What does it mean when someone says it’s better to get used to your absence before you leave? cuz they’re scared I’ll cut them out?

[Anonymous]

He said he wants to start adjusting to my absence cuz it’s better to get used it before it happens. I’m leaving school and going to a different school for studying. That he wants to mentally prepare himself so that he gets used to me not being around.

[Anonymous]

I think I know what you mean. This one time I was driving home late at night from a high school party, it was like 3 in the morning. I was upset because this girl that I liked had just started dating this other guy who was like 26. I was driving very fast on a country road and I misjudged where the turn was. I came over the hill going very fast ans I saw the turn up ahead. I immediately hit the brakes and started sliding on gravel for what seemed like a great distance. It was the so far that I could've rolled the window down and said "I'm having an accident." so anyway, I ended up hitting a tree and my head hit the windshield (This was back when seat belts were just a suggestion) and my head put a big circular crack in the windshield. I got out of the truck and walked a few miles to my home. Then I grabbed a farm truck and drove back to pull my truck out of the ditch. Then I drove my wrecked truck home, then I had to ride a bicycle back to go get the farm truck. It was a very long night similar to a lot of my nights as a teenager. So the important thing to remember about life is that things happen and sometime you can break a windshield with your head at 17 and not even feel it. I think that truck was very damaged in the front end and I had to replace the bumper, grill, and headlight on that old Ford truck for sure. That girl I liked went on to marry that 26 year old, they have a few kids together, but now they're divorced. She cheated on him and he ended up dating a less attractive woman, but maybe a woman who's better for him. She always was a cheater so maybe I dodged a bullet with her anyway, but I didn't dodge that tree unfortunately, ha ha. No back your original question. "What does it mean when somebody says it's better to get used to your absence before you leave?" I suppose it's kind of like when you were a school kid and summer break was coming to an end. I's best to start getting used to going to bed early again so that it's not such a shock to your system when you start having to get up early again for school. So essentially your friend doesn't want your absence to be a shock to him and he wants to adjust to it slowly just like how you prepare yourself to get up for school and it sucks.

[Asker]

You think we’re just friends? I asked him
How will you live like that? (If he gets used to not seeing me everyday) and then he said that’s why he needs to prepare himself so that he normalizes it

[Opinion Owner]

Okay so that's important because I remember being at this other party when I was 17 and at one point these guys in a younger grade than me asked me if I wanted to do a beer funnel. I was already drunk and I said "Sure." Unfortunately those guys poured a bottle of hard liquor into that funnel and I drank it. I was so drunk that I could barely stand. I went to lean against my truck and at some point I felt lips on mine. These girls in a younger grade were taking turns making out with me while I was so intoxicated that I didn't know what was going on. I guess I was pretty cute at that age so I really can't blame them. The bad part is that I went with one of them to a pic nic table and ended up doing some sexual stuff in front of an audience basically. Anyway, those assholes are lucky that I didn't end up in the hospital with alcohol poisoning or something. That was similar to another party where I accidentally drank a beer that somebody had been using as a ashtray. Eww!! I hated those days and some of those stupid parties. So about your question "You think we're just friends?" I don't think you mentioned your specific status in the original question so I didn't want to assume too much. As far how he will live not seeing you everyday I'm sure it will be difficult for him if he honestly has feelings for you.