My boyfriend constantly tells me I smell bad?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend constantly tells me I smell bad he tells me at least 3 times a week. yesterday while we were About to go to the market he was about to tell me I smelled bad but stopped talking mid sentence and then told me he was just joking. And today we sat down and had a conversation about what we can do to improve out relationship at the end of our conversation he told me to shower more because I been smelling bad lately. and then told me he was just joking I feel like he's not joking and he really think I smell bad. what can I do to make my hygiene better? I already shower and brush my teeth twice a day sometimes 3 times a day I drink a lot of water I check my ph balance twice a week and I recently started eating a lot more healthier.

[DaveJord]

Yeah, that's not something men in general would joke with a women about... so there are only two possibilities here;

1. He's a really flipping jerk that has a crappy sense of humor, who lack perspective on bounties.

or

2. You do smell.

If option 1 is true I would not want to date someone like that... I mean if he thinks its funny to joke like that then honestly were does that leave you? I mean its hurtful and not very nice, and messes with your mind... nobody needs that type of anxiety in their life, and where does it lead? How long until he thinks funny to joke about your face or body, or family or god knows what. What is he trying to do, make you all insecure.

If option 2 is true... then this guy is still kind of a jerk because its not something a emotionally mature person would joke about with a person. Like you never would tell some guy or joke with some guy about his penis being too small. It just hurtful to do that to some one, if it is seriously too small you just break up with him without ever really telling him why.

Nah... sorry but this would be a deal breaker for me. Its just too mean to joke about and I would rather be with someone who's more emotionally mature and stable. I would break up with him honestly, sounds like this guy likes to make people feel less than what they are because he gets pleasure out it.

[Anonymous]

Stronger deodorant. Make sure it’s antiperspirant and deodorant. There is a percentage on the back (of which I forget what ingredient it is) I always go for 21+. Maybe try clinical. Apply at night - the idea is it will block the pores when your pits are dry. Then apply as needed during the day.


You can wear perfume. Change laundry detergent/ softeners/ scent beads. Change shampoo and conditioner. Use mouth wash to prevent gingivitis.


If you’re high anxiety working on that may help. Being anxious can make you smell bad.

[yucychan]

I mean you have already did what you could do to be hygienic and clean. So, I'm also not sure what could be the issue. Can he be more specific? Like what or where does it smell bad? Is it your clothes or hair or what?
I kinda suspect that he's the problem here. I don't think it's a matter of you smelling bad but more of you not smelling accordingly to what he desires. Maybe he is expecting a certain scent or perfume from you?

[sheikalana]

Shower daily, wear anti-perspirant instead of deodorant, wear lotion, wear a good perfume, wash yourself down there. If necessary replenish your deodorant and perfume during the day. Change underwear daily or twice a day. Use a scented softner for your clothes and yes brush your teeth and use mouth wash after every meal and drink lots of water.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes if you eat a lot of dairy it affects your body odor. My sister also had the same problem, she showered 2-3x a day but still smelled bad (according to her boyfriend and my dad), turns out she just needed an antibacterial body wash for her armpits and deodorant

[Anonymous]

I think if you're already showering twice a day, then maybe he's the problem. Have you asked other people you know? Ask someone who will tell you the truth. Try using different antiperspirant and wear breathable clothes made of cotton. It sounds like you are already taking adequate care of your hygiene.

[Paul_in_Indy]

I don’t mean this flippantly, but: Do you smell bad?
If you aren’t sure how to take your boyfriend when he tells you this, can you ask someone else?

[FilmGuy93]

Maybe you need to change your diet? He's definitely not joking about the smell, but if you're bathing daily this could just be a sign that your body chemistries aren't compatible.

The way your partner smells should be enticing.

[LazerBean]

Stronger deodorant. I have to put on deodorant several times a day sometimes or I start smelling myself, and it's very strong if I don't control it.

[Staximus]

Is the something in your diet that makes you smell bad or do you have a health condition? If you shower once a day and use some deodorant, you should not smell like a sack of onions in the summer sun haha

[Onlyonceatime]

Tell him to stop and that's it's not funny. Be more assertive. Don't be so passive and let him get away with stupid shit.

[VikingWarLord]

Are you wearing the same clothes?

Spray Lemon Juice mixed with water under your armpits too

[Sparkie460]

If he's joking he's got a disrespectful sense of humor

[PatriceONeal]

Nice relationship you got there

[Fuentes]

Chlorophyll works