Is it possible for a shy girl with little confidence to get a decent boyfriend? ?

[nocturnalbaby]

or is it hard to get a boyfriend if you're shy & lack confidence? would I be right in saying that girls like that CAN get a boyfriend, but perhaps not a good one?

[DaveJord]

Yes honestly these guys that seek out insecure, shy women that are lacking in self confidence are usually not very good guys.

Seriously guys that seek these types out, are usually looking for a women they can control or dominate and get off on it... because they can more easily manipulate or condition them to accept them.

Guys like shy girls, because they tend to confuse bring shy with being innocent. But that is far from my experience with shy or insecure women. As mommy always said, "watch out for tge queit ones."

The shy girl act is like cute for a minute or two... then it gets old fast. I can't be with some who lacks confidence... because these types of women just don't find me hard to deal witb. They tend to think I am too cocky, arrogant or self absorbed. But honestly that has more to due with thier own insecurities than anything to do with me.

[LazyProphet]

Yes it is possible, lots of guys like shy girls, and confidence is more of a masculine trait anyways, you'll get a good boyfriend.

[ohshee]

Ok so now that you know who you are. And you just told everyone here who you are. And what you want and what your looking for

First of all that's cool and it tells a lot of things about you
And that's a good thing.
And very honest and bold.
I find it very hot
So all the above tells me it's time for change you in your own way by asking the question. You are telling yourself or asking for change. But in a deep way
But now that you open that door. You can sit and wait or follow through

But that's kind of hard to do because you have never experienced that before I always say you have to experience something before you understand it
So
There are a couple ways to go about this you have to get your feet wet and since you're on the internet start there you have to get that experience you have to get that feeling I understand little pieces at a time about you about to other people to use the internet as a bouncing board to get that experience you're looking for or at least part of it because nobody knows you you can be whoever you want but you need to experience it before you can go out and do it that way you are prepared for the ups and downs and whatever else might happen

So flirt quit biting your tongue LOL and flirt with somebody you and it feels like this will give you Insight on a lot of things when you are online with somebody when you are talking with somebody you will have a feeling rest of your body this will teach you something at the same time how to read people who people are you understand it's not only about looks it's about who they are on the inside and what you're looking for in a person on the inside allow yourself to be free Explorer experience allow yourself to feel something deep and beautiful you can take all those feelings like what in real life and do the same thing
Do you have dreams do you have fantasies do you want to experience experienced them on the Internet so that way you understand it and kind of can go with the flow when you're out in the real world you will learn something about yourself and who you are and what you want but you have to experience it before you can understand it I don't know if you can understand what I'm saying and sometimes I don't even understand it LOL I know I do and I just don't know how to say it right here I will open the door for you if you have any questions just hit me up

[Horror_lover92]

When i first met my boyfriend I weighed 290 with 0 confidence, I was also shy, my fun time is staying at home and playing video games and streaming movies and tv shows. I didn't have to but I did, I wore sweatpants all the time, sweaters and if it's hot. I wear men's shirts to hide my breast size. He still loved me regardless and honestly that helped with my confidence and I started to lose weight I'm still overweight at 220 but I'm just taking small baby steps with my weightloss. We've been together for 5 years and honestly he's just amazing, he always cares about, and likes to buy me things, one time I had to sell my Nintendo switch for money. When he found out he bought me another one and bought all the games that I owned before. Even though my mom and I ssaid no, he even tried sending us money when we lost everything due to covid and my dad being hospitalized and was basically in a coma due to covid.
I always believed that no matter how we look, eventually we are destined to meet our true love.

[SimpleGuy95]

To be honest that´s possible but can be hard because you need to find a guy that´s comfortable enough to be the active part while not being sure if the interest is mutual.
So I´d say you need a guy that´s experienced with women because an unexperienced guy probably wouldn´t do that.

[BHooper]

Well im the same but a man. I have very low confidence and am really shy due to my body dismorphia and I've never had a girlfriend. The past year though I've been working on myself a lot and am closer then ever to having the courage I desire. I think it is possible but its hard to maintain if the lack of confidence is going to affect the relationship.

[Whatever2929292]

YES!!! I think people with low confidence are just hurting people and they deserve to have someone who will love them and help them. Being shy you just have to push yourself to approach people and ask them out

[RealMarek]

It is a much bigger problem for a guy who is shy than a woman who is shy because men are expected to take the initiative. Having low self-confidence could cause either to not be selective enough.

[Guy13]

If you are feminine, not over provocative, and a little bit fragile…like a little bird with injured wing…THEN you will have no issues

[Berethor]

Yes, guys don't care that much about confidence, and it's usually the guy that do everything.

[motownplayer2000]

You have a vagina. You will always get a guy.. that’s not the problem. Keeping the guy interested is where many many women struggle and being that way, shy and little confidence doesn’t help

[rabbitzzz]

I had a playboy friend who said shy girls were his favorite. So I don't see why not. He was a handsome bloke too.

[KrakenAttackin]

Absolutely you can get a boyfriend unless you are morbidly obese.

[Intothevoid666]

Shy girls are generally seen as more attractive so yes

[Jamie05rhs]

You can get a good boyfriend as long as you put forth a little effort. He's not going to fall right into your lap.

[Anonymous]

Yes, if you don't have a high body count and you are caring and faithful.

[IAmPessoa]

Itll be more difficult but very possible.

[Twalli]

You can, but it won't be easy

[Christian65]

I feel like girls with loud personalities have harder times finding boyfriends than shy girls

[nocturnalbaby]

nah I feel like loud girls always attract the guys

[WhiteBoyChill]

With guys I think it narrows down to your appearance a lot more than personality

[nocturnalbaby]

nah at the end it's always personality I feel

[WhiteBoyChill]

Either way I seen shy girls with bfs. A lot of guys actually like timid women

[Nahid1707]

Yea.

[RuthlessAggression]

No, not really