I ruined my life at 30?

[Maariaaa899]

I am female, i had to leave home soon i went out of the house when i was 17, got out but i failed got fired twice, got arrested , took drugs and now i am 30 and i have no drivers license , a job but bo house i stay with my ex friends with benefits who enotionalky abuses me why did i do this to myself , iw as so perfect at 17

[Wonderwhat]

No one is perfect. You are a victim of the shitty education system that didn't prepare you well for real life. The first thing you need to do is stop blaming yourself and forgive yourself. You did what you thought was the right thing to do, but you weren't prepared well for the real world. Your teachers put a lot of pressure on you, yelled at you, blamed it on you for when you made a mistake and all you did is put your trust into them. And when you needed the system the most they just sat back and watch burn. It's not your fault.

[Maariaaa899]

Education?

[Wonderwhat]

The crappy public school system that didn't teach you economics and how to live successfully. Many end up working in fast food, poor, homeless and on drugs believing that it's their fault and that they weren't smart enough. You are a capable person that just couldn't figure out how to navigate the system because the public school education system wants you to be dependent on the government so they didn't prepare for the real world properly. It's not your fault.

[hoqhuuep]

Sorry to hear that, don't give up, you can find somewhere else to live and take a license if you need it. But yeah, first I would try to find somewhere else ro live or at least not put up with the abuse.

Good luck and don't be hard on yourself. Life is difficult, sometimes some have it easier than others.

Don't be too proud to ask for help. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Stop dwelling om the past, you did what you did and there’s no changing that so you’re just wasting your time. Start thinking about how to move forward instead, and start taking necessary action to get yourself back on track.

[Dinklex3]

You're still young 😊
Start with some small goals in what it is you want to accomplish.

[Bluemax]

You may have made your life difficult by age 30, but you can recover.

Best case scenario but within realism, where do you see yourself in 5 years?

[MrCommodore]

Life can be cruel, we all make mistakes and it's people who learn most from their mistakes that become stronger and better people. Don't be hard on yourself

[sadrik]

We all do mistakes, yet you shouldn't lose faith in yourself, but you need to leave all those who uses you mostly your ex, since life is all about the risk you take, even if it takes 2 or 3 job to live with your pride do it, but 1st thing you need to establish is your self respect

[maximumpower]

you weren't perfect at 17. nobody is.
you fucked up - royally; however, you're alive and your situation is not hopeless.
figure out where you want to be and start working to get there.
start with getting away from old friends.

[BabyPrincess0]

Make small steps to make changes and move on in life.

[SeekingVirginWife]

Not to be rude, is your skin color black or hispanic? Might want to move to another country?

[Maariaaa899]

Black why

[SeekingVirginWife]

Your life will be better if you got away from your black community and started a new life where you can improve and grow,. It always works 100%. Trust me.

[Maariaaa899]

I always thought that, u think its the black community?

[SeekingVirginWife]

It has always been the black community in America. Even black Africans, Ghana, Nigeria, Mali, and more hate black Americans so much, it's not even funny.

If you really love yourself and want to grow as a person, you would take the risk. Look around you, no one is going to give you a extremely honest and forthright response for free. I have seen through all this.

[Maariaaa899]

But qhat do u thibk is wrong with the black community?

[SeekingVirginWife]

Crime.

Violence.

Danger.

Decreasing property values.

Increased policing costs

[Sparkie460]

Your life is not over. There is still time to turn yourself around. Stop doing the drugs and get away from the toxic friends. There is still hope for you. You have to want to have a better life.

[TheFlak38]

So basically all you need now is a beta male from your army of white knights to fix everything you fucked up in your life.

[Anonymous]

Well there's still time to change things. Just take it day by day and try not to focus on the past, but the future.

[Zolly99999]

You made choices and you have to live with the consequences...

[Maariaaa899]

what u mean

[Liuz02]

You can turn this, go to hostel and save for deposit.

[PatriceONeal]

The wall come hard and fast