Girls, how do you handle it when you’re not happy in a relationship? Guys what would you expect/would like to see/hear?

[Anonymous]

I get needy, I have needs too, I can get really frustrated and resentful if I feel disrespected unwanted and unloved… I don’t know how to express it without whining or make it sounds negative and like something he’s doing wrong (even if for me I feel it is wrong and I would leave if I don’t get it, why would I stay in this relationship otherwise) I feel bad for asking/expecting anything from him I value freedom and privacy a lot myself but at the same time I am needy. Is something wrong with this or how do I communicate this with a man?

[LazerBean]

Do you feel that way because he is giving you a valid reason to feel that way, or do you just feel that way for no reason? Of course I think you should communicate those feelings to him, but if he is not at fault then you are the one who is going to have to fix yourself.

[Asker]

Well he’s just ignoring my messages while probably texting other women which drives me mad of course. He said he wanted to date me but he is doing that, is it valid from him as he doesn’t owe me anything or should I just let it go, I think it’s just rude I feel so disrespected…

[Asker]

Thanks for the reply

[LazerBean]

What makes you think that he is ignoring you for other women though? Why is that the reason you think he's ignoring you, as opposed to work or something else?

[Asker]

Mmh fair point… well we sort of agreed on that, that he was texting other women, and so that’s what’s jumping to my mind when he’s been ignoring me

[LazerBean]

Well I would say if he said he wanted to text other women in that way while he was dating you, and you aren't happy with it, then you should probably move on and not agree to things like that on the future.

[Twalli]

If she's not happy with it, I want to know if there's anything I can do to fix it. If I am willing to do it, I will try. If I am unwilling, then the best thing to do is end it. If there's nothing I can do to fix it, then we should also end it. At this point I am dating with the aim of marriage, if we won't work out then it isn't worth continuing any longer.

[boggboss]

If there are issues and u want them fixed surly speaking about them is the best thing no

[Asker]

Yes, I’m getting a bit emotional tahts the issue, thanks for the reply 😊

[Anonymous]

Does he give you any valid reasons to feel this insecure?

[Asker]

Yes, I also have an ‘insecure attachment type’ 🙃

[Opinion Owner]

That's you. I'm talking about him.

[Asker]

I see, thanks for replying 😊 yes he’s leaving me on read for weeks. I find it very disrespecting. Sounds like he’s playing with me obviously but I don’t think he is I actually trust him. he’s very independent and yeah I don’t know he doesn’t seem ready for a relationship. What I know is that it’s definitely pushing my own buttons so I’m gonna leave him for now anyway.

[Asker]

Would you have any advice based on that?

[Opinion Owner]

I agree with you, I think that's a bit disrespectful. If I were you I would blow him off for a while and see how he reacts. If he's interested, he'll change his behavior. If he's not, then you'll know you did the right thing. Good luck.

[Asker]

Thanks 😊

[Anonymous]

I want to hear the truth.

[Asker]

Very well said I care a lot about truth too thanks a lot for your reply

[Opinion Owner]

You are welcome.