The outcome is the same so i dont know if its just a different way to look at things or if im sociopathic. I feel like it might be impacting my relationships because as of now i have never really dated anyone, i have had a bunch of first dates but never second or third.
I dont think its super extreme like i dont force people to do things i want them to do, or at least i dont think i force them.
My way of thinking goes like this:
Ok i like this girl, so i must do whatever will make her like me.
When we go out i will take her to a place she mentioned she liked, not so i can make her happy but so that she likes me for taking her there.
Or if i am to give her a gift i will do it because she will like me more if i give her something she likes. (And no i dont give a lot of gifts i dont think i have ever gifted someone anything ever just if i am to gift something i will do it for that reason).
My core thought process is like this: I am happy if she likes me, if she is happy or not does not matter as long as she likes me. I will do things that make her "happy" in a way but not because i want her to be happy.
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