Is there ever a good reason to go through the phone of someone you are dating?

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Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

I insist as a mutual trade, here go through my phone and you let me go through yours, when things start to get serious and we are suppose to be exclusive.

I've been cheated on too many times to not do it... as phones are a great way for people to cheat and avoid getting caught. I'd rather do that to build trust to know nothing is going on, than find out later that he has been cheating the entire time and now it is all wasted time in life when I could been with someone who cared.

This isn't a one time thing either, it can be random for either of us at any point... like here hand me your phone, I want to look something up. If he said that to me, I'd hand mine to him or reverse. This shows lots of trust and he has nothing to hide.

Like this youtuber, how he exposes cheating... I love it.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/eHA-ELDUZgY

If I say let me see your phone and if he says NO then he 100% has something to hide he doesn't want me to see. That means he doesn't trust me to see it and thus I break up with him on the spot.

There is plenty of other people waiting in line for a chance with me. I don't need to risk a cheater or someone who doesn't trust me... move on to the next guy, and be dating him the same night or the next night.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

If it comes to that point, the trust is gone =no point cuz wouldn’t be dating someone can’t trust… no trust =no relationship

Guy13 · Accepted Answer

I have no reservations letting “my girlfriend/wife” have full Phone 📱 access. It’s part of my dating strategy and the sooner the better.

In November, a girl I have been seeing was over and my work is F-ed in general. I was popping the heads off and peeling the fresh Shrimp 🦐 and my Phone went the F-Off dancing and singing on the counter… “Will you please, look for me. If you see Communications from A B or C would you please read aloud?” My passcode is…. Done ✅.

She knows that she can pick-up my phone and make a call for convenience sake if her phone was left in car or whatever.. Done ✅….”Hey, I’m going to make a call on your phone…ALLRIGHT and that’s it for life. Done ‼️

Don’t get me wrong…. I’ve got very few Apps and security restrictions, protocols, and 💩 that are a pain in the ass just to remember…PROTECT YOURSELF but nothing to hide on my end.

D-Pad_Chad · Accepted Answer

Yes, the phone, and certain apps are breading grounds for infidelity. Fastest way to build trust is to show you have nothing to hide, but don't offer your phone.

Because this leaves room for doubt, let them ask for your phone and give it to them, without hesitation. When they're satisfied and you've gone through theirs this builds trust.

To those saying this breaks trust, it's not distrust, it's accountability to one another. If you still have an issue with it I've only got one, rhetorical, question.

What're you hiding.

AviatorTom · Answer

Nope... that's an invasion of privacy.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Generally no. Trust is giving till proving something not right…so I did and we had to deal with some stuff…

once we cleared the problem, we learned, grew, rebuild trust and now married.
can this work for others…mostly no because our society teaches people to find a problem then give up. Then the cycle repeats…

Lliam · Answer

Sneaking behind someone's back and going through their personal stuff without permission displays distrust and dishonesty.

If there is no trust, there is no relationship. Plus, I wouldn't want to be with a sneaky, dishonest person.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Only one, if you’re certain they’re guilty of a crime and you need evidence to help get them convicted. Even then, you should probably leave the snooping to the professionals.

Anonymous · Answer

Both should be able to go through both's phone, once things are serious. Saying "don't ever go through my phone" sounds really defensive to me. I always left my phone unlocked, lying around. When other men I dated didn't, it was always because they were cheating, and I found a way to unlock it anyway, so whatever. I'd rather have my ex victim blame me for going through his phone than waste my time with and sleep with a cheater.

lilyanony1 · Answer

No I'm not interested... I give trust and respect in the hope they'll do the same.

genericname85 · Answer

Well if you're curious and they don't mind, i think that's ok.

MCheetah · Answer

If you think she's stealing from you, conning you, or doing something illegal. But usually, no, it's a huge invasion of privacy.

dustybiker · Answer

Only if they are missing and assumed dead. And it would be the FBI I would give the phone to, to do this.

Mmmariaxc · Answer

No i don’t care what my husband does anymore 🤷🏻‍♀️

DCowboy4747 · Answer

I don't care either way, everyone is allowed a certain amount of privacy whether they are in a relationship or not. even if you are not cheating, but you use your phone for work as well, there could be sensitive info on the phone that can/should not be shared with anyone else. if someone is cheating, or you suspect they are cheating, just watch their actions. 9/10 of the time suttle changes in a person's actions will let you know if your partner is hiding something.

Anonymous · Answer

I really don't get people needing to look through thier partners phones. I mean if you're REALLY THAT BAD at picking loyal partners. Maybe you should stop dating altogether. I mean if you can't trust your partner WHY ARE YOU DATING?

BJP21 · Answer

I dont, Im not an insecure person and go by the old fashioned honor system.

RangerBlue22 · Answer

It’s actually a bad sign to begin with that you don’t trust your partner enough to begin with that you require access to their phone.

Fireguy17 · Answer

It would not be a good idea. Let's turn it around and ask what would you think if you found the person that you were dating going through your phone?

Igotheres · Answer

No that is not important and dating is not either.

DancingQueen16 · Answer

I feel like the only way it would be okay to do that is if they've been acting like their hiding something or just acting different in general

QuietVerbena · Answer

No. If you don’t trust them and you don’t believe them then break up with them.

TroyDT2 · Answer

I get what others say, but for me if I trust her so little that I feel a need to go through her phone then I'll just end it.

MountAverage · Answer

No, absolutely not. Anyone who thinks otherwise is a control freak and should not be in a relationship with anyone.

Ninania · Answer

No. If I don't trust them, we shouldn't be dating.

Anonymous · Answer

If you are not hiding something, why does it matter?

dudeinohio · Answer

No. This implies lack of trust. Very disrespectful.

Shark_61695 · Answer

Nope, it would be a sign of mistrust and paranoia.

lauraanne02 · Answer

Yeah! To see his nudes 😅

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Nope. You start doing that and it gets worse and worse til everything falls apart eventually.

Jakes310 · Answer

No, it's a betrayal of their trust and privacy. If you care about your partner you should respect them rather than being possessive

spartan55 · Answer

Only if it was some sort of emergency.

SnowedIn · Answer

Never. Ever.

douride2 · Answer

No never.

Havthrills · Answer

Not at all.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

Nope.

Fuentes · Answer

If they're suspecting of cheating

Guardian45 · Answer

To get dumped

Jennz6 · Answer

Yes, see who he is texting/sexting

NathanDavis · Answer

Yes.

msc545 · Answer

when you don't trust them, yes

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