Where are the good girls?

[Anonymous]

Hello there guys and gals. To give done context, I’m a single male (26y/o). Im a Christian and hold very strongly to my faith (to the point that I’m a 26y/o virgin intentionally). So I’m not really looking for a relationship very actively because of some serious confusion on the subject. I’ll take a moment here to ask about a few points of interest. Any and all perspectives are welcome and appreciated.

First off is the lack of attraction. I have a stable, well paying job. Financially, I’m fairly well off. I have been told I’m not half bad looking and I’m currently in the best shape of my life. My life goals are set and I’ve known what I want for a long time. Im constantly improving myself. Given my genuine nature and moral compass, I’d say my character isn’t bad either. In all humility, I’d give myself a rating of 6/10. I’m not sure why at this point, but it seems there’s just no interest to be had.

Second is the approach. I’m very “old fashioned”. I want a family. A loving, supportive wife. The sort that is a full time homemaker and mother to our 4 or 5 children. That’s the idea anyway. For one thing though, I can’t seem to find ANYONE who actually wants a relationship, let alone marriage or a children for sure. But again, I guess that goes back to the attraction bit. My point is that I’m traditional and I know what I want in a relationship. These days however, the way one goes about approaching people is flipped on its head and no one seems to know how to do it. One woman will say they prefer to be approached and another will say they like to make the 1st move. That wouldn’t be a problem for me if it weren’t for the fact that I’m seemingly expected to be able to intuit which is which beforehand. What’s worse is that people will get testy with you if you don’t guess right too. So if I wait for them to come to me, nothing happens and if I make the first move, the lady gets upset….. and THEN…. nothing happens. So needless to say, I’m at a loss. Thanks in advance!

[bamesjond0069]

From another reply you said "I’ve tried that. There don’t seem to be any Christian women my age anywhere. Not in church at least." here's where it gets scary. Women are Godly in youth, then run to Satan, then return when they are covered in scars head to toe. The only thing that stops this process is the earthly father maintaining the household moral instruction and discipline. Christian men are extremely weak and thus there are basically no marriagable women in church. I've been where you are. There are 15 year old girls in church and 30 year old single moms. They push the daughters to colleges where they lose their marriage potential at lightning speeds due to premarital sex, drugs, feminism along with other things.

I have not an answer for you just maybe more understanding. All women are property. Either a father, a husband or satan. So when dad doesn't do his job and the woman isn't married off at 18 then satan takes over.

[Asker]

I would have to agree with you about Christian men being weak, Amy least here in America. Satan has used the infrastructure and social/political situation in the US to practically neuter all Christian men. It’s a Christian man, I find it pathetic. Though, I also think of myself as the exception. Whether I’m right about that or not remains to be seen. But I will say the fact that I’m still a virgin at the age of 26 in modern America says something about my will power and faith.

[EarthRealm]

Look up Taylor the fiend and Ribby the party frog on YouTube.
They will explain what is happening and why you aren’t getting any girls.

[Asker]

Coincidentally, I’ve recently come across both of those channels (among others). But both of these channels basically spend all their time finding various ways to say that basically, “all modern women are clueless “304s”. And while they may have a point, that doesn’t exactly help me.

[SaartjieJane]

Good people are hard to find.
We live in a word where everyone wants to sleep around, take no responsibility for how they make someone else feel, make no commitments but have all the perks, etc.
Don’t go on dating sites, don’t go to bars/clubs and rather try find new hobbies and/or groups to meet new people to share those hobbies with. Possibly even ask a friend to set you up with someone they know who has similar wants in life (if they’re happy to do so)

[Asker]

Now THIS is some good feedback. Thank you, Jane. Still, I believe you’re right about good people being hard to find. After all, no one has found me yet. Lol now believe me, I don’t mean to toot my own horn. I work hard at being good and kind and living a righteous life. I guess the question I have right now is how do I make myself more available, more findable, to people? That’s why I appreciate what you’ve said.

[FictionalCharacter]

I consider myself old school and traditional. That men on dating apps see me as a red flag given my age, being a virgin and not working. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Asker]

Could you rephrase that please?

[FictionalCharacter]

That wasn’t layman enough? Lol

[Asker]

It’s actually just that the last half all runs together. It’s like two thoughts, or possibly one that isn’t finished.

[FictionalCharacter]

I just summed it up

[Whatever2929292]

I think looking in church would be a good place to stop. We live in a fallen world but still plenty of good people out there. If you are looking in bars and clubs and stuff like that not a good place to look.

There is also dating apps and stuff like that as well

[Asker]

I’ve tried that. There don’t seem to be any Christian women my age anywhere. Not in church at least.

I don’t look in clubs or bars either. I will not find the mother of my future children slouched over a bar.

As for dating apps, well…. those are just plain depressing.

[Whatever2929292]

Yea I see what you mean. I mean how much older/younger are we talking? Maybe if they are single and well don't go after women under 18 or over childbearing ages but maybe you could look there

[Whatever2929292]

I don't like dating apps either there are some for Christians. I don't usually say that but as a last resort. I am sure God has someone out there for you

[Whatever2929292]

I mean I understand if you personally don't want to date too much older or younger though. I am just saying if it is a option if someone says yes you could see how things go

[Kenzy009]

Looks. You want to get girls, improve your looks

[Anonymous]

Thankfully, most people are not this boring.

[Asker]

I’m sorry. I don’t follow. What’s boring?