Is there something wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

I just have terrible luck with dating. Every guy I meet always leaves me for another girl, and I do everything right and it seems like it's going to last but it never does. Is there a trick I'm missing? Am I too boring or is there a certain pizazz you have to possess that I don't have? How can I get people to like me better?

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+1 y

I think I figured out what it is I do wrong:Nope I don't even know how to have pizazz; I hate dancing (especially SEXY dancing) I don't put my tits in the air and wiggle my ass when I walk, I don't wear thongs and high heels, and I don't have DDD tits and long flowy blonde hair. I decided just to live for myself and enjoy life, I can't aim to please everyone I realize that. You just gotta do it for yourself and screw everyone else!

[kmg9150]

Define everything your doing that is right? If in fact you think you are doing everything right inclines me to think you arnt being yourself and doing what you think will keep a guy around. Guys are actually quite simple to where they would continue to have the same women in their life. Most men actually wouldn't want that from girl they are dating because its inviting to other of the opposite sex.


Often when we continue to have relationship issues of similar outcomes its because of the type of person we attract. In theory, its like the prey will attract predators, heros will attract villains, nice people will attract people that will exploit that kindness. That attraction is often molded to relationships we viewed early on in life, parents are normally core cause. It very well explains why they same keeps occurring. You have to really look deep and remember to see responses and reactions werent genuine. The hints are there, its just sad that people would rather keep there mouths closed in fear offending rather than speak up to work them out.


there's not much more to which I can say without knowing more into the relationship dynamics. People will say if they dont like you for you than forget about them and you shouldn't change, but that is only partly true to on what we are trying to achieve (I. e you can't be a person to show up late and expect a promotion, can't be Ahole and expect a lot of people to want to be your friend.) Its not ourselves which is the issue and needing to change, its our perception to things in which is needed to change. Hope that helps.

[20yearsolder]

You're doing everything right? What is everything? Here's what I would suggest, stop trying so hard. Be yourself. You want to find someone that accepts you for who you are. Not for how you act and how you think they want you to be. The right guy will be the guy that accepts you for being yourself

[Asker]

Thank you I appreciate your advice

[20yearsolder]

You're very welcome, may I give you one more little piece of advice. Stop trying so hard. Go about your daily life. You're going to meet somebody at school or at work and it's going to click. I promise it'll happen

[Asker]

Thanks

[20yearsolder]

You don't have to stick your tits out and wiggle your ass. Like I said be yourself, dress the way you want dress and you will attract guys look like that type. Trust my girl they're out there. When you least expect it is when you'll find one

[Justarandomsadguy]

You don't have to do anything to make people like you. Just be the best version of yourself. Independent, fierce and strong. And then, trust me... The right one will come to you. I personally find women who are independent and smart really attractive regardless of their looks. Having said that... Looks also matter, lol. I know staying single is a choice but love is essential dear. People do change for love. But it depends on what you love the most. It can be ur partner or your career or both. If u r passionate about your job, you work tirelessly and when u get tired ur loved ones motivate you and then u get a sense of responsibility and u find the motivation to do ur job. So if u see, it like a cycle. No matter what u do in life... It will always end in love. So take ur time, there's no hurry. Know yourself better, love yourself better and jump into the ocean whenever you FEEL like jumping.

[Asker]

You're right maybe I need to focus solely on work and college

[Danny_dan92]

Dating these days is very difficult. So be prepared because due to this fact a lot of people are gonna remain single or if they find themselves in a relationship they’ll either cheat or get cheated on

[Asker]

You may be right, just stay single and enjoy life!

[Danny_dan92]

Correct

[es20490446e]

Just be the kind of person you wanted to date yourself, focus on the people that like that, and forget about the rest.

[Asker]

Thank you

[es20490446e]

You are welcome 👍

[Adam1978]

In that case what do the women that wins over you have or do that you don't? Or are you targeting players that always rotate. You should find the flaws in your tactics because you clearly doesn't do something right.

[Asker]

That's my question? Is it because I hate dancing?

[Adam1978]

Not likely, unless you date guys that love dancing. Plenty of guys would love to skip that. So don't pick up guys on a dance floor and you probably going to be fine in that regard.

[Asker]

True... I'm just gonna focus on myself and my career

[Truthatanycost]

It's a cliche but it's all about the relationship / love you have for yourself. we seek what ever we lack...

[Kaneki05]

You don't know how to have pizza? I would say so then yes lol.

[Asker]

Pizzaz not pizza I'm taking the question down. I decided relationships are for the fucking birds!

[Kaneki05]

Oh Pizzaz! Lmao I've legit never seen that word in text before so that really didn't trigger in my head.
You'll find someone just takes time and the right person, I mean you can decide to think screw relationships but honestly all that will do is make you regret that you stopped looking for one later on.

[Asker]

You're right giving up is not the answer I just need more time