Weird for a girl you just met to be in a towel in front of your boyfriend?

[Jane_Cagle]

We just met my boyfriend's roommate and she wasn't very interested into getting to know me.

I would ask her about herself like how she liked yoga and stuff but she would interrupt and only talk to the guys. The only times she would talk to me was when my boyfriend would so "Oh Jane likes that" then she would be very fast to end the topic of the conversation.

I thought ok, she doesn't have to like me now, we can just get to know each other later. After that she took a shower and came out in a towel asking my boyfriend for conditioner. Not her boyfriend who was there and not me who was there. But specifically my boyfriend, then instead of just letting him get it she followed him to the place to get it in a towel which even he thought was weird.

If it was just the towel thing i would be fine. If it was just the not wanting to talk to me id be fine. But the two together and that this is the first time I'm meeting her it felt very weird. Plus she does not live there, this is the second time she's been to the place.

I said it made me uncomfortable to my boyfriend and he said i was being a prude.

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by the way. I’m dumb and didn’t write that the girl is the roommate’s girlfriend. She doesn’t live there and that was the first time meeting each other.

It’s not about trust in my boyfriend. It’s the kind of passive mean vibes I got from the girl and the weird situation.

[DannyUk2017]

Roomate/Girl/Towel? 🤔
Not paying attention to discution, but getting at you being rude? 🤔
Following him in the bathroom and asking HIM for her stuff? 🤔
Sorry for my answer but all this "cocktail"... seems they are fucking like mad one with eachother.
I'm scared to reveal EVERYTHING that goes through my mind reading your story... Honestly Mortifies Me (and i'm 40).
Been through THIS SITUATION TWICE, and i know how it feels, gow it ends, and honestly is not a Pretty Picture... For You!

[Jane_Cagle]

This is the first time both of them has met and she doesn’t live there :(

[DannyUk2017]

So how come "she" became his room mate? Did they chat before? Do you live with him also? 🤔

[Jane_Cagle]

She is the roommates girlfriend

[Jane_Cagle]

I do not live with them. She’s only been to the apartment twice

[DannyUk2017]

Well still is a fucked up situation, that means she wants to get rid of her boyfriend and get on to yours..

[Guy13]

That's a frightening woman. Stay far away from her. She downright Evil tempting him and taunting you simultaneously. Good thing about this unnecessary action IS... You are going to learn much about the character and integrity of your boyfriend. Hang out and chill AND do not jump up all in the middle it. You do that and she wins..."your girlfriend doesn't trust you... I trust you."

Is this rambling making sense?

[Jane_Cagle]

Yes. :( I’m gonna be patient and just watch. I trust my boyfriend but it’s the weird vibes from the girl that bothers me. I’ve had toxic friends in the past that would do this stuff and my gut and my friends told me that it’s weird. But I didn’t listen and I want to learn from my mistakes.

So I’ll be nice to her but I’ll be on my toes around her

[Guy13]

No Doubt ‼️ Lots of women come on to me plainly if I’m with someone. I mean grab my ass leaning up on the bar when they think I’m spoken for.-Same girls who were not interested…I considered been friendzoned girls. Women….

[JosyJosy]

It's not weird, it depends on the circumstances. I'm in the same kind of situation right now, and it isn't weird. Just different. But your story, she's suspicious I tell you that. She's pretty rude.

[DermalPunch]

She sounds mental and your boyfriend is wrong. She was very disrespectful. Perhaps you are pretty and she's an insecure that.

[DermalPunch]

Twat

[Jane_Cagle]

Thanks :( I think it hurt that my boyfriend took the side of a girl he knew for a day rather than me his girlfriend of 8 months.

I’m gonna be able quiet and nice to her but I don’t trust her. I want people in my life who let me exist without making me feel bad about it :c

[FilmGuy93]

Meh... it's too informal for talking to someone else's guests. I can certainly understand why it made you uncomfortable. That said, you are technically in her house, so if anyone is allowed to be a little too comfortable in that situation; it's her.

[Jane_Cagle]

It’s not her house. She’s been to their apartment twice :(

[FilmGuy93]

Oh... yeah, that's a bit strange then.

[ElvenMr]

You are not prude, it is weird behaviour. She knows it's your boyfriend, so she might be testing his loyalty to you. Or she is just simply acting like a bitch lol and trying to steal your boyfriend from right under your nose, cause she thinks she is much better looking and she deserves him more then you.

If she keeps doing stuff like this ask her to stop, or speak with your boyfriend about this, and how you think this is not right.

[Jacobbbb]

Yeah she doesn't sound good at all. Keep yourself and your boyfriend as distanced from her as you can even if it's easier said than done since they're both roommates

[Jane_Cagle]

Sorry, I wrote the post wrong. She doesn’t live there and it’s his roommates girlfriend. That’s the second time she’s been to their place and the first time I met her

[lightbulb27]

Girls are weird so no. She has emotional control issues at minimum. It’s a female…


Your boyfriends response is naive and I don’t trust him because he doesn’t see through her manipulation.


Good luck…

[dustybiker]

Trust your boyfriend? If so then no worries.

[Jane_Cagle]

It’s not really about trust. He has a friend who sends him sexy stuff a lot. But the thing is that girl is super nice to me and I think that’s just the way she is. This girl makes me feel bad. Like I’m in highschool with a girl who hates me for existing.

[dustybiker]

Has she openly spoken her thoughts to you? If not her behavior could mean any number of things.

[Jane_Cagle]

That is true :( she has compared her weight to me several times when I first met her which made me feel odd

[dustybiker]

Sound kinda sounds insecure herself.

[Jane_Cagle]

Tbh I’m pretty insecure, but I don’t want a girl to feel like she’s competing with me. I’m more of insecure but working on it. Her making a lot of the comments on weight, excluding me form conversations in addition to the towel thing made me feel like she just wanted to make me uncomfortable

[Blackcosmo]

Her behaviour is very strange and it sounds like she's testing you.

[Jane_Cagle]

The guys thought she was so nice to me cause she didn’t say mean things. But I feel like ignoring can be mean on its own. And she doesn’t live there and she kept comparing our weights which felt super uncomfortable

[Blackcosmo]

Yeah I can definitely see that she seems bothered by you. She's probably trying to annoy you.

[zagor]

Wait, she's his roommate and it's the second time she's been there?

[Jane_Cagle]

Sorry I forgot to write his roommates girlfriend

[zagor]

OK that's a big difference.

[Wise4myage]

Yeah, that's a bit odd, and I bet she likes your boyfriend. Or, she is just very open about such things.

[Wise4myage]

Its still odd to me, but maybe she is just a free spirit about such things.

[headoncrash]

I have never had a woman as a roommate. Sounds like she is trying to get you jealous.

[Anonymous]

Nah, nothing wrong with her being in just a towel. I agree with your boyfriend. You were a bit prudish.

[Anonymous]

she did that to make you jealous like your her competition

[Jane_Cagle]

The weird thing is, she kept comparing our weights which was something she seemed insecure about cause she mentioned it a lot.

[Opinion Owner]

jealousy and sees you as the competition

[Jane_Cagle]

I think this relationship I have with the girl is going to be though then :/ I’ve had competitive friends and it was agony.

I don’t want to exist just to be constantly compared to another person. Im gonna be nice but I won’t trust her.

Thank you :(

[Anonymous]

It would make me wonder that's all.

[Xtendable]

She doesn’t like to be upstaged

[Avicenna]

It’s kind of odd