**It Has Been Nearly a Year Since the Breakup and I Vented All of That Time to Him... I am Not Saying I'd Go Back as a Couple, But I don't Mind Having Him in My Life... Regardless of Why I Decided to End It. Any Thoughts on How to Handle All of This Now? I am Done Venting. We Have Been Talking, On and Off. xxoo
u How likely are you to find someone else and start dating if they know you are still "friends" with your ex. Very few guys will trust that situation.
Make a list of all the reasons you broke up with him. Consider each one individually. Has anything changed that will make that reason not reappear, or is it likely that you will encounter the same problem again?
And does he have a different heart now? Doubtful. The second time around rarely works any better than the first time.
Thanks for MHO!
OK you don't mind having him in your life but how would you feel if he wasn't in your life at all?
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The definition of an ex is someone from your past. It's generally not a good idea to make them part of your present or future. Usually better to move on and find someone else to have a relationship with.
I've been there before. More than one occasion! Over time, people grow, and sometimes the person you're meeting now is not the same one you knew then. You may still have feelings for him and may not even know it. The mind plays games with the heart.
If you want to remain friends and not go any further, it's important to be straight forward with him right now in the point in time, and explain you want nothing more, in case if he does get the wrong idea, even if it was his idea to become friends.
Even if you believe you want nothing more than friends, there may still be some love there brewing inside you because we as humans never have control over our hearts, and then we try to stop ourselves, and we can't! If you don't want anything more, just be careful not to get too close to him because there may be something about him, some nice thing he does for you, something he says, something that may attract you to him again. It may be a good idea to hang out in public, rather than one on one in private because at least in public, you have distractions. When it comes to private, private is more intimate, giving you more of a chance to be personal, and not hide yourself, like people do in public. Maybe when you hang out with him, do it with friends, so you can avoid getting too close.
This is definitely a "Tread waters carefully" situation. Good luck!
You and your ex can continue to have a friendly relationship as long as both of you are able to communicate and respect each other's boundaries. If you don't want to pursue reconciliation, make sure that your interactions with him remain platonic and don't get into any emotionally charged conversations that could lead to misunderstandings or arguments. Keep things light and friendly and treat him as you would any other friend. Try to establish a new dynamic and avoid getting too personal or discussing relationship issues that may be lingering and still present. Prioritize your own well-being first and avoid being overly invested in his life or feelings.
It's fine to choose to be friends, just be sure to have very clear boundaries (and ask for his directly as well). If you're not still hurting from the relationship then go for it. If the friendship doesn't persist then that's that. But if you feel like your boundaries aren't being respected if you guys do become friends, just walk away. You don't want to get pulled back into whatever split you guys up to begin with.
'Any Thoughts on How to Handle All of This Now?'
Yes. Try asking yourself why you cannot fully move on in wisdom and peace. This is a very common behavior where a person feels the need to invite what will always end in either more toxicity, drama or a lack of peace and disappointment. How you handle this... is by not handling it at all. But if you insist on doing so, one must ask themselves why!
ooooo I dont know why you invited me to this question considering im going through the same thing. However if you just want to stay friends, do everything in a friendly manner. It may be hard (it was for me) but in time it'll be like you guys are friends again.
@hiyamotherfers lol!!! I didn't Know I Invited. Thanks Though for Coming. IT IS Hard Because I Dumped Him but Yet------God is Talking in Another Common Sense. xx
Ugh it is so hard. and worse after he ghosted I tired to replace him and it didn't really work, after a couple months he finally messaged me saying how sorry he was and that it was one of the biggest mistakes of his life. the only reason he never messaged me was because he thought I had blocked him. He kept up with the sweet stuff saying how he thought about me almost everyday and how little things reminded him of me. In truth even though I was over him it was the same kinda thing for me. Sorry about the rant but thats what is going on here
Don't fall in a trap girl. He might just be horny and want to use you. Don't ever do a mistake of trusting his words.
Opss so sorry I was replying to @hiyamotherfers forgot to mention her 😄
@Taurusmoon we've been talking casually for a while now
@hiyamotherfers personally I would never talk to a guy again who ghosted me and would never trust his words. What if you fall for him again and he ghosts you again? Anyways girl it's just my opinion it's you who has to decide.
@Taurusmoon if he ghosts me again then I'm gone and he knows that. He knows my boundaries and he knows he better not cross them. I used to be different when we were talking and couldnt stand if we didn't talk every. single. day. but now I can go weeks without talking to him and be fine. He however cannot
@hiyamotherfers sounds good
Paris , the negative is , emotionally , even despite the fact that you ended the relationship you haven't fully moved on , having him hanging around is only going to hinder you , its time for something " new " that was a year ago , time to move on hun , if he's dagging around you will put off all those other suitors.
I left my ex over 20 years ago and we got back on speaking terms about 5 years ago, we even spent a fair bit of time together socially at our daughters wedding a few years ago. I don’t think I could ever get back with them though, even for a one off, but I admit I have thought about it.
Same. It seems I was invited to comment. Well, here goes. I’d drop all contact with him. I think it’s odd keeping up contact with someone like that. It’s like subconsciously you’re not totally over him or something. You do what you think it right, but I’d move on to someone else and forget this guy. I’d be be a little cautious because he might try yo sabotage future relationships.
Stop, just stop. You know fully damn well it's not a good idea.
People, life is simple. We just over complicate everything. They're an ex for a reason and if you still have feelings for them then of course it's not a good idea. Stop treating your ex like they are special, they not. There's so many people on earth you haven't met, but you still hung up over a guy that ain't all that special.
Stop living in the past, stop making excuses, just act right and move forward.
open heart- open mind, have no expectations and just let it develop organically, leave it up to whatever happens, happens. in the end there is no wrong choice, there is what you do and what you don't do-
Contact with your ex will likely be a problem for men in your future, so unless you are trying to get back together you shouldn't be talking.
Completely agree 💯
@DextroShade completely agree 💯
It’s not a good idea to stay friends with ex.
If you don't mind having him as a friend then you should keep him in your life. However, if the relationship didn't end well and you don't want him in your life, then you should move on.
When it comes to ex's, I believe that going backwards is useless. Why do you think you want him in your life? You've proved you don't need him, and you were the one who let him go. So why, and be really honest with yourself if you can?
Seems like you have feels for the dude.
I would love it for my exs to feel the same way about me. I'd say give it another chance. Otherwise why did u even reply to him in the first place?
Come on, Paris. This looks like you are cutting the dogs tail off a little bit at a time so it does not hurt too much
Oh, Like a Bandaide, @exitseven xx
Have you completely moved on from him emotionally?
If this is the case then I don't think it's a good idea to be friends with him again. It feels little weird like at some point you guys were couple and you guys will be talking as friends again. You may remember those sweet bitter moments or may be tempted to vent to him again. Moreover you have not moved on from him yet so deep down u may expect his msgs, get sad when he doesn't do that. You may feel bad when he talks to you about other women. So please I don't think there is a need of being friends with him who couldn't prove to be a good boyfriend. Like he is an ex for a reason right. So I think it's best to cut off all contacts from him and his memories.
Even that's the reason I think you will get hurt staying friends with him. Just my perspective. It's up to you what you wanna do😊
You have to set the workable boundaries, as does he. Talk about this and decide what you need to do.
I'm still friend with a handful of my exes. Where do you go? Same place you go with your other friends. They're not special/different now.
Nope. Not if you're just friends. That's your mistake.
"not saying I'd go back as a couple"... so you're not getting back together, so he's not a partner, he's a friend and those get treated differently than partners/potential partners, or it muddies the waters and leads them on
Frankly, I don't know how some people manage to do this, but in general, I would like to say that I do not believe in any way that a person can remain friends or friends with the lover they broke up with.
Imagine, you hold his hand, look into his eyes, experience something and make yourself believe that you remained friends after breaking up?
Then someone else will enter that person's life, he will be in love with someone else, someone else will touch him personally, I would not accept such a thing.
Oh Boy
Well be safe and don't hurt you again
What are you to Biden and Trump
Knock it off. You two are grown, your not 5 years old no more
Don't you think if you two keep hurting each other. It's time to walk away and stay apart for good
How to handle this? How should I know? It depends on what you want XD
If you just want to keep him as a friend I don't see anything wrong with it. I stayed friends with one of my exes. My wife knows we used to date. There's nothing going on between us
You're welcome 😊
He’s an ex for a reason, I know we change as we get older but if you’re talking and have become friends, I would just leave it as friends.
Not knowing the reason that you dumped him. Sometimes people do change. Or mature.
So tread lightly and follow your gut.
Forget about him unless if you want him back... And are you sure he wants you back. Dont make another mistake
There is no rule that he can’t be your friend.
@KatherineJ Being LDR, I Did... Ug. xx
Of course she has the right to be his friend; no one suggested otherwise. But having the right to do something doesn't make it the right thing to do.
This will go nowhere good. You can’t be friends with an ex. It prevents one from moving on and causes problems with future relationships
I have no advice for someone insecure enough to go backwards. That just proves no one else wants you which makes you appear undesirable
You may have had many guys but from a man's perspective you circling back looks like you don't have options. And if you have had many guys why go backwards?
You go to Denny’s and work it out and you get back together
listen carefully
never talk to an ex
now go and block that guy or girl
Your making a big mistake. Just move on how can you get over someone and there still in your life. Just move on he's your ex for a reason
Find another guy for dating. Take back your Ex as your friend. I think you must start over.
hard question for me cause i have never been in a relationship. if you want to have him in your life maybe be just friends🤷♀️
can you make yourself some rules when it comes to him?
1. no presents
2. no sex or anything like it
3. define your boundaries with him. and there's a lot of them to define
This is why I only want a woman that has never had an ex.
Just be friends with him
That works 🙂
I am still friends with my ex, it was a choice we both made. But we will always be exes. Have you all made that decision yet? Or will you at some point become a thing again?
Just keep it casual
If you still want him or her go for it
You just can't let it lie can you lol
Where do you wanna go?
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Let God lead.
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where to go from here? my house 😉. lol
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