should be willing to pay their share. If the other person offers to pay, you're free to accept. That's my opinion anyways.
Talk with the person you are with. Figure out your own plan for new relationships. Pay for yourself, or pay all and rotate each time.
I think it depends on how well you know each other and the culture where you live. Here we usually pay for ourselves and if you know someone well, you/they could suggest paying.
I’m a guy I always pay for dates, but I would feel like crap if I made her pay for a date (Unless she’s a millionaire then I won’t really care)
Understand your boyfriend is probably as young as you are.
He doesn't have money to pay for dates for two people and a meal also every two weeks.
Be reasonable. Help him out unless you know he comes from a rich family.
No, but the financial means of each may mean that one or the other may pay or they could each pay for themselves, one of the old school thoughts I still hold onto is the guy usually pays for both. or the asker of the date pays for both.
Ehh, technically it falls to whoever made the plans. But chivalry is still alive and well. And guys are so sensitive to being over eager, or not seeming like a dickhead. We walk the razors edge for you biatches.
If you work and make a somewhat similar pay ofc you should split the bill. The whole point of the man paying is because women didn't work or if they did were severely underemployed. If you dont want to pay consider being a homemaker.
Fuck no. At the same time, if you insist hardcore, nope. You still aren't paying. Agree to disagree. You want to pay, then I probably know you are hardcore something I don't want to deal with.
Then what happens if the woman out earns when things get serious? The woman wears the pants. It's a situation that I have seen, not sure I could take that hit. People do it all the time.
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No, she should never have to pay anything, on any date, period. The guy should always pay.
I have a son your age and he wouldn't even think to ask the girl to pay. He'd be embarrassed.
A real man will always offer to pay. Don't settle for some mf that takes you out then makes you pay.
I don't know my exes paid for me but I tipped the bill, it was for legal reasons and logic reasons as well
Ha! You two will breakup before the end of the two weeks. Once you realize how much it costs to have a girlfriend you will run to find another man who will pay for everything.