Is this odd of me?

[jennifer_bloom]

I wanted to be friends with and maybe date or marry a disabled guy cause I liked the idea of being around somebody who would need me, make me feel useful, and give me unconditional and drama free love and loyalty made me happy, and being religious, I get a euphoric joy when I help people I like and it is more powerful than drugs or weed. I suspect it might be better then physical connections in marriage. Also the guy was disabled but smarter than me, and might be smarter than your average surgeon, so I thought he could help me too. He was also gorgeous!

[Sparkie460]

It's not odd. I can understand the feeling

[Sparkie460]

Thanks for the mho

[clampfan101]

I can understand the logic behind it.

[ohsheeT]

No it's not odd to think that wY or even want to give yourself in that way.


But no matter who the person is or who they are there will always be a time of need

And the Euphoria feeling that you're talking about you should have that when you connect with somebody anyway when two energies connect and become one it becomes the most hottest sensual sexiest feeling that you will ever feel and they can give you that feeling just by looking into your eyes or touching your hand i'm running their lips across the back of your neck when two people are connected like this it does not matter what you're doing or when you're doing it all you have to do is look at that person and you'll be able to feel that euphoria it is one of the best ties in this world it is one of the most strongest Powers I've ever felt

You also don't need to be in love to feel that Euphoria feeling that connection that buns that energy if something so sensual so hot so sexy and it's Just Energy we can start talking sending messages back and forth and if there was any type of connection you would feel that feeling that I'm talking about and then you can turn it up or turn it down but when you're able to connect with somebody like that it will take you to a place then so beautiful and you want to feel it all the time and there's nothing wrong with that once you experience it you will understand it and then there's different levels and the deeper the level the better it is the better it feels if he comes in natural high very intense beautiful natural high

[SecretsofKB]

To me, this sounds super disingenuous. It doesn't sound like you want to date him for the right reasons.

It honestly doesn't seem like you see him as an actual person.

[Loth2770]

How does it sound disingenuous? She’s clearly stating her reasons, and they are the most logical reasons why someone would want to be with a disabled person.

If you are going to say they don’t have the right reasons, than you should say what those right reasons actually are.

[SecretsofKB]

@Loth2770

She said she wants to date him because it makes her feel needed. This seems like it is her main reason.

I don't know if she truly means it like this or if it is just how it got worded, but it seems like a reason that is not a sincere reason. It seems selfish in my opinion.

[Loth2770]

Is there any human love that isn’t selfish? I don’t believe so. But that’s a philosophical matter of opinion.

[love_conquers_lust]

Possible. You have to decide. Imma yield to Bridesmaids on this one and quote “Does he make you feel like shit?”

That implies a certain amount of reciprocity will have to come from him, disabled or not. And he’ll be WELL AWARE of the extra challenges and the amount of work he will have to put in to make both you and himself happy. Heavily depends on what kind of person he is and how he has handled his disability. It’s a mindset thing. Hopefully he’s someone who views his disposition as a source of inspiration and want so badly to be normal he’ll put in whatever effort he has to to attain that goal. And YOU have to be realistic about what he is capable of.

Whether he knows shit about relationships is another story. I’ve never known a wheelchair as some omniscient tool to unlocking the secrets of all women. He’s likely started out in the same boat as the rest of us, impairment or not.

[MysteriousDarkness]

This comes across as how they can make you feel an not at all how you make them feel. You want them to make you feel needed, make you feel useful, give you unconditional love, be loyal to you.
Nothing was said about you making them feel good or being loyal.

[love_neptune]

My boyfriend has a disability and I think if I told him that I only date him because it makes me feel. good to take care of him like that, he wouldn't be happy.

A lot of people with disabilities would hate the babying that this implies. A person with a disability is still a person, and deserves respected as such.

[Blackcosmo]

Of course it's not strange although it might be rare. That's so kind of you to want to help someone! By all means go for it when you have the chance :)

[Anonymous]

It’s a bit odd only because it seems like you want to do that so you can feel happy with yourself. Don’t date someone just so you can feel good. Date because you love them, you’re in love with them, you want a future with them, not so you can get something out of it

[Koalamate]

It's Not odd people with disabilities are still people.
Unconditional may be an issue if your his carer.
I had a teacher who met his second wife and has been married for over 20years and he lost his legs before he met her.

[Lunatic1]

Not odd at all. It's actually just embracing your kind nature, while also being appreciated for it. Nothing wrong with that.

[SlothySlob]

Hey, you do you. Personally I don't see a reason why your SO must be physically disabled. Unless you're lusting after this guy, I see no reason for such a specific list or requirements.

[Hopelessromantic53]

Aww that's really sweet :-D
I think you should go for it. No, it's not at all weird or odd, in my opinion. It's a rare thing to find in this world.

[Anonymous]

This seems horribly flawed and in any case, the individual is not forced to be unconditionally loving or loyal.
Get a dog. Get a child. Get trained as a nurse.

[Subarugirl]

Yes that is most definitely odd... normal people do not want a physically disabled partner so that they can feel needed...

[skeetskeetskeet]

Trust me... drugs get you so much higher... what If you get one like lieutenant dan.. who's mad as fuck he's in a wheel chair... lots of people are depressed as fuck by it

[RuthlessAggression]

That would be wrong

To date someone SIMPLY because they're disabled

[jennifer_bloom]

He’s cute and smart too.

[RuthlessAggression]

Doesn't matter

ITS WRONG

[RuthlessAggression]

Huh, i have a like, and yet i wasn't MHO, go figure

[danny8325]

Now I understand why those men without legs can, not only get marry, but also cheated with so many girls.

[jennifer_bloom]

He’s able bodied but has another issue

[danny8325]

yeah, i am just surprised there's a high demand for disabled guy. learning something new everyday

[Avadarling]

I am wondering what girl’s butt is better or the two pics I posted above

[Part2603]

Well you're in good company here on GAG then!

[Baylayy]

Nothing is wrong with it. Go for it

[Liuz02]

I think need find someone who turn you on not just need you, no.

[Randomperson9769]

I have that complex where I have to feel like I'm saving the girl in order to be attracted to her

[Avadarling]

Now
I am wondering what girl’s butt is better or the two pics I posted above