Is it a bad sign if all your friends hate your partner?

[Anonymous]

If all your friends disliked your girlfriend or boyfriend, would you pay attention to it or consider it a red flag? Is it a bad sign? What if your family hated them also?

[NathanDavis]

with the friends I have, the close ones... if they ever dared to say something negative about someone new in my life, I would have to consider their word because I am absolutely 100000% sure they would have a reason to ever do something like that

now if they, all of my friends were to say and feel the same way and so strong to the point of saying they just hate this new person in my life, then yes... it would be a definitive sign that there's something wrong with me because I cannot see it myself

but, for your case in particular... I don't really know the details about your friends or your partner...

[Havthrills]

Definitely a bad sign. I found out later that my friends and family didn't want me with someone cause she is horrible. I really wish they would've said something.

[LazerBean]

It depends, some people just have poor choices in friends. But generally I would say yes, since "all" is a pretty big word.

[Asker]

It's difficult because he says they're jealous of our relationship and lashing out. But they insist he's just a horrible person. But I'm in love. I don't want to lose my friends.

[LazerBean]

Personally, I know my friends are good, logical people and I would stick with them.

[dustybiker]

What are they saying? Are they concerned for you? That might be a big deal. Love does make us blind.

[Asker]

They're saying he's a bad person / toxic

[dustybiker]

In your gut. Are they correct?

[Asker]

I don't know. He doesn't act that way towards me, but I have seen him act kinda weird towards others.

[dustybiker]

I think your friends get that. They are worried the day comes he turns on you, it might be worse as you are close.

[dustybiker]

Thank you for mho. Stay safe and happy.

[Nessieeeeee]

Definitely a red flag in my opinion. There has to be a really good reason they would be hated. If you're the only person that doesn't hate your partner then perhaps your partner is putting up a facade to please you, or hide the fact that they are truly not what they seem.

[Danny_dan92]

Could be. It could also be an indicator that you have fake friends.




Ask them why they don’t like your partner. If they all say the same thing/things. Objectively pay close attention to see if those accusations are true. If they are, you have real friends. Otherwise your friends are simply haters

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

If he or she didn't do nothing worthy of being hated then no.

Sometimes people just can be very jealous of you or him.

[Asker]

True, he said they are jealous of our closeness. But it's all my friends saying that, not just my close friends.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the reason why? If you know why and you don't have a problem with the reason why that is. Then there is no problem. They might not like him for his political views, but you don't mind his views and you don't care about politics, but all your friends and family do for example.

[SnowedIn]

Yes. Bad sign. Red flags and red strobe lights. Step back and assess. You may love him but if they are your friends they may see something that's going to hurt in the future.

[WildCard42]

No, my friends are weird and if I had a partner I would try to keep her away from them for the most part.

[xColinx]

"all" is a lot. they might be onto something.

[Sparkie460]

Yes if all your friends hated my girlfriend they are seeing something that I didn't. Love can be blind. I would definitely talk to my friends about my girlfriend to see what reason they don't like her

[BJP21]

Confirm it, otherwise everybody needs to STFU. Someone started a rumor about my former girlfriend being a gold digger and she was nothing of the sort.

[Sixgunsound]

It’s possible they see something you can’t or won’t.

[TroyDT2]

If my closest friends hate her, it's a deal breaker.

[ArtemisSilver]

You might just have a shitty friend group that's jealous

[dragoblack]

Its usually a red flag. Talk a stap back and look at how your partner treats you and acts, in a 3rd person perspective.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but which is ot a sign of? That your date is suspect. Or your friends really aren't good friends.

[Brando10222]

I don't care as long as the partner is not toxic

[Anonymous]

What don't they like about him?

[Asker]

They said he's a "bully", a "bad person", "entitled", a "shit stirrer" and "always has to get what he wants."

[Opinion Owner]

How is he a bully? Or a shit stirrer? How is he entitled? How does he always get what he wants?

[Opinion Owner]

Who's to say that isn't what other people think about you? People he knows and possibly you know think the same things about you

[Asker]

Well I agree with the shit stirrer part, because I've seen him do it. But that's just his sense of humour, he likes to stir the pot. But bully? I'm not sure. They say he is a bully to them and to other people. But I've not seen it.

[Asker]

I don't know no one's said that about me (yet haha). It's caused a major rift in my friend group though, because they say he's bad for me.

[Opinion Owner]

So how's he a shit stirrer? What proof do your friends have for thinking he's a bully? Can i give you some real useful real world examples... the woman i love has some good friends and some real shitty friends. Two of her real shitty friends who i can't stand (m. s. m & c. l. d. r) they knew when she broke her sobriety several years ago back in 2018 and did NOTHING to help her get back into rehab. They did NOTHING to help her get into counseling or therapy. They knew about her breaking her sobriety before i did and when i realized something was wrong i told her mom she needed to go into therapy or counseling or something. Her mom also knew before i did and stood idly by and did NOTHING. I knew something was wrong with her when she was guy hopping and when she was tired and in a pool i could tell something was off. And like right now currently i have some suspicions that she isn't sober again third time now like she claimed she was. The second time in 2020 and somewhat of the first only a few people like (C. A, E. J) and myself were looking out for her. Unfortunately she doesn't really talk to them to much and also cut off contact with (s) who also genuinely cared about her back in 2020. My point is people can sometimes be surrounded by scummy friends and not realize it and be surrounded by genuinely good caring people and not realize it

[artsy_dragon]

Yes...

[EaterPeter]

Yes.