I feel depressed because I’m not in a relationship but I don’t want to date and I don’t want to have sex. What’s wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

I’m jealous of people with boyfriends because I want a relationship but the idea of a relationship makes me feel I’ll and sick to my stomach when it’s possible and I’ve never in my life wanted to have sex with someone. And before someone says it no I don’t have some hormone imbalance I’ve felt like this my whole life and I’ve never been abused or heartbroken. I still want to fall In love, what are my options and what the hell is wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

Sounds to me you just want all the positives that come with relationships without risking any of the pitfalls. I don't know you so I don't know if it's out of fear or just out of wanting to feel "normal".

My advice is you do you.

[slatyb]

“Love” is just a feeling. What do you want? What would a days be like? Are you sharing a bed with someone? A home? What happens between you?

[Asker]

We share a bed, a home, a family, all of it just just without the sex part.

[Asker]

But that’s more in long term for now I’d just want dates and hand holding and kissing etc etc

[FilmGuy93]

It sounds like you're craving a feeling of connection, but you're also scared of being vulnerable. Perhaps it would be good to explore those feelings through meditation.

[Asker]

I’ll try this but will that give me a normal want for sex because as of now that’s the scariest thing for me consider most men want sex in relationships and I’m complexly disinterested

[FilmGuy93]

It's certainly possible that you are just aesexual in general, but I think you'll probably feel a change in your sex drive when you start feeling better. It's a very normal thing to want to be wanted. Men and women just have a way of pulling that need/want out of each other.

[Berethor]

If you felt like this your whole life don't make it normal, sounds like a birth defect to me.

[Asker]

Harsh, what do you suppose I do them if I’m so odd💀

[Berethor]

Most men don't want to be in a sexless relationship, so there is no much that you can do.

[Asker]

If full narcs and murders can find love It would be ridiculous for me to never find someone. Sex isn’t that important you just lack self control and respect for women beyond sex.

[Berethor]

No sex is a dealbeaker to men, so good luck girl.

[Midgetmcwidget]

Lonely, get a dog

[Asker]

I have a dog

[Midgetmcwidget]

Get another, you can never have too many.

[Asker]

Very true

[MangoBob]

You are a female INCEL

[Asker]

An incel is an nvolentary celibate which you would know if you read from my post isn’t accurate to me lmao. I’ve been asked out but I always reject and I’m literally asexual as in I don’t feel sexual attraction at all dumbass

[MangoBob]

Lol, i’m not the one getting no dates, who is the dumbass now?

[Asker]

My post litterally says I don’t want a relationship just the idea of one so dates would be counter intuitive. The fact you can’t comprehend shit I’m saying show your dumbass honestly. You trying to prove your better because you go on dates is like lording bacon over a meat hating vegan.

[MangoBob]

I’m betting your family dog hated you too.

[Asker]

Didn’t know asking a reasonable question was grounds to hate someone? Notice you’re the only person on this thread that has an actual issue