Should I ignore her?

[Arthurking2022]

I liked a girl in my university and I asked her out but she said that she was very busy with studying and specially with working which lead her to miss a lot of classes, which she mentioned in our past conversations. I took a step back and stopped bothering her with texts etc. for a month. After a month I started to text her again, I started the conversation with a propose ( I did not just say hi to start the conversation) I asked her how is she doing and if she caught up on uni work. We texted a little bit and then she stopped responding to. I decided to move on but now after 3 month she is being extremely kind and flirty with me she liked my stories, and even posts a story whenever I do (first I thought that I am overthinking this one but I stopped posting stories for two weeks she did not post one either but when I posted one she immediately posted one two) . Her friends and our mutual friends all female friends are trying indirectly to find out if I am still into her. What would you do if you were in my situation?

[SueShe]

You should have forgotten about her the second time she failed to answer you.

Now, 3 months later, you are basically just a warmed up dish and she remembers that she told you to leave her alone for a while.

If you have a little dignity in yourself, then you just ignore her if you can. Of course, if your testosterone sees only a good opportunity to initiate something with her, then I guess that you will listen to the hormones and not to your reasoning.

Don't let yourself be fooled by her sudden change in reaction. It is so obvious that she has mandated her friends to check upon you and to see whether you are ready for whatever she is into.

In your situation, I just would not give a second thought and let her go. I have the feeling that you are perhaps just a substitute and that nothing concrete or long lasting will emerge from her attempt. I have the feeling that she is just messing around.

[Arthurking2022]

Thank you for the advice that was exactly what I was thinking!

[PrettyPriya]

That all depends on what your thoughts are. Do you want to pursue some sort of relationship? Only you can answer that. If yes, then I think that you need to be patient. School is important. You have to set reasonable expectations of what the relationship will be like with her.

The thing is that school is always going to be busy and a priority for her, just like it should be for you. You know how demanding it can get. So, you need to be realistic about a possible relationship.

If it were me and I didn't have a lot of time, I would focus on getting to know her. A relationship doesn't just happen overnight. You need to both see if it is worth it, you like each other and if you both have time.

I would suggest (if you are interested) asking her if she would like to do some on campus activity. There must be social events that go on. See if she has time.

[mlvrjohnconnor]

Do not think too much of her posting stories when you do. Even if she did it on purpose, she is giving you “hints” and it is different from making efforts. She pushed you away for twice, now she needs to make effort if she is serious about it. She needs to initiate conversations with you and ask you out first. Just ignore her if she does not make any effort.

If she indeed makes effort, it is up to your feeling. Feel free to hang out with her if you still like her. Give people a second chance as long as they pay you with respect.

[Guy13]

I woukd forget about her. She said and did opposite. Consequence is nothing more from you. You did your part…

later bye 👋

[Avicenna]

Go for it. Let her friends know you’re very interested.

[In_Trance]

Yeah