Why do women play games then get upset when the guy stops talking to them?

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I’m obviously a woman and I don’t understand this myself. My guy friend had this girl he liked that played games with him (late responses to texts and calls, flaking on dates or just not responding when being asked on a date, disappearing, etc.). I suggested to him that he block her number and be done with her. He did so and a month later, she messages him on IG asking why she was blocked. He didn’t respond. It’s been months later and she’s still making sad, passive aggressive statuses about how she got ghosted and doesn’t know why and trying to rub other guys in his face.

Why play games then get upset when people move on?

JSmuve · Accepted Answer

"I’m obviously a woman"... err, welcome to 2020 where girls can masquerade as boys and boys can change to girls if they don't "feel like a guy". The social justice inquisition has seen to it that there is no more "obvious" and it's all just guesswork. But, I digress. Wrong topic.

Girls do this because they want power. They believe that because of all the attention they receive from guys, in person or online, that they have some sort of power over guys and they get off on this. Probably due to profound insecurity, they abuse this power by playing games to see how interested the guy really is. How much does he really care? How far will he go? They believe that this power entitles them to behave and treat a guy however they want and he'll keep coming back to her because of her looks, or he can be easily replaced by another guy if she gets bored.

When the guy did what you suggested, he took away that power from her. He showed her that her actions have consequences and now she can no longer treat him like that. What's worse, she doesn't even know why it happened. She's oblivious to her own bad behaviour and probably thinks all these passive aggressive tests were normal and likely justified it to herself in her head.

Now she's playing the powerless victim here and blaming it on the "asshole guy" for ghosting her. None of this was her fault, because guys are just jerks that don't care.

That's women. A lot of them are so incredibly unaware of themselves.

LoU_Hades · Accepted Answer

Treating a guy like a jerk and then to complain when he goes away and playing the victim of male arrogance is specialty of some women.
Some people with low ego need this and similar games for self-valuation. "Games people play" is book worth to read, it explains some mechanics behind specific behaviors.

LEETSBEREAL · Accepted Answer

It's an attention thing she has no interest in him what so ever for her he is a play thing. When someone of interest turns up your see her forget about him very quickly. Hopefully she gets a taste of her own medicine to learn it's not ok to treat men like that. They're not disposable and there for her amusement because she is bored or whatever. I am tired of women like this they give us all a bad name.

Elsa143 · Accepted Answer

1. She either wanted him to chase after her which would satisfy her pride and ego.
2. SOME STUPID ARTICLE OR A FRIEND influenced her to do this.
Do not forget the popular trend : guys don't like a girl who replies quick, is always available and always Says YES to dates.

crazy8000 · Answer

She is upset it didn't work in the way she expected it to go. still tries to turn it to a victory.
Tries to get pity that she got treated badly in the same time to fuel her damaged personality.
Insecurity...
There are a lot of psychological thing's behind that toxic behaviors.

People that does this are extremely immatur and needs a lot of growing.

Just stay away from them.
If they can't get anywhere and doesn't get any support, they have to grow past it to be taken seriously and get anything/anywhere.

LMNOP123 · Answer

Because they're dumb and think that works. I'd tell her, this isn't Highschool lady. The real world doesn't work like that. You acts disinterested, he's going to think you are.
Quit acting like you're 14.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

Some people are under the very false impression that games actually work. She also seems very insecure and is probably a bit baffled that it didn't work, and like another comment said, is trying to turn it into a victory.

Anonymous · Answer

For some reason people cannot just show interest in you nowadays without messing up. They will always make you upset, not respond or ditch you. Almost makes you feel like you are not good enough for the other person. Sometimes they will get bored and message you again (maybe like after a year) because they are feeling alone. I have not met anyone proper to this date.

Cherokeehp · Answer

She’s not sad. She liked the attention he gave her but she didn’t want to date him. Now she’s bored and probably a bit lonely, especially with the quarantine and all, so now she wants more attention. I can assure you she’s perfectly fine, just bored.

winterfox10 · Answer

Because a lot of them genuinely believe that THAT is how you play hard-to-get. Today's women/girls weren't ever taught the right way to tease and flirt.

Papichulo02 · Answer

I think most females do this. They play games, take advantage of you but when you get tired and blast them they play the victim.

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

It sounds like she might be a psychopath. She only seems to see things from her side of the story and doesn't seem to understand the wrong in her actions. She at least lacks self-awareness. It's good he blocked her.

Unit1 · Answer

Right? Glad you have some proper logic in yourself.

In_Trance · Answer

Everyone plays games In this case, she's upset because he's a better player

Iron_Man · Answer

That's why i don't take dating seriously in these times

Thatsamazing · Answer

Because they're dumb. Pretty simple.  The ones who act like this, anyway. Not all females.

Daniel_Dano · Answer

Because women's mentality different from men , a lot of them think by playing mind games they might attract the guy they like while its opposite

BMWE46M3 · Answer

Did not expect this question from a women but well said !

Gedaria · Answer

Women know when to stop...

Anonymous · Answer

Cause men play games big time.

Shy_123 · Answer

This is literally MEEE

Jack-mayhoff · Answer

Good question.

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Nature..

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