I have very bad anger issues. Anger cannot control me. How do you control your anger?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Think about everything in life you have been through. You made it right... understand your self more pich 5 things in life that would send you over the top. That's all you get...

There are things that you might have given someone the ok to drive your car they wreck it who are you going to be more pissed off at that person directed or you that gave him permission to drive it look it it happened it's done there's nothing you can do about it except for have the insurance deal with it and yes the angry at yourself nobody else you're the one that allowed it

Somebody cut you off driving are you going to get angry or you just going to laugh because they're in a hurry to get to the red light before you that's all

Ank ask your self in the moment are you pissed off at what just happened or have you been pissed off all day long
Some people like to yell and scream because that's who they are that's who they want to be it's a choice

The moment something happens take a deep breath and think about how important it really is I have five things in life that I cannot handle probably everything else that happens in life I can handle

If you touch a girl and she says no and he keeps touching her that pisses me off and I would hunt that guy down you hit a kid I would hunt you down you hit an elderly couple I will hunt you down you beat on your pet I will hunt you down everything else I can handle I don't like bullies I don't like loud mouths anything else in this world I can do with it I could probably deal with those five things too especially if I didn't know the people but there's a principle about it and if I'm going to get angry it's going to be for something that I believe in if it's material objects I could care less if it's something stupid I could care less if somebody tried to hurt me I could care less like I said some people love to get angry just so they can vent and throw scene and an attitude and that gives them a right to be a dick they think I think it makes them look stupid

Walt832 · Accepted Answer

Is called Anger Management Therapy 🤷‍♂️. Only a psychologists can help you.

GET IT DONE. Before it gets worst. Plus this helps you if you ever get into confrontation may get away with it knowing you have a history. Even though that isn't the case about fighting with whomever.

Example why is needed.

I have neighbor she is bipolar, lives under government help and food stamps. They have made of luxury cars and make people believe they have a business. They hate and envy, I owning a legitimate landscaping business.

They had tried to take my front curb, not allowing my trucks to be parked. I decided to buy other set of trucks to block my own curb. You ask a favor and they cursed at you, they believe they own the block. Since, I block my front curb. Sometimes I invite my employees to my home and they need a parking space. All I do is switch ups. Front neighbor gets mad.

Don't need to get physical or verbally. Just positive actions and avoid any confrontations. Since, an anger person doesn't get what they want they get mad at themselves. Is it bad? Yes, because the person is taking all the madness within, doesn't let it go, needs to find someone to fight with to feel relieved. This could lead to heart attacks or other health complications.

This is the reason people with Anger issue just please go see a psychologist.

smashleyy · Accepted Answer

most things people mentioned are just temporary fixes. Anger usually stems from unresolved emotional pain and sadly the only way out of that is through. Find out what baggage/trauma you’re still carrying with you. Acknowledge it, feel it, grieve, let it go. I myself was turning into a very angry person and was pretty oblivious to it. I had a pretty easy fuse, thought I was keeping it under wraps for the most part considering all the times I fantasized about breaking and smashing everything around me and chose to just stay seated but I’m sure others that were around me a year ago would disagree that I kept it concealed. I started my “healing journey” in September and with that I’ve noticed my anger has since faded drastically

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

My anger impulses are short, shorter than 10 seconds. I just do nothing over this time and wait until my neocortex takes the control again.

tfan1 · Answer

This might help  What do you do with the Mad that you Feel What do you do with the mad that you feel When you feel so mad you could bite? When the whole wide world seems oh, so wrong… And nothing you do seems very right? What do you do? Do you punch a bag? Do you pound some clay or some dough? Do you round up friends for a game of tag? Or see how fast you go? It’s great to be able to stop When you’ve planned a thing that’s wrong, And be able to do something else instead And think this song: I can stop when I want to Can stop when I wish I can stop, stop, stop any time. And what a good feeling to feel like this And know that the feeling is really mine. Know that there’s something deep inside That helps us become what we can. For a girl can be someday a woman And a boy can be someday a man.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's something you find that is a special, healthy thing to do. Like going to a place where they let you bash in a junk car, or throw plates. Maybe it's a work out, or dance fighting (lol) or Krav Maga. Rock climbing, punching a punching bag... For me, it's getting out of the house. I need to get out of the house. Currently, it's going to a fast food place I love and just sitting and reading. If I don't get it out, then I get pent up and punch something nearby (it's either that, or it'd be a person).

My temper isn't great on the roads, but I do better on occasion when I can remember to curb that temptation to rage. I can do ok if I keep it in check, and it's just idiocy. I'm getting better at holding it in check. But if it causes me perceived danger, like someone sideswiping me or nearly hitting me, cutting me off dangerously close, I admit first temptation is to flip them off. And I haven't figured out "a thing" that I can afford that helps. other than just trying to have fun after a stressful day. I'm quicker to avoid idiots - pull into a lot to let them by so they don't tailgate, stuff like that.

lightbulb27 · Answer

You've been hurt in life and some things are wrong. You need to heal from the inside out.

* Remove negative relationships and inputs from your life, as much as you can manage until you are better.

* Meditate - to heal your brain and eat well.

* Social support. talk to people whom are caring, understand to gain support. healing.

you are a normal human being with feelings. You may even be... highly sensitive. If you've been through some traumas in life and most of us have, if you are under a lot of stress or lack sleep, you'll be reactive. Heal.

https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/

RavVid · Answer

Count to ten does actually work but I guess you have tried that. You can build up restraint and every child does. When you feel explosive anger tell yourself you will hold it for 5. Maybe visualize yourself as a child having a tantie to give you restraint.

It is the neuro cortex which filters out these impulses and neural plasticity means we can change how we react. I for one don't want anyone to know whats under the hood. You can change. Google neural plasticity. It is not that you are an unchangeable angry person.

GoodEnoughThen · Answer

Your poat reads: Anger cannot control me. Sounds like the opposite is true: anger is controlling you. What exactly are you angry about? What triggers your anger? What is your family history of anger? Did a parent act angrily when you were a child?
Ask some questions, write down your answers, and get busy thinking and growing.
What's the opposite of anger? What puts you in a more positibe frame of mind? Focus on your attitude and perspective. Talk with people that you trust and respect or get some professional help. Go!

razelove · Answer

When I was younger I had rough sex, venting the anger is a good way to get it out. For me I vented it as much as I needed to, even if that was a couple times a day sometimes. Then go to the shooting range, maximum before a breaking point would be buy a piece of shit car for 300-500 bucks, bring it out into the woods, let it coast and shoot at it until it starts to fall apart, or the friction from shooting the same places lights it on fire.
If you get to that point though, a smarter idea is looking at what is making you so angry, maybe think about changing that part of your life.
I don't know how restrictive Pakistan is, but if you're married I doubt your husband will complain if you ride him like a mechanical bull once or twice a day until he's dry. Maybe don't do the whole shooting of cars thing, I got in trouble for that once or twice.

YourExLover69 · Answer

I myself become angry suddenly and quickly. Perhaps not getting success, not having a partner, not getting what we wanted in life makes us sensitive, fussy and disappointed.

When I'm in bad mood I try to divert my mind by relaxing, taking cold water, taking long breathes, eating ice cream, sitting in air conditioned room, listening to music, or think of positive things, going for a walk, reading a book and thinking of successful achievements of past. It usually lessen my anger.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

If you have the time! Read a lot of psychology about anger. Find the things that works for you by testing few methods to control that inner anger, it can be a hoby, playing music, taking walks etc. For example! I enjoy nature, i sit on the back porch with a cup of coffee and enjoy the sun, trees, our garden with all the flowers, the birds, butterflies, cats all just roaming around, just the sound of nature calms me down. Try to avoid the things that makes you feel angry, it can be the news, social media and ar many times it can be very close people to you and that is very difficult to avoid so try to talk to them about your anger by explaining that you are not attacking them bit try to figure out how to control the rage inside. Psychology is great and communication is even better. There is always a way to find the inner peace.

Anonymous · Answer

Try looking for things that have a calming affect, maybe certain sounds or scents or places. I use this I find jasmine to be a very calming scent but this is an anxiety thing mostly for me.

Another good way is finding someway to vent it could be something like using a punching bag, go for runs or other forms of exercise. I also do use VR from time to time for anger.

Meditation may help I'm not sure on that though.

Anonymous · Answer

Stay in your own space. Have some water. Write things down. Call up a close friend or 2 who maybe know about this and can help or calm you down. Eat something. Or maybe go outdoor for some fresh air and a walk for a change of scenery. That helps in freshening up the mind.

Anonymous · Answer

I used to.

Most of my anger came from. Trying to force life to bend to my will. 2 things changed my thinking. 1. I found God and God changed my heart. Now I look at life as a journey not some game that has to be won. 2. I stopped considering myself in competition with my peers. You can't compare yourself to others. Some people are more successful then you some are less but regardless thier life story is different from yours. So it's unfair for you to put those kind of expectations on yourself. Now I just give my best effort and trust that God will protect me. And now I'm happier then I've ever been in my life.

Leapfrog00 · Answer

Try an outlet. I do a lot of writing and that helps. Write your thoughts and feelings down on paper every time someone upsets you. You can even write a story about the person falling into a pit of lava! Hey, it's your story!

Anger is like a monster. When people see your anger, it's like feeding the monster. Some people will take advantage of you.

Write all your feelings down though! It'll help!

AaronKrieger · Answer

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CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

I usually do primal screams when I’m alone and frustrated. Either that or what I call a dollar store rage room just to find things to smash and help me take out my anger on.

collie22 · Answer

I get angered too, I'm doing better with my therapists help. Finding your trigger is a big step.

Snedger____ · Answer

It will take time. Spend your daily free times in improving yourself.. like reading, meditating, talking with positive minded people..

SirJohn42 · Answer

Go on a peaceful walk. Watch a comedy, read a book. Find your peaceful place. Breathe in and out. Laugh often find joy in things.

Also if you can't control yourself seek a professonal because your mental health is important. Also its not good for your blood pressure. Can lead to a stroke or heart attack.

Heolurt · Answer

I don't get angry often, when I do, it's always at myself, makes me think of self harming, just things about myself and the way I control my anger is I let it out, I workout extra hard and I hit the punching bag until I run out of energy and get tired because at that point I'm back to my dead emotionless state.

Wild_princess · Answer

As time pass you mature and you try to understand situations your anger issues get less

Arik_jade · Answer

Just be calm... don't answer anything... if u r in standing position, then seat down. Always remember, anger will always cause the things more worst. It will not resolve the issue.

jshm2 · Answer

Anger is the laziest emotion, I rarely get it. But you are probably getting angry as you cannot control your frustrations.

Andres77 · Answer

For starters I have to accept that I'm not better than anyone else and they don't deserve to have to deal with. my bad attitude. Humility!

Anonymous · Answer

I rarely get angry but when I do, I channel it through music which always calms me down before I end up doing something dumb like breaking stuff around the house.

DancingQueen16 · Answer

Well if I'm not really feeling great I write in my diary and that helps me

AmeerX · Answer

If you can't control your anger then you are bound for a shorter life.. Don't destroy yourself like this

BrookeS · Answer

As bad as it soumds every time my temper is going to blow i go and angerly and roughly rub one out.

Fuentes · Answer

By thinking before you DO and replaying it I'm your head how that outcome will work and taking walks when your angry.

shades777 · Answer

Seek a therapist and take some zinc, magnesium and lithum and stay the hell away from me

Anonymous · Answer

Anger, like all feelings are a choice. Once you realize that, you will stop having anger issues.

Jltakk · Answer

There's probably something much deeper going on. I recommend seeking therapy immediately.

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Miristheiss · Answer

Serenity now... Serenity now...

TheMadLad · Answer

Are you by any means named Karen?

itsalyssaagain · Answer

I try to listen to my brain

Christoff92 · Answer

Confront your ego and identify it 😊

hbg84 · Answer

GET THERAPY I REPEAT GET THERAPY

Twalli · Answer

I know and love me.

pethouse · Answer

Walk away, you might wanna get help

Anonymous · Answer

Medicine prescribed by my doctor and psychiatrist.

JonesT10Apr · Answer

I too need guidance on this

In_Trance · Answer

therapy

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