Why do guys get offended and angry when they realize that the woman they're playing with is also playing them?

[Rose_84]

I am genuinely curious to know this.

You can't expect a woman to love you and not talk to other guys if you yourself flirt with multiple girls.

Why does it bother you when she also treats you the same?

We have very strong observation and intuition so we know your game before you even start.

She knows what you're doing already, so doesn't she have the same right to enjoy? 😂

• Especially when you decide that out of 10 girls, this girl is the best so you pursue her and then she also plays you back, treats you like an option just like you did with other innocent girls and broke those 9 hearts!

• You get so mad as if you were entitled to her love, attention and commitment.

BOTTOM LINE :

• Dating is one person at a time, but if you disagree and say "we do whatever we want" then why get furious when your selected love interest also plays the game in your style and treats you like one of the options?

[Finchie40]

Because you are playing with selfish guys that want their cake and to eat it to , If a guy truly values you he wouldn’t be flirting with other girls bottom line , but If that guy isn’t playing around and flirting with other girls and finds out you are playing around and flirting with other guys then he has a right to be angry and walk away from you or he can fight to get you on the same page as him , My thing with dating is you are just dating , their are no strings attached until you both decide to commit to each other , once commitment sets in then you both shouldn’t be playing around or you are both just wasting your time , The only way love grows is when 2 people remove selfishness and sacrifice for each other and make each other their number 1 priority , wearing each other’s shoes , if you can’t do that for someone then you shouldn’t be in a relationship period , because you are allowing your selfishness to be your priority and you will have constant break ups and heart breaks if you can’t allow yourself remove that, so why waste your time , No body wants to commit to a whore Guys and Girls can be whores, So you are best to find someone that just wants you the same way you want them before you both agree to commit to each other

[Rose_84]

I totally agree, all the points are fair. In my case he legit brought up the exclusivity stuff and he constructed his own lie. That's what got me pissed so I decided to treat him as last options.

[Rose_84]

I caught him on his own lies. He only told me "I never talk to girls online, I wouldn't even have talked to you if I didn't thought you were my acquaintance. I also never talked to any girl in real life ever"... AFTER FEW DAYS I CAUGHT HIM. He invited this trouble on himself by trying to deceive me so that I'll get fooled and fall for him.

[Anonymous]

I am not a player.
If I ever have a date it is just a date. My goal is to get to know her better. I don't consider either of us committed. So if she dates other guys and I have not committed to her or she to me there is no room to call foul.
Once I get to know enough and feel that in many important levels we are compatible I would ask to get serious and exclusive. Meet the parents... because My goal is to find a marriage mate. Not play mate. Some one I can trust and who can trust me. It feels awesome to be completely trusted.
But that trust must be earned over time and never just given away.

[fonduegirl]

Because they get a kick out of being worshipped by naive girls. Think about how many times you've read that the man whore of a male character was selective and rude to his post coitus partner/one night stand girl — and how many times you've come across the female leads doing the same, which is like zero. Why? Because women play games because they dunno who to trust, while a guy does the same to show off to his friends how he can hit pussies like jackpots

[Rose_84]

True.. some of them talk a lot online but then say they're so shy and never talked to a girl irl. That they never had any girlfriend (even though they look better than many guys).

[fonduegirl]

You were totally right about them picking the hottest out of ten. As a kid, I was afraid I wouldn't be attractive enough for a guy to approach.

[Rose_84]

No, you're so much more than your looks. Character, soul and authenticity within you is all that matters. I've dated ugly or average guys because they deceived me into thinking that they had a pure heart. But unfortunately for them I was a trophy to show off. I realized it after few red flags and now I have trust issues.

[fonduegirl]

Sorry to hear that, Rose

[Cowboy6666]

Well flirting or talking is another thing... I never played with someone's feelings. But playing with my feelings and saying that we are official and boyfriend/girlfriend. Then ghosting or cheating all of sudden. That's the worst thing and that has happened to me in the past already. 😒

[Rose_84]

Oh no that's extremely cruel. I was talking about the initial stages of dating when no one gets attached. But your experience is so sad. Hope you're doing well.

[Cowboy6666]

I'm fine and single nowadays but due to that experience I now don't rush for relationship easily. I make sure that the girl is genuine, serious and loyal about me and take next step.

[Rose_84]

True. The guy I was talking to, i was just normal with him unless he decided to invite trouble on himself.

[Cowboy6666]

What did he do? Was he cheating on you too?

[Rose_84]

He was dishonest in the beginning itself. It was all cool until he asked me one question "do you talk to other guys like you talk to me?" I said no (I MEANT IT because he was really the only one I was talking to)... then I asked him the same question, he lied and said "never, you're the first girl I've ever talked to and I don't give a damn to other girls". Later I found out he talks to others the same way. So then I decided to toy with him. Now he's upset that I only treat him as my free time and like an option.

[Rose_84]

He's upset that I don't pay him much attention or treat him like a priority. The important part is, we ain't even dating yet he feels entitled to my attention and affection. Yet he started his own web of lies to deceive me, but he have no idea that I found out the truth.

[Cowboy6666]

Yep relationship can't be built on lies. Everything should be cleared, nothing should be hidden otherwise it won't work.

[Sixgunsound]

I never understood the whole playing thing, it just doesn’t really do it for me. That may have been due to my utter lack of ability to lie convincingly or I also have a horrible memory for details. Either way whether it is or is not technically dishonest it just feels dishonest, and not compatible with my life philosophy. File this under play stupid games win stupid prizes.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Can't relate, I don't get myself in those situations lol

[Rose_84]

Very good.

[Berethor]

Talking does not count for much to me, but if a girl have sex with many guys then she a ho.

[Dkc123]

Not all guys.. Pls.
Some are just feminine in nature.

[driven159]

because people are spoiled Brates now and want everything their way or they have a temper tantrum like an immature little baby

[bamesjond0069]

Yeah we can. Women aren't men. Any woman who does what you suggest is worthless for a relationship. Id just move on to someone else.

[RuthlessAggression]

Because they think they can play the game better than the girl

[Waldoe]

I keep her so busy; she doesn't have time for anyone else... 53 years later and it's still working

[Avicenna]

Anyone would get pissed off about being played

[Rose_84]

I know that. But then why treat the others the way they would never like to be treated?

[Avicenna]

I guess they weren't expecting it

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hear you had a bad experience. Lol

[Rose_84]

I didn't because I played back lol. Now I'm the one with the upper hand.

[Opinion Owner]

Good for you, you're an immature girl who who gets a charge from playing games with people.