Why do guys/girls play games with each other?

[BrentDude33]

I'm just curious to see how people respond to this question.

I don't understand why if two people like each other they would play games. Like not calling,mind games etc etc.

note-I'm not in a situation where games are being played. I just wanna see what people say about this.

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Thanks for the comments everyone :) Interesting stuff.

[Mesonfielde]

Because people don't really want to admit their emotions openly all the time, because the more you show, the more vulnerable you get. There are also various people who want some "proof" that their decisions would be worthwhile if they made them (testing the person).

Also, mind games are NECESSARY. Why? It's obvious. If you call them all the time, they'll get bored. "It's always the same." So sometimes it's needed to check "what would he do if I didn't" to break the pattern. It's useful for testing people's reactions and to be able to get some basis for reading emotions and thought patterns. Obviously it doesn't sound all that useful as you could just "talk about it" but most people hide their true thoughts, therefore people make these opportunities and tests to make assumptions (which could obviously be either correct or incorrect).

And to add, I asked a girl once: "Why do you want to make your boyfriend jealous?"

And she said: "Because if I make him jealous, then he'll have to come to me and try to reinforce his position. And this brings me to be temporarily dominant. If he doesn't, then he's not really worth being together with as he doesn't value me enough. Therefore, it's a win-win situation for me."

[Gregs]

with girls a big part I think is to test guys, they love mind games and tests and seeing if a guy is congruent with who he is and if they can throw him off their game. I don't think guys should play games and if they are it's because they read some bullsh*t about it

[Anonymous]

I don't like to. But if the two people in question don't know each other well enough or feel comfortable with each other yet, then it seems to become a game since they feel awkward and shy. I am kind of going through this now, and actually TRYING to get us to go talk some time, as after while all the game playing becomes draining, it becomes easy to feel like the other person doesn't like you, and you end up moving on cause you get tired of playing. I am getting tired, feeling emotionally bruised by the ongoing games, and that is why I am trying to initiate a talk...cause I feel he is worth it, I don't like misunderstandings, and it is long overdue...we are not getting any younger. :)

[hesaysim2sexy]

id have to agree with Mesonfielde. because if you open up yourself too much to the other person with your feelings, the other person might not share the same feelings as you. He/she might end up pulling away. or if he/she does share the same feelings, but is unsure of your feelings towards them, then they do the same. they try to hide/supress their feelings too. so it goes both ways. sometimes games makes the ride thrilling sometimes, it kills it.

[BrentDude33]

Good point :)

[underdog10]

The Russian Roulette of possible relationships.

[fheges]

I know for me that I don't intentionally play games, but I get so shy at times I become introverted won't really flirt back or anything. So it comes across to the girl that I am playing games with her but in reality I am just too scared to do anything.

[Anonymous]

there are moments of akwardness between the the girl and me so uninteionally I end up ignoring her,and she take its I am ignoring her and she ignores me and doesn't make any sort of eye contact only stealing glances,i get really frustrated when she starts pretending that she isn't intrested in me when I am talking to her ,she likes it when I chase her,so I end up playing mind games