Am I wrong for feeling bad he made me walk home at 4am?

[Anonymous]

It has been a really hard week and my date today didn’t go well. When I called my friend he invited me over. I know it’s just booty call with a friends with benefits, but I was kind of hurt when he said he had to get up early for church and kicked me out.

First my date, who I thought was a nice guy, just wanted a hookup and then my friends with benefits makes me do the walk of shame. Maybe I’m just cold and tired but I’m feeling a little used right now.

[rip999]

You feel the way you do because you put yourself in that situation. I'm a decent guy. Looking for a long term relationship. If I found out the girl I was dating had a friends with benefits I'm out. Leave the friends with benefits. Now, the date. Guys are like that. A LOT of them are. You just have to be patient and find the needle in the haystack. If it was easy it wouldn't be appreciated as much don't you think? Us humans want everything to be easy. Don't get bumbed out. Just... learn the patterns. You can tell when a guy just want to fuck or actually take you serious. NOT BY HIS WORDS but by his actions. Let him lead. Just don't sleep with him. If I was dating a girl for about a week I would attempt to sleep with her as a "test" if I smash she's a pass. Why? She slept with every other guy! If she says no. I can tell she's different. Now she's something special to me

[FilmGuy93]

I mean... you were being used, yeah, but that's what a lot of friends with benefits relationships look like. You haven't formed connections with men who make you feel valued and cherished, and feeling cherished is what you needed in that moment. It's not necessarily your fault that that has happened, but it something you need insist on getting from men in the future.

Part of the reason I'm so careful about who I make an friends with benefits is that the "F" stands for "Friends." I want the woman I'm sleeping with to genuinely be my friend. I want to be comfortable with having her sleep over, come with me to the cook out later, or simply watch tv in my living room while wearing my t-shirt in the morning.

[Anonymous]

You can't really say you feel used when that is basically what friends with benefits is sex with no strings attached. They really need to remove the friends part because very rarely is anyone ever friends when they enter a friends with benefits

My point is, you knew when you made the decision to go there that it was just for sex and you still chose to go. I'm sorry but you have to take some responsibility here.

It doesn't sound like you can mentally or emotionally handle friends with benefits my advice end it now.

[KrakenAttackin]

This is a FUCK BUDDY, there is no such thing as a "Friends With Benefits".

[Opinion Owner]

@KrakenAttackin oh my goodness I know that. I basically said that in my opinion. As for you saying there is no such thing as friends with benefits well clearly op thinks it is a friends with benefits situation so does hundreds of other people out there who also use the term friends with benefits

[KrakenAttackin]

Op.. "Friends With Benefits" is a term girls came up with because they couldn't stand the whore connotation of "Fuck Buddy", just own it.

[Asker]

Well I thought he was my friend. I have fuck buddies and friends with benefits. FWBs are friends and we end up having sex. Fuck buddies are like one nighters that continue. It’s not that he fucked me and kicked me out. It hurts because my friend kicked me out. Plenary of guys have treated me like that. I didn’t think my friend would.

[Ms_Facesitter]

You kind of are. You chose a friend with benefits. Sex is all you can count on when it comes to him. If you want a walk home, you must aim higher and get an actual boyfriend.

But the date going wrong is out of your control, I am sorry that happened :(

[Asker]

He has been my friend for years and we have been physical with each other when we’re single. Because who better to be intimate with than people you love and care for?

He knows me so well and we became friends with benefits because I didn’t want to lead him on and be that girl that friendzones her best guy friend. So we support each other emotionally and physically. We aren’t a couple because we would never work out. He has a great, loving family that is very religious and I have a dad I never met and a mom that wishes I was never born and turned a blind eye to her boyfriends who abused me.

Maybe he just finally realized I’m trash and should be treated like it.

[Truthatanycost]

You went on a date expecting to get the girlfriend treatment because you thought he was a nice guy... while you were messing around with another man in a friends with benefits situation that you knew was a booty call. If you continue on this path, you will end up unable to bond, with a void and a hatred for yourself and eventually other men. You are complaining about feeling used when you were panning on using the nice guy for a free meal, and the other guy for sex.

[Asker]

You’ve never turned to a friend when you’re hurt? It was my fault that he pretended to be a nice caring guy when he wasn’t? It was a first date. We weren’t even a couple or exclusive. I wasn’t using anyone, just going out.

[Phoenix98]

Yeah it’s not the nicest thing in the world to do but also doing this kind of stuff at 4am isn’t the best time either.

and he’s a friends with benefits the sole purpose of that kind of relationship is using each other to fulfill physical needs nothing else. You shouldn’t expect anything more then that.

[20yearsolder]

Yeah you should feel like you were used. Next time when he calls don't go. Say remember the time you made me walk home, that's not going to happen again. If you want some pussy you know where I live

[spartan55]

Stop allowing yourself to be treated that way. Start by never talking to that friends with benefits shithead again.

[FunkyMonkee]

Yeah, you ARE wrong! If I were you, I'd have been SUPREMELY PISSED!!! Why would YOU feel bad that he did that? HE should feel bad about it, NOT you!!

[Fireguy17]

That is pretty rude.
You need to find someone who will treat you better, no one should be treated like that.

[Heolurt]

As a female who holds the power to sex, you put yourself into those situations, stop making stupid decisions and you won't feel used, people can't use you unless you let them.

[Jennifer1999]

I wouldn’t have anything to do with either one of those dicks!

[Anonymous]

What you should feel bad about the most is that you were a willing partner in the way you were mistreated.

[KrakenAttackin]

If you are seen as just a fuck buddy you will be treated as a fuck buddy. Next time call an Uber.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Lol you think you are princess?😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 well done boys.

[Bklynbadboy12]

This is your fault people will only do to you what you let them do. Stop letting people use you and stand up for yourself

[CarolineW]

He's definitely one for the trash can

[Anonymous]

If you don't want to feel used; then you shouldn't let people use you.

[Guy13]

That’s horrible of him in my book

[exitseven]

You do this to yourself by letting guys use you.

[Googlemyahoo]

Lol wake up early for church. Low.

[joeldalton]

Lmao. Thats what you signed up for.

[Wise4myage]

You need to rid yourself of that clown.

[Randalama]

This must be troll?