Should I wait or move on? What should I do?

[nicmadu25]

Hello, I am just new here in United States, speciffically in Tennessee. To be honest, I have no intention on dating someone since I am focusing more on work and career and trying to establish myself first. I am 22 years old. Out of nowhere this girl ask me out in the gym. To keep the story short we dated for a month and half. We already asked each other what our intentions are, which is to have a realtionship in the future.

Then At some point she said she needs some space first because she had an exam. We planned a date after the exams but some events happened... because planned party, she lost her wallet. Then the folowwing day, she needs to help her mom. So I gave her those days even some of those are our date night. Well, she insisted to transfer the date on a specific date again. Well for me, I think it would best if on a later week since she had a lot of stuff going on. But she insisted. Then that day, still she cancel it.

Since then, she was distancing her self. I confronted her that I feel one sided because I am always engaging especially after the week she cancel our dates. And then at some point I always confronted her which, I admit, which wrong because i am seeking assurance and validation that she should would not leave because I already feel in love and got attached. I did that because, again the situation. I become emotional and I should have handle it better. Even though that being said she replies,

she really likes me
she was dating no other guys besides me ( i told her about only the 1 date type of guy i am),
she was being mental funk
She has a lot of things going on
I am a potnetial and She wants me to be hers.

She promises to talk to me more. But that's not the case for me. My problem is why are you distancing yourself? I told her my intuitive is be his Boyfriend.
Still after all of this she was distancing her self. I gave her some space...
Then now she said. she doesn't want to date me anymore and she would be bad girlfriend for me. 🥲

[Ευδεμονια]

I think sincerely you developed quite a good relationship but probably she’s a bit messed up so she has less time to focus on you. Probably she felt your requests of clarify and appointments as a little hassle added to her general mess. I suggest you try leaving her be for a bit, let her stay on her own. She said she’s affectionate to you and she doesn’t want to lose you, probably she’s only asking for a bit of space.

[Guy13]

Women are screwy…doesn’t make it any less painful. Sometimes relationship brings and ends in pain🤷🏻‍♂️

[nicmadu25]

Sad fact about this.. This my first time to experience this. And I am just new here. 🥲

[Anonymous]

It sounds to me like she was into you at the beginning (obviously she was the one to ask you out) but that in the course of the first month and a half, something changed. She started cancelling dates and other things. It could simply be that she does like you and thought she was ready to be in a relationship but has realized she doesn’t want the pressure and stress of being in one after all.

[nicmadu25]

Hello, and thank you for answer. Should I wait?

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn’t wait for her. Until you guys become official, there’s no reason you have to hold yourself back with others. It’s hard to know exactly where her head is at, but remember that actions always speak louder than words. Judge her interest in you based on what she does, not what she says.

[hihihiok]

Tell her all that you feel.
And then wait for like 5-10 days that of she gets any better. O r else just move on. You know what people always know how you are feeling they do things despite of that. So that's that.
Don't wait compromising with your mental health or precious years work on your career. Every thing else can wait bub. Lots of love.

[slatyb]

Never wait. If another opportunity comes, take it.

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe she thought you were being too clingy

[In_Trance]

Move on