Crush was all over me and now he is avoiding me when I try to talk. I dont know what to do?

[Confusedgirliexxx]

I met this guy at work - his senior to me but he was always all over me and coming to my unit even if he didn't need to. He was always nice, supportive and flirty and would ask me personal questions for example about my family. Everyone noticed he liked me and one day he attempted to give me his number but I got shy. I'm a very shy person and it takes me a while to open up, especially if there are people around. I recently asked another colleague for help because he was busy and he told his colleague to stop talking to me. After that I was on holiday for a week and he had a holiday after me When he came back he called me over to look at something but then told me to leave him because he was getting distracted. People noticed him getting flustered. But since then he won't talk to me about anything, including work. I asked him about his holiday and he was vague. Before where he would find any excuse to talk to me or be around me has gone. I feel like he's doing things to get me to talk to him but only to be rude to me. Yesterday he didn't do something, so when I told him he said "took you a while to notife" with a death glare. I apologised to him if I had been rude but he said "you haven't done anything wrong. See you later" I don't know what to do. I tried to show him I like him and I apologised for something i don't know what i did.

[Gent207]

Wow okay possibilities range from being bipolar to having a personality disorder OR being turned off by your quiet demeanor. Which for the record your demeanor is not the problem here, I percieve that you two are not on the same level of energy and are therefore not jiving like when two friends are laughing at something and they each take turns building the joke up by feeding the humor. In like manner you two were not building at the same pace or method.

I don't know how things are over in the UK (I presume that's where you are) but here in America dating in th office specifically between admins and staff is strictly prohibited due to the risk of impropriety - just saying you may want to double-check your companies policies on inter-office dating.

However for me I have a personal rule that forbids dating coworkers due to the risk of inescapable awkwardness if we ever broke-up and possible division among coworkers. But you do you, no hate.

[Guy13]

Maybe he trying to be more professional and in doing so actually protecting you. The way he communicates is odd. The fact he has not asked you out is odd. How much do you know about his private life? married?

[Confusedgirliexxx]

Not married and last I knew he was single. Has a big family and lots of friends. Loves to travel. He doesn't know I like him. I didn't make it clear but tried to this weeķ

[Guy13]

Exciting... think he got it. That he knows he knows... that's a guy thing.

[Confusedgirliexxx]

Oh 🤣 what do you think I should? Thank you for replying x

[Guy13]

Sure... Look him eye-eye... violate his space like two feet. Are you feeling anything between us or not. And you are done. It is time for him to man-up !!!

[WhitneySnow]

Probably cause he felt like you rejected him when he tried to give you his number

[EarthRealm]

He has went through all the stages that’s all that is. Now that he has went through all the stages and you never Gave him the attention back he is done with you and wants nothing to do with you.

[jimmy2]

Don't sound like a crush now

[In_Trance]

Find someone else