Is it a bad thing if I’m a virgin at 22?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been approached before but I never really took the opportunity. I don’t like the idea of hookups and I wanted a long term commitment which is hard to find at my age especially with hookups on the rise. Is it bad thing if I’m just too busy focusing on my self? I did pursue some girls only to find out that they weren’t right for me. I want to wait but I always feel the society’s pressure to force myself to find someone. The period where I pursued girls felt like it was something I wasn’t doing for myself but rather I was doing it because of the pressure.

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Why are people looked down upon if they are not actively going out and hooking up with randoms?

[slatyb]

It's your life. Do whatever you please. "Society?" Do you mean your family and friends? You are only 22. There's no rush. If you are asked, you might just try changing the subject. That should get the message across. "Seeing anyone?" "Boy how about those Astros this year? They are tearing it up."

[Avicenna]

Not at all, don't feel pressured by anyone to do something you aren't comfortable doing. That said, if you want to lose your virginity, now would be the right time to work on that. Be sure to lose it with a girlfriend you're in a stable relationship with, even if that means waiting awhile longer- you'll be glad you did.

[Anonymous]

Don't even worry about it. First of all I really respect you for pursuing long term commitment over casual sex glad I'm not the only one that's like that lol

Second you have all of your life left and 22 is still pretty young. You'll find the right one eventually. Just keep focusing on yourself and doing good things and they'll just show up one day 🙂

[hahahmm]

Nope. And it turns out that the females who throw themselves at you... you'll later find out about the 5+ STDs they have and how they got some sucker to knock them up & pay child support for 18+ years. Not worth it.

[exitseven]

I was a virgin at 22. It was not bad.