I ruined my life at 30?

[Anonymous]

I come from a shitty backround i was 23 when i move dout but when i moved i started hang out with the wrong crowd, people with no goals in life , got fired twice and ruined my dream job after they found out i hung out with such people i got kicked out. I moved back hone but i hated ny family too then i met guy who worked as a mailman i moved in with him hut he was horrible after a month or two he started to mentally abuse me and i wasn't even dating him. Now i am 29 i do have a job but my fam knows i did hose bad things and i scared they are going to share it with others and i am going to lose my job at the office everyday i go to work i feel horrible i have no drivers license intwo weeks i will be 30. Why why did miess up? I was so pretty and smart

[lightbulb27]

You asked two questions

(1) Did I ruin mylife at 30?
Yes, but the wonderful thing about life and being an adult is you are in control and you can start over all the time. I guarantee life changes every few years up to 10 years. You can change your life around in an instant by starting over, getting new attitude, working on your deep issues, setting goals and workinghard. The numbers of people who have done this and are doing this now is huge. Turn off the crap in your life, remove the crap. You can find "religion", Christ, hope, read a motivational book by dalai lama, get in shape, write, etc.. There are no limits to the change... it's just harder now since you have responsblities. you got 5-10 years to fix things up and make offspring should you get to where you want one.

(2) Why did I do this?
Either you had childhood trauma events that sent you in a wrong direction or you just made some bad choices due to your maturity/parenting and based upon your personality. It is so easy for kids to get sucked into the wrong things in this society without good parenting, the perils are everywhere.

Be thankful you survived and are healthy. If you aren't dead yet, it's not over and it's just emotional crap.

When I raninto an emotional wall built in childhood around 31yrs, I sought out solutions, I chose Christ and no regrets there, that put my heart and world view in order so I could be my best... took time to heal though. There are thorns and wounds stored inside of me/people that are burried deep and cause trouble until resolved... emotional traumas. So readup on trauma and meditate and write as part of your new life.

It's a choice what to do next... you have to make the choices. There's no easy path, there is always pain and suffering, but there are better paths and adventures and those more rewarding when you see yourself having success and do what feeds your soul.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I'm sorry to hear about that. Sometimes we get hit by so much so fast. I know what it's like to have everything you care about fall out from under you and to lose things you thought you didn't have to worry about anymore.

I just want to say that it's important not to get stuck like this. You can waste years of your life looking back and wishing you had better circumstances. You'll become bitter if you don't get move forward and that requires forgiving yourself for failing at the points in your life that lead you to this situation.

You may or may not be smart and pretty. But getting into this mess isn't the end all be all of that. They're not necessarily even related to why you are where you are. Take a look at yourself and be proud of what your good at, and forgive yourself for your shortcomings. Then you can move forward and be that much more ready for anything that comes your way.

You should learn the power of having good people around you. I would start trying to find a better crowd if I were you.

[WhitneySnow]

Dw bout it. You have a good job and it sounds like you turned your life around. Don’t stress so much.

[Curiouslad123]

Don’t be so hard on yourself everyone makes mistakes what you went through will make you stronger. Trust me there always is a way back. Start following God pray before you go to sleep do good things help others and things will start going well in your life. Trust me he opens doors for you, you just need a relationship with him. Everyone has a choice to believe or not but honestly if you think about it what’s the point of life if there is nothing after. Who created all of this then? What’s the point of the life journey? Why when people do good they feel good and when they do bad they feel bad? Also people want proof well how do they explain the Holy fire that falls from the sky every orthodox Easter? How do they explain the Snakes in Greece that kiss the icon of the Virgin Mary every August 15th you can YouTube these miracles or visit in person it happens every year scientists still can’t explain. Many many more miracles happen in the Orthodox Christian faith just search.

[MCheetah]

I accomplished most of that by the time I was 24. And I didn't have the luxury of just starting an OnlyFans or married a rich sucker like you do.

Relax. Just stop being stupid and you'll be fine. Hell, my 2019 was probably your 2022.

[Anonymous]

Because you are human.

Stop comparing yourself to people who started ahead of you, it is not a level playing field.

[RuthlessAggression]

How could you ruin your life at a certain age. There's no such thing

[Anonymous]

That's why girl should not jump from a boy to boy until she's thirty and wonder why there men en to marry her.
There nothing you can do, just change your bad habits and way of thinking because it can be toooooo lateee

[Anonymous]

this is a half ass story with missing details

I DO NOT TRUST YOU

[DarkWinterNights]

Your life isn’t ruined at 30 unless you let it be.

[Asker]

I am

[JohnK123]

What bad things did u do

[Asker]

Got arrested and drugs

[JohnK123]

Oh sorry

[AFretiredTXn]

Get your head on straight girl.

[legalboxers]

you are fine!! dont worry

[jimmy2]

It time to find a church

[Anonymous]

Lol funny AF