How can I control my anger?

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caring__1 · Accepted Answer

Anger management is a total waste of time. If you learn how to manage your anger, you'll spend the rest of your life managing anger. Who would want to do that?

If you don't want to be angry, look to the source... don't just focus on the symptoms or solutions. We start with expectations. Sometimes they're realistic and sometimes they aren't. Whether they're realistic or not, when our expectations don't get met, we get frustrated. We then project that frustration out as anger.

If you don't want to be angry, identify your expectations. Are they truly realistic? For instance, expecting others to change to conform to your desires will always be unrealistic. Realistic expectations would be whatever exists will continue to exist, or whatever is within my control is that which I can do. If your expectations are unrealistic, get rid of them. If you don't like your situation, find a situation you would like. Don't just sit around complaining about it and letting the anger fester inside. If your expectations are realistic (not just "this is the way things should be"), identify a path to take yourself toward your objective. Measure your progress to keep yourself motivated.

McKellar · Accepted Answer

That's okay, I'm stilling figuring this out.

Then again I know my anger is not terribly too bad to the point where I'm apprehended by the police, given a jail or a prison sentence, getting incarcerated where I'm obliged to join a jail or a prison gang and "put in work" and inevitably become a gang leader and "hold the keys" to some jail or prison and if I don't,... I "get my wig-split" or some gang leader issues a "green light" on me or "orders a hit" on me all because I'm not complying to their criminalizing demands.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

Realize that most anger is pre-determined. We make decisions in advance of the actual act, and think if someone ever does that, here is what I am going to do.

This is why when some people get cut off by another driver, they have to return the favor. They've already made the decision they are going to do the same to the other driver as done until them, but then they act like they had no choice in the matter.

The choice is always there, it is there at the time of the acting out and pre-chosen as well.

This is why people act like they had no choice in getting offended, when getting offended itself is a choice. They just chose in advance that if X = whatever they were going to get upset over it.

Think of anger the same way, I learned this awhile ago. I get offended over almost nothing and almost nothing makes me angry.

There are exceptions though, as some things I can't just not get angry over.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It helps to know first why you're so angry. If there is a root cause, you need to tackle that. My friend had MAJOR anger issues stemming from the murder of her parents. She went to therapy and learned to channel that anger differently and became a more positive person.

I don't get super angry all that often, but when I do, I know I need to step away and I usually go for a walk or do something active to channel all that energy and rage elsewhere and then I am able to really deal with it when I am calm again. The benefits are you are exchanging a negative activity for a positive one with some health benefits.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

When I thought I was impatient I tried to change myself by forcing myself to listen to other people talk through YouTube or by reading long books over 400 pages.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I take a deep breath first and walk away 🤣 before I really go all out.

Guardian45 · Answer

It's hard to believe such a pretty face could get angry, but I'll accept the fact.

My anger was a problem when I was a teen (I punched a hole in the wall at home). I took an anger management course and eventually discovered martial arts, meditation, yoga and Mindfulness. Mindfulness saved my life, but it could have just as easily been any of the other disciplines too. They are ALL good and recommended for mind control. Once you control your mind, then you can turn your anger into an effective assertive response. This is a game changer!

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

You have to control your ego, learn to swallow your pride, even if it's just for a moment.

Accept what's happened, take some steady, rhythmic breaths, zen yourself out and ask yourself what you're best course of action is.

I have a really bad temper and this has pretty much gotten it under control.

The most important step though is to realize that you're mad and remind yourself that you can't think rationally until you calm down.

mastema · Answer

exercise. exercise and then meditate while you're tired. another way is to find something you could produce by yourself be it painting, making music, anything like that, construct something. but it must be something you enjoy doing, you'll put your emotions into that output. that's another option if you don't want to exercise.

there's really no other way.

any drug use (INCLUDING ALCOHOL, NICOTINE, SUGAR) or love doesn't help and just delays it for your anger to pop up later on.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

1. Take a deep breath.

2. Walk away

3. write down your thoughts.

those are the western ways. Can take a long time.
My way… many just need a few slap for wake up call.

I use both with my kids… the latter works more effective.

laurieluvsit · Answer

An ice bath might do it... lol Then you will go from this... I HATE THE WORLD! To this... Yes I will smile, if you will let me the F*** out of here G** D*** it!

EmbraceThePain · Answer

Tons of things that may work for you.

-Yoga
-meditation
-consistent exercise
-eating healthy
-good consistent sleep
-finding a purpose (s) or goal (s)
-helping people or volunteering
-do some MMA

And more

These things done consistently and together can help you to treat your anger issue if it’s quite severe or extreme.

bennies_819 · Answer

THIS IS WHAT I DO...
1.) Pray to Jesus about
2.) write down how you feel in a daily diary
3.) listen to music
4.) medication
5.) play a game
6.) talk to someone about it,(for a relationships you can talk to people at "love is respect" if it's for relationships (its FREE))
Hope this help honey, stay sweet.

PrinceEazy · Answer

By quickly determining the consequences in a given situation.

Anger can definitely work for you or against you.

Here’s a quote from the late former POTUS Richard M. Nixon (by memory):

“There are those who may hate you. But those who hate you don’t win unless you yourself hate them. And then you destroy yourself.”

Enter Watergate…

Anger takes on many forms. It can make or break a career. It can clear up anxiety or it can cover you with shame.

As a general rule: Choose to respond. Don’t react.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Listen to songs. But positive songs on Spotify or anything.

I just go to sleep myself. No matter who is in front of me, even a teacher and if I am sitting on the front bench, then also.

Please do not get the habit of throwing things here and there. It is destructive.

Do not yell when in anger, as you may regret it later. Not may, you will definitely regret it later.

Be quiet and look questions on this site. You will feel good. Honestly.

MCheetah · Answer

Stop being so female.
Take better painkillers and hormone blockers during that time of the month.
Take up kickboxing classes and channel that anger into the bag.
Go to an anger plate smashing facility. Like The Rage Cage in NYC.

Amy10223 · Answer

Count to 10 slowly before you react to anything that gets you mad... take 5 deep breaths and think only about good things while you do... and think of something really, really, funny. If that doesn't help, find a good therapist who can find the root cause of why certain things make you angry.

SoftCliff · Answer

Try to concentrate on your breathing the moment you feel the anger. Count every inhale as well es exhale. This will keep your mind occupied. To prevent becoming angry in the first place, you must reduce the expectations of others. Try to be realistic and see everybody as an individual with different abilities and personalities (I know, the obvious stuff). And before you speak angry remember this: "speak when you're angry and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret."

lightbulb27 · Answer

Why? Bottling up means comes out somewhere else and may be worse

Answer: gain higher perspective over the issue and convert into a better motive and emotion. Might require consequences and change.

Or learn to let go and let live.

ethanallen · Answer

Do what all of your angry violent girlfriends do; take xanax. Go to your doctor and get a prescription for three pills a day. Take one every 6 hours. You will be great. Any woman who is working at a senior level in manager is one daily dose of xanax.

RedThread · Answer

'Any person capable of angering you becomes your master; he can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by him.' ~ Epictetus.

You lose when you resort to anger. If you think of it like that you're far less likely to respond in anger at least that's the case for me. You can only be free and logical if you maintain a clear mind and a level head.

Anonymous · Answer

In what situations do you get angry? How often do you feel angry? What makes it worse? What made you angry as a kid and how did you control it back then?

Think about those questions, finding the root of your reactions to situations in life is key.

msc545 · Answer

Chronic anger is complicated and dangerous, and in some cases may indicate the presence of underlying sadness and depression that you are perhaps not really fully aware of.

You would do well to get professional help from a Psychologist or counselor. There is no medicine for this problem but there is good help.

iSlipKnot · Answer

It helps to minimize the situation. Ultimately things bother us because we magnify the situation, like a magnifying glass. Taking a few steps back mentally helps me. Also, working out. The thing that angers me the most is when people lie to my face. It also helps to call bullshit when you're confident and have proof in the bullshit. It might make you even more angry to hold your tongue depending on the situation. When all else fails, distance yourself from those who don't support you.

talka20 · Answer

Angry while standing... sit n drink water n keep sitting Angry while sitting... drink water while sitting Nd lay down Angry while u lay down... sit n drink water n lay down again Try it

TransAm85 · Answer

My mom would take an Ativan or smoke weed. As a kid I didn't know wut the pipe and Kodak film tank was doing together in her dresser drawer, but I know now!

LogicalGal123 · Answer

1. Get that stock out of ur ass OR 2. Get laid OR  3. Smoke some weed... I say smoke some weed. Lol

HighValue · Answer

What kind of anger problems do you have?  What gets you angry?  What is your usual reaction to the things that make you angry?

BrickBiggems · Answer

Could you give an extra example, of how you lose your temper. Or the situation that made you think of this question?

Crafteroon · Answer

Find a method which works for you. Meditation to calm you down, exercises to drain your energy, another topic/hobby/activity to focus your attention.

fiveinthemorning · Answer

Buy a punching bag. Beat the shit out of it while thinking about your accomplishments and how hot you are.

GreatnessBack · Answer

Short answer: therapy.  Long answer, nothing is wrong with anger as long as the reason is correct. However, when anger is uncontrollable, you have other issues you need help with.

Fuentes · Answer

I just learned my anger outburst ain't a good luck and won't get me far in life & with age I have matured enough to not really get mad at anything anymore unless you purposely spark my fight or flight, which is hard to do.

Rania05 · Answer

Think before speaking, get some pastime hobby or go to the therapist if you can't control it.

1GoldTwins · Answer

Think of the consequences! If it's worth it or not!

bubblegunnn · Answer

We all have our own way to control it.. Mine is blasting music on my ear w headset in my bedroom

DoctorSex · Answer

What are your anger triggers? Kind regards, DoctorSex

sea_09 · Answer

Listen to music, take deep breaths, relax, ignore, try showing a different emotion. Control your thoughts, think positive.

Beardedman1996 · Answer

Breathing exercises, alternative anger outlets, instead of yelling and screaming, yell and scream into a pillow, instead of punching something, go out for a walk or a run and punch a tree

Adronicus · Answer

Learn to channel it into sonething more productive, its one hell of a source of motivation when channelled correctly.

jengeorge26 · Answer

Would you consider having sex with another girl? A girl that could help you control your anger with soothing sex?

OddBeMe · Answer

Dont know. We all have different reasons for short fuses. When I started a business I had to get into the mindset that “my response is all I control and determines if I make money or not.”

chokeonDaddysbigD · Answer

Let me tie you up and spank you till you calm down and be a good girl and do what your told

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Channel it into creation energy. It's the simplest way to get rid of it.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Don't punch things or take your anger out on others. The first will fuck up your knuckles and the latter might get your ass kicked.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Don't be reactive all the time. Remain quiet and don't entertain those keeping up mess

d3n0939 · Answer

avoid toxic: people, places, habits, memories

Anonymous · Answer

My philosophy: I live my life by 2 rules.  Rule 1: don't worry about the small things in life Rule 2: everything in life is small.

Anonymous · Answer

So do you just get angry for whatever situations or certain situations?

BrookeS · Answer

I masturbate hard and rough to displace my anger

Waldoe · Answer

it is very difficult... if you are a passionate person... you LOVE hard and you ANGER hard

Still-alive · Answer

Practice meditation. take a warm bath or shower.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Take yoga or karate boxing or wrestling an healthy diet

SevilleJuan · Answer

Try your best to keep everything in moderation. Staying active outside the internet. Is one way, too addictive.

dragoblack · Answer

Breath deeply, let it out slowly... then walk away and rant to yourself till you calm down

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Do what you want to do restricted in a virtual simulation.

Anonymous · Answer

Hey Read books, news paper.. Think +ve. You can roar loudly when you so much angry it reduce somany problems.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I workout or do breathing techniques sounds corny but they really work! What about you?

Con29 · Answer

I take medication for my anger DM I have a suggestion

Lynx122 · Answer

Start beating the nearest person :)

Anonymous · Answer

They have anger management courses there out there nowadays

dustybiker · Answer

A good therapist.

ZS007 · Answer

search anger management techniques

Bee-Hatch · Answer

We need a bit more if you want a considered answer

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