Where do I go from here?

[LonelyAndBig]

I just recently turned 28 years old. Obviously, I am approaching my 30s. I can even tell I am aging and no longer look like that "young man" I used to look like.

Right now, I have gotten my career jumpstarted. I am a software engineer and I make a decent salary. Financially at the moment, I am trying to build myself back up.

What saddens me and tears me apart the most is the fact I have never had a real girlfriend. I feel like socially, I have been left behind and I have not progressed much. Meanwhile, most of my peers are married with kids, at least most of them I have really known growing up.

It saddens me that there is now another generation of "youth" that is here. There are so many attractive teens and young women, however, I have maxed out and become too old for them. Most good women age are already taken and married, and I now left with single moms, divorced women, and women with extensive histories.

[chicosuave]

I went depressed at 29. Cried a lot but managed to pass through the emotions. Slowly you become numb to it but it takes time. Well depends how strong you are. I learned to accept it but I'm Latino. For some reason I suck at talking to girls I got rejected by a lot of girls and never had a girlfriend after my three year relationship. Or even a single date. At first I thought there was something wrong with latinas since thats the only thing I wanted to date but then I expanded my options but it was the same. But the thing is that Caucasian women gave me more opportunities to date them and mate with them but not any other race which I thought Caucasian women were more stuck up but I was wrong. Girls in the Latino community have formed the same believe system as the American women in general. So it's not a race issue. I used to think it was a race issue but it wasn't its the American culture we live in. The reason I'm saying this is because I went to south America and i immediately started dating girls who wanted to be in a relationship with me. All this time I thought there was something wrong with me but I had nothing wrong. It gave me enough hope to find someone and love again. What I'm gonna do is work in the mean time then go and find a girl in south America and bring her to the states. a lot of American men doesn't matter the race do the same. Why no me. But either way I'll just live my life and continue on my mission

[LonelyAndBig]

Thanks man. Although, you have at least been in a long term relationship before. I haven't. I am starting to think American women are the problem too.

[chicosuave]

I mean the girl I had wanted a rich dude good looking and she was delusional. That's why we broke up but They technically are. Here's the question, why is it that most women in western countries are the hardest to date? Because of the mentality they have. Also American men who go to Asian countries get married quickly and come back with a family but it happens a lot in countries who are not from the first world. Obviously I'm not saying every guy goes through the same trouble. Some are more born lucky then others but there's a large amount of American men who struggle. A small story, I went to Colombia the plane was packed by all American men, they were all singing, wasting there money drinking abunch of shots. At the time I wasn't understanding why. Once I got to Colombia I turned on tinder and "boom!! in the first day I was matching with 50 women wanting to go out for a date and they are super hot. Way hotter then the latinas in America. In my two weeks I was already dating two girls who wanted more and I couldn't believe my eyes. I had sex in the beach at night it was unbelievable. Yet both of those girls wanted more. Plus I had other girls who wanted to go out but I could not handle it. I didn't know how since in never had that much abundance. Another time in Mexico when I was in my younger 18 teens a Mexican girl asked me out and was my girlfriend in a week. All I had to do is ask them out. I took action. If you go to these countries and never try then of course it will never happen. But it's much easier then in western countries general. Not all. But coming to my conclusion I do think it's a first world problem. Or else men would not be traveling to other foreign countries to find a normal girl to build a relationship.

[Chris_Morgan]

You're only 28 man, lol.

I'm not perfect looking and I was meeting all kinds of women still at 36 years old when I became single again. I'm 42 now and I plan to start dating in a few years at 44 or 45 and hopefully start another long relationship. You just need to cheer up, work on yourself, and use the internet to find whoever you're looking for.

It's never too late until you're dead. Good luck.

[glennos89]

Don't look at it so negative! There is nothing wrong with a woman who already has kids, got divorced or have a history! At least they already learned from previous relationships on what faults not to make. It saves you a lot of unnescecarry headaches 😉

[Anonymous]

Holy shit. I can't go a full 15 secs on the internet without a guy being attracted to teens….

[LonelyAndBig]

Because they are cute and attractive. Part of nature.

[Opinion Owner]

No theyre NOT. Oh my god STOP. Jfc. Men are sick!

[Anonymous]

Cases like this just make me mad