Since you’re not okay with it, let her know. If she continues with the job, then she’s not the girl for you since she doesn’t consider your feelings as well.
One of the best answers here. Thanks for keeping it real and intellectual, musicbrain.
@TruthBringer Thanks! I do my best.
He doesn't own her. At least discuss it with her in a civilized way.
@FunkyMonkee I didn’t say he does. I would hope that this is discussed civilly between them. But ultimately, if he isn’t comfortable with her working at Hooters, it’s going to keep bothering him if they stay together.
Thanks for MHO!
True, which is why it should be discussed.
Be happy that she found a job or has one. It might not be the job that you would want her to have , just as long as she likes it that is all that matters
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I don't think its a good job but if she is loyal she is not going to fall madly in love with a stranger she talks to for 80 seconds a week and hooters has other girls so its not likely they will all choose to target her, even if they want a girlfriend.
, The environment she is working in she will be flirted with a lot , so yes I can see your concerns, the thing is if someone’s going to cheat they are going to cheat , there is nothing we can do about that,, that just defines what kind of person they really are and something they will have to live with knowing they were a piece of shit and suffer the consequences to their actions , So the best thing for you to do man is be confident and supportive of her , Girls are attracted to confident guys , so as long as you support her and trust her as much as possible she more than likely is going to come to you , Now if you sense her getting distant from you and making excuses as to why she can’t come see you as often as she use
To then you have a right to put your foot down and make it clear that you won’t tolerate a girl that doesn’t make you a priority , don’t accuse her of cheating but make it clear that what she is doing is damaging the relationship because how would she feel if you were doing that to her? , Most girls are hypocrites when it comes to shit like this. but by you being confident and standing your ground she is more than likely going To come home to you , We can’t force someone to love us but we can make it clear to someone what we won’t tolerate , if they try to use the you are insecure line or you don’t trust me bullshit , Tell them it has nothing to do with that, Say I can’t respect someone that doesn’t respect me , I can’t prioritize someone that can’t prioritize me , so if you want to be selfish then I will be selfish as well , sometimes girls need that wake up call , if she loves you she will come to you , if she doesn’t then bro kick her ass to the curb and realize you deserve a girl that wants you like you want her , never tolerate someone that treats you as a convenience, You can’t treat a girl like a Queen if she doesn’t treat you like a King , always remember that , if she wants to. be a whore let her be a whore , she will go no where in life , And trust me there are plenty of girls out there that want a man that wants them to choose them
The fact you feel uncomfortable with it is a tell-tale that you deserve better.
Think about it. So out of all the types of jobs out there, she chooses the type where she is required to flaunt her ass, figure and chest in order to for OTHER MEN to eye-fuck. A job that reduces her to being objectified sexually. You think she got hired because of her personality or skills? Hell no.
Let me tell you something very clearly. NO MAN with self-respect will date a woman who allows herself to get into such a type of job. Either you have self-respect as a man or you don't. This is just a mild form of cuckoldry. You're an absolute idiot to allow yourself to buy into the idiotic (anonymous) comments telling you to "get over it". So don't listen to these idiots. In the end, it is YOUR boundaries that are being crossed.
If my girlfriend chooses to do something like this, trust and believe I would DUMP her the very second she even MENTIONS it. I have no interest in dating attention whores. But thankfully, I got me a good girl with self-respect who reserves her sexuality only for me.
Sorry to say bro, but your girlfriend is not your girlfriend. She is EVERYONE's girlfriend.
I worked at Hooters for about two months in 2016. I quit after two months bc of a personal situation. It was not with a customer it was with another employee. From the POV of a boyfriend whose girlfriend works there, it may take a little extra confidence in her and the relationship bc the job is 50 percent about serving food and 50 percent about being eye candy or flirty. That said the customers were not that bad, it was only a little flirtier than most waitress jobs tbh. People who do not eat at Hooters may not realize it is family friendly and not some outrageous environment. You do make good money, better than most other part time jobs you could probably get that do not involve stripping. I bet they make even better money now with the new uniforms, I had the ugly orange shorts, now they have a more revealing version. As for someone working there, I think it does require self confidence, I think it would be v. difficult for someone who did not have that. If she applied there and got hired she probably has that, though.
How is her character as a whole? Does she like and thrive on attention or has she voiced uncertainty and using this as a temporary means to an end?
Customers in that environment will be hit and miss and girl's rely on tips. They are supposed to chat up customers and be earm towards them, some even flirt to a degree, but will most likely not go on dates with most guys there either.
Depends on your comfort level. Why not sit down and discuss this with her nore in depth than ask all of us here online. Voice your concerns and let her know how it makes you feel and see how she feels in return and go from there. Biggest thing is to not let insecurity drive you to be rash.
NO. Your girlfriend (or even boyfriend) CAN change due to the environment. She’s probably going to get hit on all the time and with those options, it could change her, you, and the relationship - it’s also her first job and job or office politics can be brutal and she looks young so she’s probably very vulnerable.
Unless you guys are desperate for cash or have 110% trust in her, I would not do it because she could be an awesome girl and she herself could 100% believe that she may never cheat on you, but extreme situations/environments can change people. Not too mention her future prospects go down because dating or hiring former bartenders are not an option in my book no matter how hot or smart because they’re usually…challenging due to the immense changes they go through if they stay long enough at that kind of job.
@TruthBringer Love to get your opinion on this question.
The girl lacks self-respect and is clearly needing attention/validation outside her relationship. This is a girl who is clearly not relationship material. I would ditch her in an instant and replace her with a more conservative girl who doesn't have slut tendencies.
@TruthBringer Well, it could always be she's just naive, not necessarily slutty tendencies. You remember how it was when we were young: everything seems exciting, but we don't think about the long term consequences due to inexperience.
@inbox I'm honestly done giving everyone the benefit of the doubt as it often just turns out just as I initially thought. Let's be real, an 18 year old isn't stupid enough to not know why she applied for Hooters, why she got hired and what her job is supposed to be. Saying she may be naive is just playing naive in itself. Girls who don't crave attention/validation and have some dignity left will not apply for such jobs. Out of all other restaurants she could applied for, she joined Hooters. Think about that for a second. We're living in a time where its all about gaining attention/validation from one's sexuality. And we already got so many sluts nowadays so I'm going to assume she is just another one of them. And the chances are very big I'm accurate on that.
@TruthBringer Most of the time I'd agree with you, but according to the poster, no other job accepted her, so she's either desperate or naive. We also don't know old she is, but let's be honest as well that we too make mistakes despite being our age and experience. If she's beyond a certain age, then yes, I'd be highly suspicious.
@inbox Yeah whatever the situation is, I would next her in an instant when it comes considering her as relationship material or not. If every other job rejected her, then clearly she is doing something wrong and needs to sort that out. Whatever the case, I stick to traditional and more conservative women.
The long and the short of it is that if she wanted to cheat on you she can literally do that any time day or night and she doesn't need the internet or a job at hooters to do it.
She is with you because she chooses to be with you, she is going to that place to get money, its a job. I dont know if you noticed or not but there is no shortage of women on the internet showing themselves off just for validation.
She hasn't done anything wrong and if you get jealous or show weakness like that she will lose interest in you and leave you anyway so it would be best to be supportive of her.
This is presumably not her dream job or a final destination it is a first step on a road.
WHat makes you think hooters is not a way for her to attempt to cheat? Especially since she choose to do that job out of all the other more 'decent' jobs out there? I don't really think that saying "oh if she wanted t cheat, she would" is a viable argument. Because the girl is clearly putting herself in a situation or even work environment where the chances of cheating have been doubled if not tripled.
In any way, just because the internet is full with attention seeking hoes, doesn't mean that we aren't allowed to have boundaries and choose not to date them.
With all the attention seeking women on the internet and in real life, I still managed to find me a more conservative and traditional girl who doesn't flaunt or sell her sexuality outside of her relationship. So in the end, what matters is a man's boundaries and making sure he finds someone who doesn't cross them.
If I were OP, I would have ditched her the second I found out she was serious about joining Hooters. But then again, I'm probably a bit more experienced with women and have no issues replacing them in no time.
@truthbringer How would you have me respond?
You see, being on this site, for me, is like walking through a blizzard of fucking retarded Americans, its just a constant stream of bullshit.
I could tell you that you are a moron but that won't help because the whole problem is that you are too dumb to understand that you are a moron, that's what being a moron is.
Equally explaining things won't help because you will either not be capable of understanding or not be willing to listen.
Should I just block you and say nothing?
How do you think you should be treated?
Because this is totally subjective, there is no 'right answer' and you have already had your say in your own box, why are you in my box?
You are trying to sell this story that you wouldn't tolerate this behaviour because you have such high self esteem but that isn't true at all, the reason you want a chased virgin bride who will only ever be yours is because you wouldn't be able to cope with the idea that the woman you are with might have fucked a guy who was better at sex than you.
This is about fear, not self respect.
It is weakness, not strength.
But you do you, you can make whatever choices you want for yourself, what you don't get to do is tell someone else that they have to make the same choices that you made.
Why don't you go and live in the wilderness or move to an Islamic nation where your woman can be your property and state laws will help you to keep control of your woman?
You could wrap her in one of those burkas so that no one can see the shape of her etc.
Are ad hominems and strawman arguments the best you can come up with? The irony in calling someone else a “moron” when personal attacks seem to be your main of responding.
Ignoring your little emotional temper tantrum which is nothing but irony and projection, I argue that it is not about fear. It is about having boundaries and values. Just because a man doesn’t want his woman to flaunt her assets out to the world, doesn’t mean he should go and “move to an Islamic nation”. It means that some conservatism is at play, and perhaps even some traditionalism. Being a bit reserved here in the west is less-common but not rare. And expecting your partner, whom you are in a MONOGAMOUS relationship with, not flaunt her assets out to the world and respects your boundaries within the relationship is not rare either. I can say the majority of men would consider it a red flag if their woman would work for hooters or does something like OnlyFans.
As I said, out of all the (more respectable) jobs she can pick, she picks one where her sexuality is exploited for profit. If that’s your type of woman, feel free to choose her. But don’t be throwing your insults at people who don’t want to date such a woman. Go ahead and block if someone’s contradictory opinion and world views seem to make your ass bleed.
I'll let you have the last word if that's what you like ;)
@TruthBringer You would benefit from learning what subjective means.
Nah I just found your response quite unnecessary and immature. It's one thing to have a different opinion and another to just throw a temper tantrum because someone has a different view, sharing it under your comment, on a public forum. But it goes to show that being above 40 doesn't equal being mature. The only thing you've benefitted me is being a role model of not to be. Thanks for that, Guffrus <3
@TruthBringer Wtf are you talking about?
How am I the one who can't tolerate someone else's view point?
This is my fucking thread you stupid cunt.
You are here telling me that my opinion about a subjective subject is wrong because you have a different idea about it.
The reason I am calling you a moron is because you are a fucking moron.
What fucking mental gymnastics are you flipping in your fucked up mind that allows you to pin your fucking crimes on me and then complain about it?
I didn't say your opinion is wrong. I simply challenged it. At your age, I expect you to least know the difference. In any way, if this is how you react to people sharing their views as well, best for you not to be on a public forum. Especially one you seem to be complaining about.
Seems like you got issues mate. Anger management issues being one of them. Hope you get the help you need, mate ;)
@TruthBringer If you are not saying that my subjective opinion is wrong then explain why you have posted anything at all in MY thread?
Because you aren't interested in listening to anything I have to say, you demonstrate that with absolute clarity in your opening lines.
I have already stated that quote: if she wanted to cheat on you she can literally do that any time day or night and she doesn't need the internet or a job at hooters to do it
So you already have the answer to the question you pose, quote : WHat makes you think hooters is not a way for her to attempt to cheat?
But you don't like my view point, you consider it to be wrong as evidenced when you say quote : I don't really think that saying "oh if she wanted t cheat, she would" is a viable argument.
So you are full of shit.
My dude, you are definitely losing it. I'm saying that hooters MAY be her way of trying to cheat. While you're implying that her joining Hooters indicates that she may not have cheating intentions. When I'm saying, maybe she is, and she is doing it WITH Hooters. Which only reinforces my point that she is not to be bothered with. At least if the guy is genuinely serious of a long-term relationship. I'm very much of the believe that you cannot have it with someone who deliberately exposes themselves to situations and scenarios that increase the odds of cheating happening. And to me, her joining Hooters is a clear indication she seeks (sexual) attention and validation outside of her relationship.
Whereas YOU are just losing your shit because someone simply disagreed with you and start throwing personal attacks. And then IRONICALLY calling someone else a "moron". At 43, you definitely still need to grow up. Come back when you're finally capable of producing intellectual responses rather than name-calling and temper tantrums because your feefees got hurt of someone who disagreed with you.
@TruthBringer Answer the fucking question you fucking dishonest cowardly piece of shit.
Don't you see how your ego just blanked out the part where I literally just proved to you what a dumb cunt you are?
You have one more post and if it isn't an apology and some self awareness growth type shit going on then you are done.
Jesus Christ, the irony is PALPABLE 😂. Gonna block me simply because I exposed your immaturity and lack of anger management Lmfao.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tw4CPZZkzTU
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Go ahead and block. Love it when the trash lets itself out anyway.
If you aren't happy with what she's doing, you set a boundary and then you enforce it. She can either walk with you, or walk out of your life. It's really as simple as that. A lot of guys become simps because they are too afraid to set boundaries, enforce them, and they have a scarcity mindset. Everyone is free to choose what their boundaries are. No one can tell you what to like, or not what to like.
I think this might be split between those of who have successfully picked up a Hooters waitress and taken her back to our room and those who have not. I have enjoyed wild and unexpected Hooters sex. So, I might have trouble thinking of my significant other in that position.
If she is happy about the job then yes be happy for her, and take it as a compliment you have a hotty. If men hit on her, or when they do take that as a compliment too. You have a beautiful girlfriend.
Sure! Why not? She's completely covered except for her arms, head and upper chest. She's showing no more at work than she is on the streets. Besides, if she's loyal to you, what's there to worry about?
Casual relationship... he'll yes. Rest of your life you can say you banged a hooters girl.
Serious relationship... fuck no. Tell her if she steps foot in that place it's over... and mean it and walk if she does.
It's a job. She will probably get flirts from guys, and also get some decent tips. So long as she sticks to the job, she'll be fine, and you have nothing to worry about.
I'd leave her over it if it was me in that situation.
Why is that
@HighValue Absolutely well said! No self-respect man will be in a monogamous relationship with a woman who flaunts her sexuality to others outside of her relationship.
@Twalli Speak for yourself. Plenty of men do find it a huge deal. A woman who flaunts her body outside her relationship, as well as for money is not a woman whom I consider to be relationship material, let alone a good role model for my future children.
It goes back to the old saying: You can't wife a whore.
@TruthBringer I don't care if my girlfriend turns other people on. I'm confident enough in myself that I know she won't leave me. I am also confident enough in our relationship that I know it will last.
I understand why you might not like it if you aren't confident in yourself or your relationship.
@Twalli Confidence doesn't have much to do with it and seems to be a popular, yet flawed gaslighting tactic to shut down any counter opinions.
I am very confident in myself and I'm very confident my girlfriend wouldn't leave me either. And judging by how strong our relationship has developed over the years, reinforces that. It has more to do with MORALS and VALUES. If you're okay with "sharing" your girlfriend's sexuality with strangers as she sells it for money, be my guest. Many men actually don't like it, but feel forced to comply out of political correctness or are scared to look "insecure" or "controlling". Which funny enough proves that they are the very ones low on confidence. So if you're just slightly unsure or uncomfortable with your woman flaunting herself to the public, and you not saying anything against it, then you sir have projected your own insecurity. All while these same men try to rationalize and delude themselves by calling themselves "confident" and shitting on other people's self-esteem. Classic defense mechanism.
I highly advise you to learn the difference between having values and being confident. Allowing your woman to do whatever isn't synonymous with being confident. It often is the opposite.
So dear Twalli, you need to come with some better arguments. Especially when the person you're having a discussion with has researched psychology quite intensely.
@TruthBringer I'm not saying I would be thrilled with it, I wouldn't be. But in this case, it's a job, it's not porn, stripping, or prostitution. It could be a lot worse and all things considered this is one of the safest flaunting your body jobs.
@Twalli It's true it is mild in comparison to the other things you mentioned. However, for many men, it still is a red flag. It still requires a girl to flaunt her assets and invite sexual attention & validation from other people other than the man she is supposed to be in a relationship with.
It all boils down to morals and values. And claiming someone must not be confident for not accepting their woman to do such a job is highly flawed and is nothing but a futile shaming tactic. Because I can actually say that any man who is okay with his woman doing a job that requires her to carry her sexuality outside her relationship is a semi-cuckold. Just because you don't outright let other men break your woman's back doesn't mean you don't have cuckold tendencies.
Whereas the TRUE confident men I have always encountered are exactly the types who don't hesitate to say NO to a woman.
@TruthBringer She probably doesn't need validaiton. To get hired for Hooters is enough of validaiton that her boobs are big.
We don't have it here. If she's fine with it I don't mind. If she is not, I'd help her find something different.
Dude really? Are you that insecure? My ex worked at Hooters in her 20s and made big $$$.
She's gonna tell you stories of guys hitting on her so at least your in the loop or she can keep it secret.
If she does tell you about a repeat offender you better be a gym rat
You should feel excited you have such a hottie for a girlfriend who can pull that outfit off.
No, he is a man with boundaries. No man with self-respect allows himself to date someone who sells her sexuality outside her relationship.
Ey, if it gets us to have dominoes on some nights, idgaf.
Yes, it'd be fine with me. I trust her and I'll support her.
I don't think you should worry about it unless she is not comfortable with it
It’s her life so let her have some fun & make money as well.
It’s all about trust, it’s just a job but depending on what she looks like will depend on if guys will be looking at her or bothering her, if you have a good relationship then you shouldn’t have to worry
Blonde hair blue eyes
Depends on her body not just eyecolor and hair color since I have the same, but is that her in the picture?
Why would you not, it a job and Hooters pays pretty good for being a waitress
Its a restaurant not a strip club. They get paid to be flirty, its no more different than the good looking girls at a Starbucks.
I wouldn’t mind if my girlfriend had such a job, but does She HAVE to dress so seductively and immodestly?
The whole point of Hooters is to get more tips by showing your tits to men. Why doesn't she just go for being a stripper and cut to the chase.
I wouldn't mind. It's just a job. I'd be proud she has a good enough body to work there. Plus they offer them good benefits
do you own her or something? jesus bud. get a grip.
You should talk to her about your insecurity.
And she should also understand that you will definitely feel insecure and should try her best to make you feel comfortable with it.
Yeah last time I checked Hooters is a restaurant not a strip club
Women that work at Hooters are known to cheat
Lets put it this way. It's better than being a stripper/porno star
I don't date people with boobs big enough to work at Hooters.
I'd probably be okay with it, even if I had a boyfriend at a male version of Hooters or something like that. But, I can't blame guys who would get uncomfortable with that.
I'd rather she do this than be a prostitute or a porn actress.
Why didn’t u tell her to not apply there lol
I use to think different until my daughter went to work at hooters.
Does she still work there
You do know that only cheap women work there?
Trust your gut instinct bro, these kind of women are never loyal. Find a girl that respects you.
Only if she routinely brought me chicken wings.
It's just a paycheck, chump.
Dudes are slapping her ass at work
No, I'm not boyfriend of bitches.
If she got the job she must be hot so yippee.
Is that your girl?
Yes bro
This is a promo for the proposed new uniforms. The staff were not keen on it, to say the least, so the company backtracked and claimed it was about "female empowerment". Most definitely not his girl. This is a model.
I'd be supportive.
I would be sorta insecure tbh.
It is just a restaurant. Get over it.
…and, on the other hand, this is true. Hooters is, for the most part, just a restaurant. People take their kids there. So, I probably should lighten up.
It is the kind of restaurant where you can get a better look at the waitress before deciding whether to flirt with her or not.
Hooters is tame.
Sure why not? I've seen worse jobs
Nah but I know she'd never work there so
It depends.
I thought you said you're Christian
@PinkRose24 I did. Excuse me?
@PinkRose24 just what does my faith have to do with this. Are you that anonymous person or some troll trying to come trip me up?
@PinkRose24 hopefully you’re not coming here to be argumentative. Because if you start this kind of shit. I will block you. I’m sick and tired of it.
Lol yeah it's me. 😝 Why would a Christian guy want his girlfriend to work in a restaurant called hooters... it literally means boobs... and also she's making herself a sex object for guys that go there...🤣
@PinkRose24 I really wouldn’t not going to lie.
@PinkRose24 I’m not trying to be rude. I see what you’re saying. You should have just said that and not questioned my faith.
These kinds of comments I am sick and tired of. Point blank. Im not trying to be nasty. But people who just want to start arguments on this website has gotten really really old.
Lol I was just surprised because I don't know any Christian guy that would be ok with that
@PinkRose24 personally I probably wouldn’t. Depends on her intentions. If it made me uncomfortable enough. I would leave her.
But. The kind of women I’m into. Probably aren’t the kind to work at Hooters anyways. Lol.
What kind of women are you into?
@PinkRose24 Christian women. I don’t know if I should go into detail. It’s kinda personal.
My favorite body type. I would say is. Probably athletic and more muscular. Not to a extreme. But. Gym girls. You could say. Strong arms abs.
I want to have woman who will sincerely appreciate the nice things I do for her. But also not feel entitled. I want to treat her like a queen. But I also need to be treated like a king. I need someone who I’m not expect to put all the effort in to get little to even nothing in return.
Women who are sweet. Caring. Nice people. But also know how to stand up for themselves and others. Though. Some people just need to find their voice and confidence.
Someone who won’t use me someone who won’t cheat on me. Someone who both loves me and respects me.
@PinkRose24 don’t know if I should’ve said all that. Also. Probably needs to have the same religious and political views. Sure you can’t agree with everyone. But at least in the ballpark.
@PinkRose24 why are you asking if I may ask? Q
@PinkRose24 but let me be clear. Physical body type. I find a lot of different body types attractive. I care more about what’s inside someone. The the outside. Everyone is different on that.
@PinkRose24 but I also want someone whose a best friend. Someone who I can cut up with and play around with. Things aren’t too…. Serious all the time you could say.
I mean. Definitely needs to be romantic. But. Also be a best friend.
I was just curious
@PinkRose24 ok. Kind of winded. But. There is some stuff I won’t get into. I probably shared too much already.
Ok fair enough
@PinkRose24 ok. Have a great day
You too
@PinkRose24 thanks
@PinkRose24 you seem like a good mentor. If you need to ask something like that. You can shoot me a private message. But if it’s super personal I might not answer.
Us Christian’s in these times need to stick together and keep each other encouraged and not demoralized
Ok thanks man
@PinkRose24 you’re welcome.
Is that an actual pic of her?
Nope.
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