Why are relationships so hard? (Page 2)

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I am just sitting here, mourning my last relationship and every experience I've ever been through.  Why does it seem so hard to meet someone you're attracted to, and then for both of you to take the time and effort to learn about each other and what feels good and what triggers you, and then actually implementing that into the relationship and communicating?  Why is it that every guy I date doesn't give me the kind of treatment I deserve? Why do men just do whatever they want and not care about how I feel? Not answering texts until hours later, acting like they possess me, giving me the silent treatment...  I just feel so hurt. Nobody warned me about just how tough dating with the intention of marriage really is. I wish I had known because I would've avoided everybody. I am not far from being 25 years old and have not met a single decent man in my life. How do people even go into happy relationships and date someone that makes them feel good about themselves rather than shitty?

one2many · Answer

Hello, your still young... to be falling in love... Save that for when your 30... Remember , get a good job... Career.. you'll find love. It's not time yet. Good luck

red324 · Answer

Because girls get turned off at the blink of an eye? I'm not a mind reader, if you don't like something I do say so and I can make a note of it to try and not do it again.

zagor · Answer

Where are you meeting these men? Have you considered trying something different?

jasco · Answer

It takes time and enegry to get a good relationship. It takes time to find someone good for you. You just gotta keeping looking. I know plenty of friends who are in good relationships.

WhitneySnow · Answer

You just have to pick the right person. Trust your intuition.

DermalPunch · Answer

Because the rewards are big apnd it's hard to find.

Anonymous · Answer

Be glad that as a woman you don't have to approach a guy or ask a guy out

IsoUser · Answer

Any relationship takes a somewhat of a give and take compromise on feelings, emotions, and to be perfectly honest finding somewhat of a common ground to build upon.

noohair · Answer

I think that perceptions have changed. Everyone want perfect. And perfect does not exist. People used to accept the flaws of the other. I don't see that happening anymore.

Paul09 · Answer

Well because right now, you are dating boys, not men. Way easier for women. But women usually choose to hook up with bad boys. You are still young, don't worry so much.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

Because it's supposed to be hard. If it was easy to find someone that you could love around every corner everyone would be happy. But to find someone whose personality matches yours is hard.

2021biguy · Answer

Your expectations might be too high or you're just dating the wrong kind of guys. There are lots of caring guys in the world but most of them are just ignored.

Creampiekarl420 · Answer

For the same reason getting in shape is most people only think about whats being gained instead of what they can give putting yourself first is the most detrimental thing you can do

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Maybe try picking a different type of guy? You say you’re almost 25 like that’s so old, you’re still young as hell, and have a lot of life to live. Many people don’t find good partners till they’re in their 30s or 40’s.

CompletelyHetero · Answer

You think you are entitled to love?
"The treatment I deserve". What? What makes you think you deserve love?, you are no more entitled to love than a guy is entitled to a woman's body, which we aren't.
We don't owe you anything,

And if you haven't done anything special in your life, you don't deserve anything

VV3ZZY · Answer

I know how you feel. Most girls dont give me a chance. I am super lonely always. Will you be my friend please?

Cubus · Answer

Liberated society, when it is approved to change boyfriends/girlfriends like gloves, so why would a random Smith care?

Slim57 · Answer

Relationships aren't hard. Finding a good one is. There are plenty of good guys that get overlooked every single day. Stop staying with bad men thinking they'll change, they won't.

jshm2 · Answer

To put your soliloquy more succinctly:  "How dare the men I date, live a life, and not make insecure, clingy old me their reason for living!"

saintsRow3 · Answer

Baby If You we’re my Girl I would make you feel good all the Time.

weirdoweirdo · Answer

In short. People are difficult and different from one self.

deandre09 · Answer

Well for one women don't know what true respect is forgive me but you all like to try to control us instead of helping us. Men we like to be controlling instead of protecting you all

kitkills · Answer

Who cares? Why does everybody pretend relationships are worth shit lmao

OddBeMe · Answer

CEOs always say the hardest part of doing business is people.

rebeliouse · Answer

@itsalyssaagain prob because we get conditioned to social norms that are opposite to what we need in relationships.

Jltakk · Answer

At least you've had relationships. The hardest part from my vantage point is getting them in the first place.

Imsmurter1 · Answer

I’m 32 and never entered relationship partly cause it’s difficult. Spare some heartache too

driven159 · Answer

because life is hard, and people have way different agendas

QuietRunner · Answer

because we are people people with thoughts and emotions that is what makes relationships hard

Anonymous · Answer

relationship is a lot of work and constant drama up and down. I gave up on relationship but there is the person who likes me. I am going to marry him. He is the only guy who is interested in me even though I rejected propose 2 times.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do you choose such bad men? Your own anguish here is fully in your control.. Choose better men..

Berethor · Answer

Because many people are messed up nowadays.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Alyssa, is that you? The girl who love Monica?

Iron_Man · Answer

Everything is hard in these days

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Where are you finding the men you date?

CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS · Answer

Because they are not easy

RuthlessAggression · Answer

They're only hard when we make it difficult

lofii · Answer

Women make them hard with their jealousy

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