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Not as you are describing it. I lead but I don't do it from a selfish standpoint you serve me type of approach.
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No that is only a certain type of man behavior.. to me a relationship is 50/50 . Both people must be happy in order for it to work..
I don't really understand this kind of behaviour...
I'm done with all the psychology books.
I've literally gotten to the stage in my life where I just say I don't like it and walk away!
Some people feel the need to be in control of things all the time.. they have insecurities with them selves and it makes them feel better controlling other people. .
I won't tolerate it.. I would walk away too
Agreed... Its really tiring.
I could see myself on the verge of snapping and this never goes down very well with a person like this. Whatever you say suddenly becomes a you problem... Not a them or situational issue.
Im done fixing or understanding people beyond the normal quirks. This stuff is heavy baggage!
Yep. Cut bait and run !
I don't want to feel like a puppet on a string. And for a while now I've been starting to feel like a chess piece.
It's a terrible feeling.. I have been down this road before..
Thank you for listening and responding. I'm sorry you felt this way too, it's not fun.
I really did like him, but his friend triggered the panic...
It's not necessarily what he said its the way he said it...
"if you're still around, you can come to the wedding..."
The wedding is in July and this was the first time we'd met.
No problem.. you are so much better off without him.. I know my life got better
🧡🤗 It's sad I quite liked him. He just wore me down.
It happens.. I wish you the best of luck finding a real man
Thank you dear x
You are very welcome 😁😁
I’ve honestly never thought in these terms, and so never have consciously tried to create this situation. What my wife and I worked out just grew organically we never really sat down and had a come to Jesus moment about it.
I guess when two people respect each other that's what happens...
You may be on to something with the respect issues. A person who treats you like a child or a pet cannot possibly respect you.
Agreed... I really didn't appreciate feeling like that. Some of the things he did at one point I just couldn't work out if I asked him to do something or told him to leave it or what...
It was inconsiderate but he did this 2x even though we had discussed this...
Hopefully you have long since moved on.
He asked me if we could meet up Wednesday 2x after he asked me to prepare a particular dish, I had told him that actually it was his turn to cook. (he can cook, he told me he ran a food business and prepared lasagna for his friends christening 2 large trays) but he joked it would be beans on toast. Not funny. So I declined. So he asked again to meet today and Iet him wait 5 hours for a response not by choice but because I was going out with a friend. And effectively treated him the way he treated me... Letting me wait and so he blocked me...
So he won’t be bothering you again. Good riddance.
No, well it's definitely not consciously done, and I think the whole dominant partner thing changes depending on who you're dating.
nope... I am not interested on any of that
I want a partner that I can measure up to... not a servant
I'm not some neanderthal grunting and pounding the ground, eager to assert dominance and control. I just want a best friend that I have sex with, that is how I view romantic relationships in a nutshell.
Sure.
Not necessarily.
Invites? OK.
"Put things in place"? No, for whatever that even means.
No. Varies with each guy's upbringing and focus in life.
Most likely, yes.
Not at all. It's to me essential to establish mutual respect and bounderies. You'll learn very quickly by doing so if the two of you have a future or if the other is trying to control you or would let you walk all over him.
Not the Norm, however, what ever floats your boat 🚤.
I like a partnership but many people say that isn't possible