Does a guy flirt with another girl in front of you?

[Anonymous]

Because he wants you to be jealous, or that he wants you to go away? I started to ignore him and another girl and to my surprise he reacted and tried to get my attention. Since this had been going on for MONTHS, I decides to keep to it. He didn't text, just tried to talk to me in person while the other girl just kept throwing herself at him. It then became awkward and we stopped talking. After about a month, I cracked and said hello, beginning last week. We even text a little. Now, he Really flirts with her. We were talking last week and he mumbled something and wouldn't repeat it, when I kept trying he changed the subject and called the girl over, randomly talking about how the should just travel the US together, just him and her. He then glanced at me after he said it. Two nights ago we were texting fine; I text him and responded just fine. Last night I went in and he pretended not to know me, wouldn't speak or look at me. Right in front of me he starts showing the girl his phone and his texts to his family "something he doesn't show anyone." of course, her being mean, laughed like it was the funniest thing in the world. Of course he didn't show me. Also, he told her he wanted to see her necklace (she's worn it thousands of times) and that she needed to come closer. So of course, right next to me, she leans in front of him and he stares at it. She leans lower and closer asking him if he likes it. If he knew what it was. So she just leans, and says he really likes the necklace. No idea.

You see, every time he and I have a good conversation, she interrupts even to the point of texting him just 6 ft away. She's always trying to distract him by telling him something dirty. I don't understand why he does that in front of me. Yea so I ignores him for a month but then why act like this? Why text w me? Is he trying to tell me to go away or make me jealous as pay back?

[Anonymous]

You're the nickname girl.

You were on the site months ago, wondering if this guy liked you. You gave us all the relevant details, about how he had this nickname for you, and not for this other girl who was clearly throwing herself at him. All that stuff.

If I remember rightly, practically everyone said he liked you and you should go for it.

Not, you should sit on your ass and wait for him to make a move. It was obvious that was never gonna happen.

So... months later, and apparently, you're now all confused.

Well, let's clear it up for you then.

He liked you. You knew he liked you.

You did exactly nothing with this information.

You gave no sign (that he could see) that you were interested in him.

So now, he has reluctantly, turned his attention towards a more receptive girl.

She has *no* trouble letting him know how she feels about him.

You can disparage her all you like, but at least she is not a coward.

He is now in the position of moving away from you. He can see that this annoys you sometimes, and is wondering to himself why you're annoyed, since you clearly (in his eyes) are not interested in him.

Anger with no reason behind it, makes him angry too. So you both cold shoulder each other. But he's more confused than you are. He never knew how you felt.

You were told repeatedly how he felt.

If anyone has a right to be confused here, it's him.

And if anyone has a right to date the poor sap, it's the girl who made it obvious she liked him.

Please don't be back in another 6 months, asking how is it fair that they got engaged, when you saw him first, etc... etc.. etc...

[Asker]

I told him the past that I missed him, I even told him that I missed my nickname yet for some reason he couldn't promise me anything, never made time to hang out. I tried. So, I was mad, started to ignore simply to say "you want her? You can have her." and when he freaked out after I ignored him, I was confused. I tried moving on, even hung out w a guy there, he was upset. If he's not willing to give, what am I suppose to do? Beg? It's ridiculous that he does this to get under my skin

[Anonymous]

Is it possible that he likes her instead of you? :/ Or else he liked you before but his attention went to her because you ignored him in the past?

[Asker]

I think it may be both. I just don't understand. He calls me by a nickname, she whines that she doesn't have one. If I text him, we'll have a good convo then 2 days later ignore me? Like I said , I ignored him, all of last month and part of this month. I tried until half way through, then it got weird and we ignored each other. I tried to be nice and now it feels like its being shoved in my face.

[Opinion Owner]

Wow, the guy's weird. Talk about mixed signals. Does he always check how you would react if he flirts with the other girl?

[Asker]

Yes, last night no. Ouch. It's like he didn't have to.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe he's attracted to the two of you (although I can't imagine how someone can get attracted to the other girl, since she sounds like a ditz :/). Or maybe he's a player who likes the attention he's getting.

[Asker]

He definitely likes the attention he gets. It sucks, I'm insecure, he's insecure. This girl use to be a friend too. She has cheated w every guy Shea been w. I care for him and think he's a good guy. But, I have tried everything and it's practically impossible to since she's always around. She's going to destroy him. I know this 100% and it sucks. I can't force him to go out , and I don't know why he never made an effort. So now, he shoves it in my face

[JennieF]

That has happened.