Is 2 months of dating two early to talk about having sex?

[Anonymous]

He has been single for 4 years, I have for 2 and both had long term relationships previously, We are both in our late 20s and discussed finding someone to marry and having children with. He briefly mentioned making me his girlfriend and he talks about how he is interested in me. He is consistent and I feel like I’m the only woman in his life, as he gives me a lot of his free time and calls/text throughout every day. But lately he talks to me about sexual things and I go along with it lightly. I’m interested in doing those things too but I’m cautious about giving in to sex talk because I don’t want him to stop his efforts because he got what he wanted. Like maybe it’s okay because I believe we both want a relationship with each other soon but we aren’t in a relationship now. We haven’t had sex or gotten intimate so it’s just flirting but Im so confused as to how to date now and when sex or even just sex talk is okay

Updates

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Realized my error in the title, it’s *too not two

[Anonymous]

Most of the comments follow the standard programming of this culture that sees sex as a recreational activity. Think of it like this. If you would only have sex with a man worthy of being the father of your children, would you be having sex with him?

Mark my words. Continue treating sex as if it's casual and you will get nowhere fast. This society has most of the people in it brainwashed. Do you think the pill and all of those other contraception were created for your benefit? Do you have any idea of how many truly beneficial, life changing, and powerful natural substances never see the light of day?

Now concerning this man. If you are serious about what you want then you will only be having sex when you are sure the man is worthy of being the father to your children and vice-versa.

[Twalli]

So the way I date, is I'm monogamous by date 2. If we get to the second date I see you as my girlfriend.
This is also the date where I discuss sex. We aren't having sex then, but I want to know what her views are in making our relationship sexual are. I like to get the tough question out of the way before we fall too far in love. If there are problems in our views regarding relationships, I want to know early.

[slatyb]

Two months? When I was dating, after three dates they were inviting me home, or asking to stay over at mine. After two months with no clear interest I would have been wondering if she had much of a libido.

[Danny_dan92]

Mm… I wouldn’t say so.


Honestly a good way to gauge when sex is on the table is determined on the chemistry.


If both people want it, do it.

[bamesjond0069]

You should definitely TALK about having sex. That's the best way to find out if you're compatible then just doing it to do it. What if he has conflicting expectations? Find out without adding more notches.

[Kinkyhubby]

Be open and honest with him. You can have sex talk, and have sex when your ready. It is a big step in a relationship. Do what you feel is best

[Redstang88]

That’s typically 2nd or 3rd date conversation so I’d say you’re fine

[Jamie05rhs]

You can talk about sex whenever you want! What's the harm in that?

[Anonymous]

Wait for few months, he is showing his true colors and true intentions

[Snedger____]

It's time to

[Fuentes]

Lol it's too late