Why did you ultimately say 'yes' to the last person who asked you out and you dated?

[Still-alive]

This question is to those who get asked out. why did you ultimately say 'yes' to the last person you dated? There might be more than one reason of course... but if you had to narrow it down to one thing that ultimately made you say 'yes' what was it?

They were cute looking

They seemed pretty confident/ the way they carried themselves

They were funny/made me laugh

I felt bad for them so i said yes

They got to know me well and i felt a bond/connection so i said yes

Some other reason (say what)

I have never been asked out

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as an added bonus maybe say how the date actually went too?

[mooky06]

Ultimately? He was a chef 😂 haha no it wasn’t that (maybe. slightly) it was because we grew a connection. He liked how chilled i was and mentally strong minded i was about certain things. He told me constantly I felt like home.

I didn’t say yes to dating though. He’s based in LA and travels around for work a lot (he is in Dallas at the moment). He is doing well.

The date? It was quite spontaneous.. he asked a mutual friend of ours for my number and contacted me (we had a dinner at a restaurant and my mate introduced us). I had a long day at work and he messaged me while i was finishing up and asked if i wanted to hang out over pizza and beer so i went. It was fun, we laughed heaps and conversation flowed. One thing i noticed he did was he served me first before he served himself. I find little gestures like that very sweet.

[Still-alive]

nice one. i'd ask you out if i could hehe. for fun of course

[ZiZi_Bell]

Initially I was going to say confidence but that wasn't the case.

They were just so absolutely genuine, I couldn't say no. They asked, and everything from their smile, to the look in their eye, to their slightly nervous body language, it was just so REAL. Like, no games, no motive. Just one person, interested in another, scared to death to ask them out and gutsy enough to do it anyway.

That's the stuff right there.

[Still-alive]

did the date go well?

[ZiZi_Bell]

It did!

[Still-alive]

Was it everything you thought it would be when you initially said yes?

[ZiZi_Bell]

Yes and no? I don't expect anything when I go on dates. I just let them play out how they play out. Haha

[Still-alive]

well you said he felt genuine when he asked you out... so i imagine he really was genuine when it came to the actual date?

[ZiZi_Bell]

Yeah it a very grounding yet warm experience. Lol

[Tomcat68]

Exactly what I was thinking. It’s just being genuine and honest. When you are at peace with who you are you exude confidence because you’re being your true self.

[Still-alive]

so where were you when he asked you out? were you alone? with friends? was it at a party? i always find that part fascinating.

[ZiZi_Bell]

We were at a bonfire on the beach. XD

[Still-alive]

Did you know him before that point? were you with friends?

[ZiZi_Bell]

So, here's the twist in the story.
I used to hook up with HER brother. XD hahaha

[Still-alive]

Interesting. So did she walk up to you randomly to ask you out? Was it in the middle of talking about stuff with her? How did she ultimately ask you?

[ZiZi_Bell]

We were just hanging out, then it got quiet, we were looking at the fire, and then she said she wanted to ask me something, so I looked at her and she asked me. Lol

[Still-alive]

Nice. Was this something she planned to do and was looking for that opportunity to ask or was it spur of the moment? Did she ever tell you?

[ZiZi_Bell]

She said she had wanted to do it for a long time, but wasn't planning on doing it right then. She said it just felt right.

[CrazyGirl2]

I think is a combination of A, B, and C. First, if this is a stranger asking me out, he has to be cute, because obviously physical attraction is the first quality that draws someone to another person. But second, he absolutely needs to show confidence, the are few things less attractive that a guy who seems completely unsure of himself, except maybe the stench of desperation on a man. Lastly, a guy who can naturally make me laugh w/o trying to tell some stupid joke, the kind of guy who can make me laugh without even joking at all… That guy, I’ll not just date… I’ll marry him!

[melanieeeB]

Uhm he was determined to treat me with respect and treat me right, cause he felt I never really got the respect that I deserved in his eyes and after a while I started to open up to him, he then also showed me that he is a family man and cared for me and eventually I said yes

[Still-alive]

how did the first date go?

[petitedollbabee]

I think I’ve only been asked out twice out of all my relationships, I’m usually the asker, but I said yes to my partner because we’d already fallen in love with each other over a few weeks together and were basically already in a relationship without the title. Plus I’d already told him I was going to ask him out when I got back from my surgery out of town, so when I came back he asked me out before I could get a word in just to be cheeky.

[Still-alive]

how did you first meet or know him?

[petitedollbabee]

A New Zealand dating site. It was full of creeps and weirdos (the bad kind) so he stood out in my messages because he was so genuine and he was the only one not begging for nudes or just hookups. We talked online constantly over 2 weeks before meeting each other.

[Still-alive]

What kinds of things did you talk about in the first initial messages?

[petitedollbabee]

Where we’re from and where we live, what our hobbies and interests are, what kind of relationship are we looking for ie friends with benefits, monogamous relationship, open relationship etc, what kind of things we’re hoping to get out of a relationship ie marriage/kids, and what things are an immediate no-go in a person. For example he said he couldn’t date someone who hated animals, and I said I couldn’t date someone who was an alcoholic.

Had to make sure we were both on the same page for what we were looking for, otherwise it’s a waste of time if we want opposite things.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Usually E, but sometimes if a guy is trying really hard and super nervous, I will say yes to him because he is trying so hard.

Being a shy person myself, I have sympathy for guys like that. The ones that come on really strong and blow me away, they don't get any of that. They have to impress me without coming across as an ass.

[Still-alive]

Did any of the dates you had with the shy guys go well?

[Aerissa_Jade]

Some did, some were awkward and he had trouble talking but like me... as we got to know each other then things went better.

[Still-alive]

Did things ever get so awkward you couldn't do a follow up date?

[Aerissa_Jade]

One guy kept talking about his ex, so yup... that was a one timer, that is a definitely NO for anyone on a date, don't talk about your ex.

[Robbey]

He asked me out several times but I always turned him down because of an age gap. Eventually, I ended saying yes.

[Still-alive]

Where were you? how did he ask you out? what did he say exactly?

[Robbey]

Home, on Facebook, “Would you like to go out sometime?’

[Still-alive]

cool and how did the date actually go? did you go for more dates?

[Robbey]

It went fine and we went out again

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Last guy that was "interested" in me was a guy from my work. He told me that he thought that my joy was attractive and he wished he could bottle it up and drink it every day.

He's currently ghosting me now.

[sheikalana]

Honestly I was bored. Didn't have any expectations but I decided to give him a chance because he was very consistent. We're married now.

[Still-alive]

How did he ask you? what did he say? and where were you?

[sheikalana]

We were texting back and forth and he eventually suggested that we should see each other. At first I was hesitant but then decided to give him a chance because he seemed to be a really nice guy.

[Still-alive]

how did the first date go?

[sheikalana]

Pretty good. It was very chill we had a nice conversation and I immediately felt interested in him.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

She was a friend and I was going through a very rough period. So she wanted to get me out of the house for a bit.

That was three years ago. Now we're married with a baby daughter.

[menina]

I've never been asked out Lol I'm still waiting for this day. Hopefully I'll be asked out or ask someone out in a different language.

[mobiusforniner]

I got asked out by two different women in 6 months. And im married.

[MikeInHawaii]

It was just lunch. I didn’t think we had too much in common, but I had done her taxes and knew she was loaded.

[Phoenix98]

It’s never happened so *shrugs*

[RedThread]

Cute, funny, and confident.