Why would a guy checkout another girl and flirt over his girlfriend's shoulder?

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Im am at work and a couple start walking to self checkout. The man see me and then literally does a triple take. I simply smile and nod as I walk around them to my station. At that point I didn't think much of it.
I was leaning back against the half wall at my work station and front of my body facing the self checkout. I was arching my back with my neck ached back looking towards the ceiling in a good stretch. I got the sense of being watched so I lower my head to find the same man checking me out. I'll be honest I blushed. he was checking out my chest. When he saw me he looked away but not before smiling. He had a gleam to his look which couldn't be anything else but flirtatious. I looked towards his girlfriend to see if she noticed but she had her back to him. As she checked out and bagged I kept catching him checking me out. Each time he get caught he give that same "sexy" smile (I wouldn't call him sexy. More simple looking not unpleasant though). Finally I became bolder (not because I liked him but because I was tired of the game) and I gave it back to him. A full on flirtatious smile with a wink with a raise of the eyebrow. It worked he was taken aback and panic went over him as he turned towards the girl to see if she noticed. She had not. From then until the girl finshed I could see him out the corner of my eye continue to check me out. If I looked at him he'd look elsewhere. As they left the girlfriend stopped by my station to ask something about our sales. He kept looking at me as she and I spoke. Then she bid me goodnight and he did the same but with another one of those smolders.
I honestly didn't know what to think.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I definitely check out exceptionally pretty figures, even in front of my wife. Some sights are just eye candy. But I would never flirt or make my attention obvious to the object of my gaze. I wouldn't be creepy or make them uncomfortable.

My wife gets it. It amuses her. She knows I'm loyal and love her completely.

Sometimes she'll even give me a nudge to call my attention to a particularly nice ass or set of well-displayed boobs.

Walking together at the beach, I'll gaze if a pretty girl in a bikini sashays past on roller skates on the bike path or if bouncy babes are playing volleyball or something.

One time we were on a ferry in San Francisco Bay. A sail boat passed very nearby and my wife pointed to the two girls on the sailboat who lifted their tops to flash the passengers on our boat.

Last summer, we went into a frozen yogurt shop. A small group of older teens was in line in front of us and one girl was wearing a beach cover that only covered the top half of her ass. She must have been wearing a thong, because it looked like her smooth, round ass was bare. My wife and I both noticed and looked at each other with amusement. Since I was right behind the girl, I reached out and made a gesture like I was squeezing that soft, plump bottom.

For me, appreciating the sight beautiful women is no different than appreciating anything else - flowers, puppies, beautiful art, landscapes, sunsets. Why not enjoy? I don't have to possess those things to find them delightful. They are things that make it a joy to be alive.

I have to mention that my wife appreciates the sight of hot guys, too. And there are certain actors that she has a thing for.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

probably he just found you sexy and worth to check out, which he did... and he probably has done it before a few times, knows how to do it without getting caught by the girlfriend

now, the moment you started to flirt... he seemed to be caught by surprise, and didn't fully engage on flirting back, probably not used to that at all, had not encounter MeetKitty before... lol

then he just went with the flow of the moment, unsure of what was going on... lol

PinkMichae · Accepted Answer

Just because people are in relationships doesn't mean they can help looking when they notice someone attractive. It doesn't sound like he flirted with you at all. Just because he looked or even smiled, that only means he looked at you and it made him feel happy.

If I noticed an attractive man I'd probably do a double take and smile. Doesn't mean I love my husband any less or don't think he's attractive. Trust me when I said no man can be as attractive as he is to me. We both notice attractive women at times and comment to each other about it.

I guess I just feel really secure with my husband and feel no matter how attractive he finds another woman, she can't turn him on or have his heart like I do.

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

Some relationships can tolerate the looking and even flirting if there's good enough trust and communication.

But it sounds like this guy was just enjoying a free show, but panicked when the realization hit he wasn't in the clear and was close to being found out by the girlfriend.

So simple minded guy whose looks match his brain.

PastorJohn69 · Answer

Simple.
He's an asshole. He untrustworthy, he has issues about himself rather he admits it or not.
He is in search for self gratification and that's what is makes his world go around.
Selfish, childish, and pretty freakin rude.
Especially in this day and age, if a man has a woman's attention and she is a good woman, then he is is the biggest fool on the planet..
This goes for women too. its getting harder and harder to find a good loyal person.
If he's a dirtleg in the beginning, he'll be far worse later in life. Never settle. Be true to yourself. The right person will be attentive with asking them to be.
The person will only have eyes for you.

Bluemax · Answer

When I was with my wife, it was as though no other women existed that way when I was in her presence. I know that's corny, but it's true. Especially when I first met her.

Obviously I could see other women. Obviously I knew they were beautiful. But they paled in comparison.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Sounds like their relationship is not THAT committed! Guys like to look and that doesn't mean much but this guy was using his facial expressions to convey his interest; that went too far. His girlfriend will realize this soon enough.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

He checks out and flirts with other girls over his girlfriend's shoulder cause he knows he can get away with it and he's that typical guy who does those things if I had a girlfriend I wouldn't do those things cause it's not fair

EmyyWolf · Answer

Men are DOGS and wired to sleep with as many women as they can. Women are meant to sleep with as many “ATTRACTIVE” men as they can in one night.

Anonymous · Answer

I think looking at others and that is bound to occur. And it's about trusting your partner that they are only looking. Tho I think flirting isn't acceptable when in a relationship. I knkwk I wouldn't check other women out. But you will always notice things like if they are attractive or things like that I would say it's just what happens.

I'm not great with words but all in really trying to say is there is things that happen and yih can't control. But limit and things you can control like flirting. I don't know if this makes sense but I hope it does.

Not that I know what flirting is. Tho, how can you tell what is and isn't?

humpbackjack · Answer

Because he’s an asshole and doesn’t respect her or care about her feelings I say this only because of how he went about it. I mean him being sneaky about it especially with her right there and she didn’t seem down with it just shows he can’t be trusted. He’s the kinda guy that will hook up with a chick chick behind his girls back and steal the hook ups phone or money out of her purse after he’s done messing around

baserunner611 · Answer

Because one, they're into the girlfriend in addition to that. My father always tells me one thing if you are on a date with a girl and start to check out other girls; you don't care for that girl. I found out he was right. I don't care for the girl I was with

It would help if you found another girl

Guardian45 · Answer

Perhaps, they fought and he was in the doghouse and getting the cold shoulder from his SO. Maybe he was feeling frisky and thought he'd be his normal dogself.

Lots of guys are like this. I would have paid money to see what would have happened if she had caught him giving you the eye. I'm willing to bet he would have backed down real quick!🤣🤪👍

Dinklex3 · Answer

It's possible that they weren't in a committed relationship.
It's possible that kind of behavior is acceptable between them.
And it's possible that he just might be an ass 🤷🏾‍♀️
Who knows. Seems kinda high-schoolish.

dustybiker · Answer

I would so throw him under the bus if the girlfriend and caught him. Embarrass the hell out of him by making it even bigger than it was. lol I would have fun.

Xtendable · Answer

Sounds like he enjoyed the game. Makes me wonder though if he’ll visit the store without her in future…

Biancam13 · Answer

Because he doesn’t respect the girl he’s with, and/or he’s trying to diminish the girl he’s with’s self esteem

sage2021 · Answer

He's a creep, a 🐖 pig and a snake🐍! I would be very upset if my boyfriend did that behind my back or otherwise.

Anonymous · Answer

Because he's a douchebag, the typical type a lot of women go for.

Flower7 · Answer

He doesn’t value his relationship. And he has little respect for his girlfriend.

ScoobyNECBir · Answer

Just because he’s taken don’t mean he stopped finding other women sexy

Ned1988 · Answer

He is just checking the menu... that doesn't mean he is gonna eat

Tstrbrainer · Answer

How are you sure that she was his girlfriend? Maybe it's just friends with benefits

Lookingforthetruth · Answer

to show the woman he can still easily replace her

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