Long story short we’ve known eachother for years and there has always been a lot of love and care between us. (Nvr been in a relationship). This year we reconnected and I allowed him to court me (i mirrored his actions) and gave him space as he said he wants to make changes in his life as I’ve inspired him to get more stable and of course that takes time. He also has stated saying he sees me in his future and it’s his intention to marry me/start a family with me but financially he’s not there yet. The feelings are completely mutual. Mind you I have never asked/pressured him to change.
he began to distance himself and I never questioned him as he explained he is focused on work/stability and growth and I felt it was valid as I know how important that is to him and again love and respect his free will and space.
anyways, I stopped initiating as the distance got farther and farther where he told me he wouldn’t see me in a month. To protect my emotions I decided to respect that and focus on myself allowing him to close the gap. Aside from him verbally telling me I can see it in his eyes and body that he’s very much in love with me and even told his friends and mother about me.
after all that and in my time focusing on me I found he was talking to someone else? my question is… why the distance? Why did he move away? And does he feel that he doesn’t have to change for a lesser women? Or is she just a placeholder and meant what he said about gathering all his bearings and then moving forward with me.
why can’t he work on these things with me in his life? I feel like the depth of his own emotions scare him :/ or I simply didn’t do enough.
