Dating while starting new career?

[Anonymous]

If you recently had a first date with someone and it went well but the other person was starting a new job/career, would you hold off asking them out again while they can focus on that instead of a new relationship?

[Pinay_ako]

If you tell me to hold off dating you coz of my new career, that means you’re not that into me. I won’t waste yours or my time and I’d thank you for the first and probably last glorious date we just had. It’s like giving me a lame excuse that you’re not that into me

[Asker]

I am the one starting the new job…I think he is trying to give me space but i am also my own adult, but he is very career focused and driven so I think it’s his perspective

[ArrowheadSW]

It depends on how much focus it takes for them to start the new career.

I was dating a young lady when I graduated from grad school when I was 23. So I was starting a new career when I was dating her. It really enhanced my life being involved with her at the time and helped lower the stress. So for me it was a big plus.

[BCA6010]

One of the dumbest pieces of advice I've ever been given, and repeated myself is that you should put relationships on hold while establishing yourself in your career. They aren't mutually exclusive, and you're much more likely to achieve a sense of fulfillment with a family than chasing a job.

[watercolor_lions]

No, I'd let them make their own decision and decline if they want to.

It's not that healthy to be consumed by your job to the point of cutting out friends and hobbies anyway. You are a break from work, which is healthy. Refreshing.

[20yearsolder]

Absolutely not, I don't know why people can't juggle a career in a relationship with the same time. If you're meant to be together you can make it work. That person will understand that you're not available at this time because of your career and you need to be flexible with them and their career

[Chaser3232]

Let that person settle and find balance. However, be supportive, unless you see things changing! Who knows, maybe things will get much better. Don’t be the distraction and talk to your future partner. Take the ride and not just the win, it goes both ways!

[Asker]

I am the one who started a new job not him, is he trying to give me space?

[Chaser3232]

God for him, just don’t let him flounder, make it point to check on him!😎

[Chaser3232]

Sorry! That was supposed to have said, “Good for him”

[Honest-Matt]

Keep it mindful and considerate, nothing wrong with dating during a career change but you can certainly be a supportive and understanding presence while he focuses on his career while you guys find time to date.

[Honest-Matt]

Whoops thought he was starting the new job. Same thing applies, be communicative and disciplined with your time.

[JFelix]

Honestly just depends on who the person that your going into a relationship with is like, a partner can really improve their life by adding happiness into their life making the person able to relax once they get home from a stressful day at work

[FilmGuy93]

I probably wouldn't hold off, honestly. Neither relationships nor career really take up THAT much time, unless you're in shitty ones and even if they did; the reality is that people make time for what they want to make time for.

[nickaboy]

Never, quit dating a man cause he us focused on a goal. If he really likes u it can break his focus. That is on him. If you break his heart and he loses focus you will create a monster and that will be on you

[Asker]

In this situation im the one that started a new job not him

[nickaboy]

Also In that case still keep dating him. Cause if you can't be together with him when starting a career. Then he shouldn't be wanting to date you at all when you have a career. 🤷🏻‍♂️

A good men values 2 thing in a women
Loyal and caring. A man doesn't care if you have money or not

[spartan55]

That's like saying "I don't think you can walk and chew gum"

[pizzalovershouse]

You can date if in same area of where you live just take it slow but date every other day an keep the chats up to let him know you like him

[maximumpower]

Absolutely.
Girlfriends/boyfriends come and go, but a career is a long-term issue.

[RavVid]

That is their decision not yours.

[Asker]

I am the one starting the new job not them

[RavVid]

Oh. Well it is your call then. Work is work. After work is After work.

[exitseven]

No, if they really liked you they would make time.

[Jamie05rhs]

No. Lol. That's dumb.

[SayCheez03]

it can work out! go for it.

[Onashir]

No you never know u might compliment each other

[jimmy2]

Not advisorabal