When a guy says this does it mean that he’d just rather spend time alone that day?

[xJayleenx]

I told him that I might need some time to relax on Sunday because yesterday during work I was feeling very exhausted with a major headache and I was forcing myself to work but that I was still thinking about it. And he texted me this morning saying “it’s up to you baby if you need to recharge on Sunday. I’m perfectly fine with it.” He also said last night that he wanted to prep for his classes on Sunday anyways. Is this guy code for you should just stay home? Lol. For me I don’t like canceling plans throughout all these years I’ve only canceled twice because I hate it and love being with him so I don’t think I’ll cancel on Sunday at all.

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1 y

I still hung out with him ❤️

[NathanDavis]

I think you should not overthink about this...

you told him that you would take the Sunday to relax on your own...

and he said he was okay with it... and it seems to me like he is already adjusting his schedule, it does not sound like he prefers to be alone, he is just planning to be more efficient with his studies and other stuff he has to do

so, I think it would be nice if you go with the original plan... take some rest and relax, and let him get busy with those things as he probably has it planned already

if you surprise him and change plans again, last minute and without telling him... you could just ruin both plans, his schedule will be messed up and you won't be relaxed about that either... lol, so don't twist things in your mind...

[xJayleenx]

I told him that i was thinking about staying but I wasn’t sure. Lately he’s been texting me less and less it’s been bugging me like not eben a good night and it’s worse now that he’s with a friend and im just waiting for him to text me about how he is and trying to be understanding. I wish I had a friend bug besides my boyfriend nobody likes me and i have social anxiety. I did try to make friends but nothing worked out everyone sucks

[xJayleenx]

I even gave the girl who cursed me out a chance and she’s just lying to me barely texting me and keeping secrets from me. So giving her a chance and unblocking her was for nothing.

[NathanDavis]

I don't think everyone sucks...

[xJayleenx]

And her texting is so dry. I just wish I had a friend I have no luck and feel like I’m meant to be alone in this world. I am working so much too

[xJayleenx]

Every female I've met kinda does

[NathanDavis]

what about school and work... do you have acquaintances there?

[xJayleenx]

They all seem to have different lives from me at work everyone is older, some have kids, or we might have some kind of personality barrier. I take school online but when i took in person no one talked to each other in class.

[xJayleenx]

I tried bumble friends online twice nothing worked out i just have more snapchat contacts but no successful hang outs not anyone i would consider a friend

[NathanDavis]

will you ever return to regular classes in college?

[xJayleenx]

Yes during the fall

[NathanDavis]

well... then I think that could be a good chance to really try and go for it...

[ohshee]

It just shows who you really are and I think that's cool the girls have to go through a lot of stuff for a guy when the guys should have just said okay cool maybe later on you can come over for dinner or something I think it's cool that you're that type of person is it the same time guys have to think about what you said and why you said it instead of thinking about themselves

[xJayleenx]

Yes it’s the same guy we’ve been together for over two years

[ohshee]

Well I hope that he understands and sees how much you like him in the distance that you will go to make you happy

[jennifer_bloom]

Based on what you said - it sounds like he prefers to hang out with you but does not want to be a bad boyfriend by inviting you to hang out when you’ve expressed health issues that make you want to relax and take care of yourself. It sounds like he wants to see you but does not want to interfere with your healing and rest. I will say take time off if you need to relax, your boyfriend will probably understand if he is reasonable.

[Andres77]

This is part of the partnership. Feeling what the other feels. Having empathy but that empathy becomes more finely tuned towards your partner.
For me... it was realizing that I did not own her, nor did she own me.
At some point I simply had to trust her.
AND... I had to love myself enough not to be worried.
If one needs time to relax and recuperate then so be it.
It took me a long time to figure this out.
And once I did... everything was better.

[xJayleenx]

I think I’ll be okay because I’ll take my time to relax today and tomorrow I’ll be with him and relax as well. I already feel better than yesterday today

[TheLoneTerran]

He's giving you the green light to recharge and have some time to yourself. I don't believe there's a much deeper meaning behind it. Enjoy your time off!

[ChiTown33]

It means he's putting your well being ahead of his own feelings. Don't overthink it. Just reward good behaviour.

[888theGreat]

it means you can't make you mind up and as nothing to do with him

[Deku2009]

Yeah because he cares for your well being should come first

[RuthlessAggression]

If he's saying he needs the day then give him the day

I wouldn't like an overbearing girl

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

He said it's up to you so think it over

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@xjayleenx Awe <3