People saying I’m weird for never having been in a serious relationship at 26. Why does my love life concern you?

[Anonymous]

Cause I think it’s not just desperate but pathetic that you still use dating apps at 26 to meet people but at least I keep the fact that I think you’re a loser to myself

[FilmGuy93]

I guess it depends on the context. If a woman told me that on a date, I would probably be skeptical about whether the relationship would work due to her lack of experience..

[Asker]

Eh I think that’s BS. If it’s someone you really like you’re not going to care. If it’s someone you aren’t sure about (especially her looks) you’ll use this as an excuse to reject her.

[FilmGuy93]

I hear what you're saying and I want to agree with the general sentiment, but you have to realize that there are aspects of being in a relationship with someone that you just can't know until you've been there and you have to find a man who is willing to walk through those things with you. For example, there are conflict resolution approaches that you just aren't going to know. There are expectations that you likely have. You don't really know how your personality will change when you become romantically involved with someone. I also don't know why you've never dated anyone. Was it a personal choice? Did you hook up a lot? Was there something wrong with the men who tried to date you, or did no one even get to the point of asking you out?

Like all that stuff isn't necessarily that big of a deal in terms of individual things. But you start combining them together and you realize that dating a woman who has never dated anyone at all by her mid-twenties is basically like dating teenager, except she's had more time to think about what she thinks she wants.

[FilmGuy93]

So much changes when you become romantically involved with someone that that lack of experience becomes more troubling to people when they think about possibly dating you to get married one day.

[Asker]

And I see your point too but if you do meet that woman you really like or if you already like someone and she says oh I’ve never had a boyfriend or I’ve never talked to a guy or I’ve never been on a date, I don’t think you’re going to reject her. Any other girl? I wouldn’t doubt that you use this as either an excuse or as a way to talk yourself out of dating her. But if she looks like your type in 110% sure that you would give her a chance. You may not want to admit it but if I was in your shoes and it was my ideal man, I would at least go on a date with him. And Well I see it as if he really liked me this would not even matter. And not that it matters hence my question about why does my love life matter to anyone but myself, but I have never been in a relationship doesn’t equal never gone on a date.

[Asker]

And I could ask you the same thing if you’ve dated so many people why are you still single at your age? Red flag that you’re in your mid 20s and no one has worked out? Perspective. Don’t be hypocritical becuase I could just as easily say that and ask you this as well and wonder why weren’t you smart enough to realize this earlier? Which is what I usually do. I know someone is right for me within 1 - 2 dates max

[FilmGuy93]

It's simple: the reason I'm still single at 29 even though I've dated several women is because I was under the impression I knew what I wanted until I got into a relationship with what I thought I wanted.

[RuthlessAggression]

Cause your'e running out of time. You're no getting any younger. You're years away from death, hopefully, but, reproduction wise, you're running out of time

[Asker]

Again how does that concern You?

[RuthlessAggression]

Well, do you plan on settling?

[SiberFox]

Not weird I don't think, unusual maybe, but honestly waiting and trying to find the right person is best I think.

[driven159]

because people can't control their own life, so they try to control someone else's