When on a date, do you care about who drives the two of you to your destination?

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Who drives on your dates? In my generation, the man almost ALWAYS drives, and we don't mind doing that. I think most couples make an initial decision and then just fall into a pattern and follow it without further thought. For some guys, driving is a control issue but for most of us, we just do it because we are comfortable driving and it is nice for the ladies.

Chiarac2003 · Accepted Answer

I’m okay either way… but preferably I like the guy to drive.. I like having my door opened for me..(I’ll reach out to open his too)…I am old fashioned that way. 🎀

TacosRAwesome · Accepted Answer

If it's a first date, we meet at the destination or close to it. Once things get more stable, I'd rather he drives at least to the destination.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

Pretty much what you said. A pattern is established, specifically the man would drive, and then that would just be what is without further deliberation or thought. I wouldn’t do it because I had to feel like a man or be in control, rather, I do it because socially women don’t seem to like to drive over the man driving and because I don’t mind doing it out of convenience to us both. I’ll never have an argument over who is going to drive, but in certain situations it would make more sense for the other person to drive such as if I’m drunk, have a headache, etc.

MelissaMarie9614 · Answer

On a first date, I let the man drive me (unless he can't drive, then I would). After that, it don't matter who drives who. We could take turns driving to our destinations. I don't mind driving, but I do love it when a guy opens the car door for me whether he's driving or I am. As long as he's being a gentleman.

meetkitty123 · Answer

Until I get a sense of how he drives I prefer to do the driving. Having had a CDL license I am very particular about following Road rules and I cannot stand when people don't cushion space. If he's the tailgating eating their bumper kind of driver I'm most likely always going to drive lol

Lliam · Answer

I almost always drive and prefer it. I've had a car and a license since I was 16.

I volunteer to drive but never insist on it. It just seems natural for me to drive, and most women are used to riding shotgun. It's kind of a lady-gentleman thing.

I miss bench seats that allowed girlfriends to scoot over and sit right next to me. :-)

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

I’d rather we meet. I don’t like feeling like I’m on someone else’s time and they’re entitled to me in some way if the guy is driving. If I have to drive us I don't know ima kind of feel like he’s a bum. Already dating I’d probably drive because I got trust issues.

MuddyMole · Answer

If it's a long trip, I do most of the driving. Otherwise, it's usually the owner of whoever's vehicle we're taking - mine is much more comfortable and refined, but hers has a lot more room in the back (enough to put a mattress in and use it as a campervan).
On early dates, meeting there makes more sense, since you'll be coming from different places - plus, if the date went badly, imagine how awkward it would be, having to sit in the car with them, the whole way home!

Dinklex3 · Answer

If we're in separate locations we just meet there.
It all depends on whose car we feel like taking though. Summer I prefer my car so obviously I drive. So far men I've been with have bigger trucks or SUVs. In the winter, it's usually theirs.
I suck at driving, but find it fun. Other's dont find my driving fun though so it just really depends I guess.

HighlyVolatile · Answer

Especially on first dates, I drive if anyone has to drive. The driving part is just an expression of something bigger. I lead.

I seem to be one of the very few guys on this site who doesn't like girls to ask me out. It's because they're taking away my lead. I lead.

I'm not saying a man should always lead if I'm upsetting some feminists. I'm saying I should always lead. If a woman thinks she should always lead, that's cool with me. But she's not my type.

AviatorTom · Answer

My answer is... it depends.
My SO prefers taking her car, and she's not overly happy with me driving it, so most of the time, she drives.; occasionally, I will drive my car, and less often, I drive her car. Before I met her and I was dating other women, much of the time we'd meet somewhere for our date, in which case we each drove separately, or I would pick her up and I would drive.

Nelis123451 · Answer

For me it doesn't matter really. Mostly depends with which car we are going. I don't drive in her car and she not in mine. But if I'm looking at my friendgroup for example I have made the most kilometers (miles for most of you). So that's why I never mind driving.

Moose304 · Answer

Hey, look!! One of the pleasures in life is having a beautiful female chauffeuring you around! I will toss my keys to a female in a minute. The only exception is ANYBODY male or female that can't manage space well and because of this are dangerous drivers. I drive a VERY expensive car made in Europe and rather not get it damaged.

Freyke · Answer

As childish as it sounds... I want to be behind the wheel!

I don't know, I just always felt comfortable driving. It is like a mission to get you there and back home safely.

I do not care what you are supposed to do. She can drive if she wants, but it always felt right to do it myself no matter who is with me.

Massageman · Answer

My wife likes to drive. The problem is that she speeds up, then slows down, speeds up, slows down, etc.
I find it a necessary evil. However, I drive very well, and will try to drive as smoothly as possible, with as few speed changes as I can saved use.
So, it's kind of a toss-up for me.

moonpie89 · Answer

For the first date I prefer us to arrive to the destination separately. I don't why but I always prefer to drive. Always. I love to drive. I drive long distances. He can drive if he wants to but I will definitely prefer to and will voice my love for driving.

melanieeeB · Answer

On the first couple dates, I won't get into a car of a fucking stranger. So none. When we know each other better, mostly it's him or the train/bus, cause I don't have a car yet

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

When I first meet someone its always drive to meet cause I don't want him to know where I live... now that I'm married, he can drive... fine by me. He can deal with all the asshole drivers, while I relax.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

On a "real" date I drive. Anything else is just hanging out. Even in cases when she asked me out (which was most of my early dating) I'll still drive. It would just seem odd if she drove. It wouldn't seem like a real date.

OpenClose · Answer

Personally, I default to both of us driving separately.

I don't mind driving her or her driving me. But I like the idea that she has her own means of transportation and she feels she can leave if she feels unsafe for any reason. Like I certainly HOPE I don't make any women feel unsafe. I just want her to feel safe, and I think her having an exit strategy helps with this.

Apple1996 · Answer

I have to be the driver cause I'm a control freak and it gives me crazy anxiety when anyone else drives

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

If we take my car it has to be that drives because she is too scared to have a go of it. I don't mind which of us drives though. I'm also insured to drive her car too.

Anonymous · Answer

If it’s someone I’ve been dating for a period of time, I let him drive. It’s old-fashioned but it feels nice for a guy to drive me, open doors for me…that kind of thing. If it’s a first date, I may drive or meet him there until I feel comfortable.

Avicenna · Answer

No, I've never made a big deal of it. I had one girlfriend who couldn't drive and another didn't want anyone else driving her vehicle.

worldscolide · Answer

Most of the time i just do not care who drives. Granted if we are taking my care i am definitely driving. I drive stick, my wife unfortunately cannot, though i have been trying to teach her.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I kind of prefer to drive, tbh. But it isn't a deal-breaker.

(Note: this is referring to dates later on when we're actually in a relationship. If it's a first or second date or whatever, then we would each be handling our own transportation.)

Nerdy_Blonde · Answer

I am dating another woman. It doesn’t matter to us who drives.

belle_kai · Answer

It depends where we are going and our schedules but if he wants to which most of the Time he would (my ex) then I would happily let him

t-8900 · Answer

I drive and we cruise at night listening to 80's music. 👍

humanearth · Answer

My day, the man leads the women in everything and that includes driving. But if she wants to drive, I'll let them. I don't care

TheLoneTerran · Answer

I don't care who drives. Usually what's most convenient.

SkyCastle90 · Answer

I let him drive because I have a speeding problem I'm working on.

MCheetah · Answer

D, E, or F, for me. Usually, it'd be Uber or something.

exitseven · Answer

I would rather drive unless it is a very short distance, then I get my wife to drive.

annabananna · Answer

My husband always drives if it’s the two of us. The only time I ever drove was when he had surgery or too many drinks.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

It honestly depends on who owns the vehicle. But generally speaking I’d like to think I’d be the one picking the lady up instead of the other way around

jamesgoldman · Answer

Seeing that I can't drive either she drives or it's public transport for me

Ballsack · Answer

Yeah because women typically can't drive for shit lol

Anonymous · Answer

doesn't matter to me much. Currently i have no drivers license. I've been a passenger to female drivers and i loved it. I would like to drive someday too once i can and have my drivers license.

Luopio27 · Answer

I dont have a driver's licence so I will roll with her either on her car on on public transport.

Dnice1 · Answer

I'm fine either way but I'll say this now, he ain't driving my truck.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

I rather drive my own car and meet them there until I fully know them

Anonymous · Answer

If I had a SO she would have to drive or I would pay for Uber cause I got mental health disabilities

CT_CD · Answer

I always want him to drive; that is part of his job as a man

Glittergirl4 · Answer

I like for a guy to pick me up, but I’m fine with meeting him there as well, especially if we don’t know each other too well.

Slim57 · Answer

Not really but I'd prefer them to drive because I hate driving but I definitely will if I have to

Iron_Man · Answer

Usually I do most of the driving nowadays I’ve gotten relaxed and Don’t drive as much as I used to so I probably want her to drive while I kick back and enjoy the scenery.

Anonymous · Answer

It's whoever knows where the destination is the best.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

I would love to drive!

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

She hates driving, I like it. So I drive.

sheikalana · Answer

I don't really care about this.

Joker_ · Answer

Yeah because women are shit at Mario Kart

mantelk · Answer

I usually get my butler or her butler to drive

Twalli · Answer

I honestly don't care

Jltakk · Answer

If I was dating someone, I'd prefer to drive.

robbenn69 · Answer

I like driving.

Anonymous · Answer

My boy friend sick of driving.

alance99 · Answer

I like to drive

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