Guy im seeing was caught on tinder, update, what do I do, why is he?

[Anonymous]

Hi, so I've posted about this but now have an update. I have been seeing this guy for 1-2 months, gone on dates. But recently my cousin found him on tinder. I asked him about it and he said it was an old account. My cousin said his location changed from 13km to 3km away from her. We also made a fake account and he matched with her within a day.

Is he keeping his options open because his looking for better?

Help I don't know what to do... I like him.

His not that interested in me

His just keeping options available

I need to move on

[Anonymous]

How are things going otherwise (without Tinder)? Maybe he's unsure where you're headed, so keeping options open just for that reason, but doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't like you. Have you been talking lots as well as the dates? I'm guessing you know each other well enough that maybe you can have a talk with him about where you guys see this going now. Maybe he just needs to know that you like him enough? You never know as it's always a risk, and some people are great actors/actresses, but trust your gut and how you feel about the relationship. And have a talk with him. Even ask this directly. Say you're starting to like him, but the Tinder account has you questioning how much he likes you.

I know myself (under slightly different circumstances), but with ghosting being so common these days, and nobody sticking around it seems (I even got to know someone for 8 mths, to have them ghost me one day, never to be heard from again lol), that when I'm dating, I'll still keep my profile up, even though nobody matches or contacts me anyway so it doesn't matter LOL, but I leave it until I'm sure it's heading somewhere, or seems like it's going to.

[Anonymous]

But this won't resolve in the same way as the movie. He's not that into you. I hope the relationship has not yet become sexual because that would just be more degrading for you.

[Subarugirl]

If you aren't dating exclusively then there is nothing wrong with it. How ever if you are unhappy with it, say something and if he's not onboard then go your own way

[Reaper1985]

sadly many modern people on both sides continue to use dating apps/sites or social media while in a relationship. to keep their options open and/or to get validation from others should things not pan out long term.

[FilmGuy93]

Are you guys an item yet? If you aren't officially dating yet, you might not have a reasonable expectation that y'all are exclusive.

[ChrisMike1919]

You need to move on, and fast. He doesn't deserve your feelings. You're tormenting yourself and he goes to dates with other girl? FUCK HIM.

[goodgirlsteven]

he's not into you sweetie I'm sorry! I would move on, you got to let go of the "I Like Him Though" syndrome he doesn't like you as much your, there temporary for him

[Wubs3000]

Are you guys exclusive? if not then what's wrong with it.

[Massageman]

Time to move on. You don't need any more drama in you life.

[animesenpai]

Did you guys talk about being exclusive?

[Asker]

Not yet, but I don't want to look desperate

[animesenpai]

He is just keeping his options open. Doesn't mean he isn't interested he is just keeping an eye out for other stuff

[Asker]

So looking for a better option?

[animesenpai]

Not necessarily just always looking around

[Asker]

Lol I don't understand explain...

[Wubs3000]

Well its not like he is looking for something better but he probably doesn't want to put all his eggs in one basket. If you guys aren't exclusive he doesn't see a reason to commit to only you because it might not work out.

[Anonymous]

He’s keeping his options open, so you should too.

[Asker]

So his not totally set on me then?

[Opinion Owner]

I’m guessing not.