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"Why is it that every guy I date doesn't give me the kind of treatment I deserve?"
"Why do men just do whatever they want and not care about how I feel?"
So... As I understand these to remarks you want a guy to care for what you want but you don't care for what he wants and won't even allow him the freedom to do as he please.
You're right. If you got to decide both what you get out of a relationship and what to put in relationships would be VERY easy.
Thing is both must be happy in a relationship and if you can't keep a man happy perhaps it's YOU that's wrong.
Because most women have unrealistic expectations. It starts with them wanting the guy they want the doesn't necessarily want them. She wants to take but not give. Her feelings matter but his really doesn't. She can ignore him but he has to hang on her every word
A guy that tolerates this? Doesn't exist!
That's why relationships are so difficult.
Show a little bit of love, faith and compassion and you'll be amazed how your fortune will change. Or stick with what you're doing. Y'knoe cause that's working so well.🙂
Hope that helps.
Too many women ask for literal perfection while offering next to nothing in return (aside from problems), and too many men are simps and put up with awful behavior from entitled women. No one actually wants a relationship anymore. It's simple.
Relationships are naturally difficult on their own because no matter how close and connected you are, you have two different possibilities with different prospectives.
But it has become much more difficult with the modern wworld. There is so much outside stress that people are going through that negatively effect relationships,, and because of modern upbringing relationships have become a disposable commodity instead of something that is actually important.
People need to change and restore some old-fashioned commitment in relationships.
Commitment is borne of necessity. Men have really never needed women for anything other than breeding sons, and modern women are deluded into thinking they don't need men to survive. You can't make a stable relationship out of that.
you women are only attracted to like 10 to 15% of the male population studies have shown this
so you girls are all chasing the same guys
well if you are all chasing the guys
thats means the guy has girls hitting on him all the time
why should he settle for you?
WHAT MAKES YOU SO SPECIAL?
2 options
either lower your standards
or join his little harem of girls
your choice
do not worry I know the answer
You answered your own question.
”Why is it that every guy I date doesn't give me the kind of treatment I deserve?”
Unrealistic Female expectations are why dating is impossible. Women think the things they want are normal but they are ever changing, increasingly more and more demanding, suffocating, controlling, etc.
Men want to live their lives, not be controlled and expected to do shit to appease some entitled diva who believe that a man has to be her subservient puppet in order to be “decent”
Be very accurate in the way you judge. Then you can be optimistic and kind and as hopeful as you wanna be.. : )
Maybe a lot of people do it the other way around, we don't judge and something happens and (then) we judge and we end up hurting us and others
Remember YOU have the luxury to see yes or no to men who approach you. You get to agree to the first date, first kiss, first night in bed and so forth.
Maybe it’s time to do some self reflection on what you keep on accepting vs. what you ignore or turn down.
I’ll give you the real answer. Most men want sex. Because men are conditioned to be emotionless. And gee who do you think is the reason for that? Women will find it attractive one minute when a guy is not so attracted to them, and then the next minute They’ll wonder why their being ignored. Most women beat around the bush and are not direct. Game playing, ego boosting, etc etc. So most men have gotten tired and went to the good ol hookup club. Why deal with a women and her bull shit when you can bang and leave. And this is why relationships are gonna die sooner or later. Instant gratification is all it is. Ofcourse you’ll have a select few men who actually want to be emotionally connected. But that’s a select few so 🤣
We have found the virgin everyone.
@Lookingforthetruth did your bitch get stolen by a virgin? It’s ok there’s plenty in the sea. I’m sure I don’t have to educate a 30 something year old about that…
my bitches don't date virgins. Sorry brah.
@Lookingforthetruth what do you have against virgins lmao. A massive hate boner. Are virgins supposed to be jealous of a 30 year old like yourself. Do you feel revered as a god? 🤣 Are you hurt by my statement that women are only fucking tools and nothing else. You seem triggered by something.
@Lookingforthetruth why are you taking sloppy seconds when you can find fresh fish in sea.
Your response is telling of your virginity lol.
I have to believe that there are still good people out there. I am older and have been out of the dating game for a long time but I can remember being sick of dating and after dating a bunch of different people during a year I was ready to give up on it for a while or maybe forever. Ironically the very next day I met my future wife. I was 24 years old by the way.
nowadays there are people in their 40s who still have not found a right partner.
I myself gave up on relationships a while ago, to me relationships are obsolete and have no meaning in today's world because apparently most think relationships is all about sex only while women only think its all about them getting the princess treatment they think they're entitled too.
"Why is it that every guy I date doesn't give me the kind of treatment I deserve?"
It might be because of your apparent arrogance.
The treatment you actually get is the treatment you choose to start with. Try revising your selection criteria and don't just concentrate on outward appearances as you undoubtedly have been doing, and things might get better.
First you ARE NOT ALONE!
Second learn to be alone. That is right. learn to love your own company and invest in yourself. Figure out who you want to be. Have goals and reach for them. Hang around people who are that way and do those things. Guess what? You will likely find some one in that crowd who wants to join you.
Relationships are not hard, relationships make life easier, whats hard is finding a match because too many people have a self defeating mindset, inflated egos, crippling fears, and an assuming nature.
You gotta be honest and vulnerable, or you won't find anyone you enjoy enjoy time with, and most people are guarded liars, even to themselves.
And here is your gaurded lie:
"Why is it that every guy I date doesn't give me the kind of treatment I deserve?
Why do men just do whatever they want and not care about how I feel?"
Because YOU pick men based on criteria that doesn't fit your needs.
My date from Saturday picked her new Xbox and her new 4K tv over me. She texted me a few hrs before when she was supposed to come. I have migraines and A stiff neck. Yeah… She was up all night playing halo on her new xbox and watching 4k tv 🙄. Guys be careful with females gamers. You want Active female gamers not super lazy female gamers. Make sure your female gamer has a Active job like she moves her butt all day then sitting on a chair all day eating donuts.
There is a lot of selfishness in the world. What can I get? There were times when I was single I would have liked to buy a young lady some pie and sit and talk for an hour just to hear her viewpoint and not man stuff. I was 25 when I got engaged, what i see now is people are getting serious later...28- 30 ish. I don't get it. It seems that guys want to "play" and not find good young ladies. Not concerned with maturing. My sons are 25 and 29 unmarried. The oldest is all over the place in what he wants? Don't give up. I was rejected because of $ and crappy cars back in the day... dating was not that much fun for me. Woman were picky before I got married...
Lol at this beta.
Women are actively choosing to sleep with the most attractive men in their youth and only give betas a chance as they approach their 30's. It why so many women freak out about turning 30 and why the average age for marriage is between 29-31. Women are the ones doing this not men.
That all is pretty rough don't get me wrong. But a relationship itself is work. It's not something that is perfect simply because it happens. It is still dependant on two different individuals. People change all through their lives to some degree. A good long lasting relationship is something that requires both people to put effort into.
If you don't put attention to how close or equal are the values you got, with the person you're dating; you'll keep tripping with the same rock.
Is not the end of the world. Not saying you shouldn't feel down (is a natural reaction after failed expectations). Just remember, it couldn't be better than what it was and it will never be the same like before. You got a wide open road for yourself. Better know where are you going.
It's not easy, but I fully believe that there is someone out there for everyone. The off chance you will find that one person in over 7 billion people is small, but small odds are better than none. FYI, I didn't have any relationships before 27, and I know a guy who at 33 hadn't had any. So you're found people who feel some attraction to you at 25, we didn't.
Finding someone and the right person is extremely hard. But if it's right and the right person, the actual relationship shouldn't be hard at all in my opinion. It should just flow naturally and easily. But finding that is very hard. But to make it easier, I think that's what you want to be looking for when you meet someone new.