How to stop being a little punk and start approaching women?

[Anonymous]

I need some help when it comes to actually approaching women. From when I was younger it felt easier. Currently, it seems like I have no will to approach women nowadays. It seems that most of the ones that I have dealt with are not the ones for me (then I sometimes think what I am doing wrong, because the common denominator is me). Not to mention when it comes to approaching and dating I have no "game." Some guys know just what to say and what to do, and then there is me whom is corny as hell. Then there is the fact that picking up the signs is absolutely missed me, due to thinking some girls are into me. Once I decide to make a move they want nothing to do with me, and there it goes. Then I see random women on the street and have no idea what to say or do, so I just don't even approach. All this added up has left me in a funky space, where yes I want a relationship. On the other hand, it's actually putting in the work and figuring out what to say to be charming and show them that I am worth their time. Right now I feel more like a little kitty instead of the Lion I should be. Need some advice.

[Selene1600000]

You’re not lacking “game” you’re stuck in your head trying to perform instead of just connecting. Keep it simple: open with something normal (“hey, I saw you and wanted to say hi”), ask a question, share a bit about yourself, and focus on vibe (eye contact, relaxed tone, a little humor) instead of perfect lines. Also stop treating every approach like it has to work most won’t, and that’s fine; confidence comes from repetition, not from getting it right the first time.

[Anonymous]

And this is where most men go wrong. When you are on your life purpose, you don't need to worry about game or approaching women. When you are doing what you were born to do, and prioritizing your grindset over women, then women will make themselves known to you. This is assuming you are at least some what physically attractive. Women will also approach you when they sense this too.

[OddBeMe]

You need experience talking to women. Take out the romantic intent for awhile and just try to make friends or acquaintances, like networking.


You need to be able to have a conversation with a person you’re attracted to without worry.