Is refusing to date a particular race/ethnicity considered prejudice or racist?

[Anonymous]

What is your opinion..

regarding refusing to date whole groups of races/ethnicities

[MCheetah]

It's not racist unless you hate everyone in that race or ethnicity or see your own race as superior to them. But it is discriminatory, because you're deeming someone to be inferior/unworthy to you, purely based on their race/skin tone/melanin, and not their actual biology or character as a person. Race shouldn't matter in regards to someone's character, unless you already have prejudices against them, such as "black people are thugs and lazy," or "Asian people are gold diggers" or something.

People are entitled to be discriminatory though and no one has to date anyone they don't want to. It is 100% discriminatory, but people are allowed to be in regards to who they choose to be with and you're not entitled to date anyone you don't want to. Case in point, you can say I'm discriminatory against queer women, as I want nothing to do with a pseudo-lesbian ("bi"), as I'm only attracted to women who would actually be attracted to me/men.

[Angryfrog]

Refusing is racist as there is no criteria or consideration, you've made one assessment based on colour/ethnicity and then refused to look any further.

Having not dated people from a colour/ethnicity is not racist, you like who you like just because they've not been from a particular colour doesn't matter.

Equally you may have different views to certain groups, your less likely to date people in those groups.

You should never date someone you dont like or feel comfortable with just to tick a box. Just dont refuse to even look.

[ElovieMe]

I think everyone has preferences and that’s okay. Some people are attracted to a specific hair color, specific body type, different ethnicities, etc… who is anyone to care or make your preferences their business if you’re not harming anyone and if it’s not involving children or animals.

I do think that despite having your preferences you can have some tact and respect to all others even if you don’t deem them your type. Some people lack that and face ridicule over their preference because it’s then seen as something else. Some people do not lack it and you have to accept some people will still take things personally or offensively. At which point, don’t make their feelings your business or concern it goes both ways.
Just be respectful and honest. You don’t have to explain why someone isn’t your type either to gently express “this isn’t working for me”, “I’m not feeling what I thought I would, I’m sorry”. Etc

[jennifer_bloom]

When people give their reasons for refusing to date Chinese people, I find their reasons are outlandish and not reflective of what Chinese people are actually like. Same when people make statements about Chinese politics, their comments are ridiculously untrue and fake. So I wonder if the bias I have about other races is equally wrong.

[BlueScorpio]

Maybe but honestly it is what it is at this point. Everyone has preferences and what one person doesn't like, someone else will.. it just means that person isn't meant for you but there's someone else who is.

[coachTanthony]

Some would say yes but I still believe everyone can have preferences no matter what those are.

[Jarceus33888]

I don't think I'm the majority of cases it's malicious, as the words prejudiced or racist imply.

Obviously if you're dating someone, you should feel an attraction towards them, thus you have a list of qualities on the "yes" list and some on the "no" list. It doesn't mean if a color is on the no list you hate all of said color, it means you're not attracted to them. That's not racist.

Take it a little further, you can definitely see why a person of a specific ethnicity would be attractive, but not be attracted to them.

Further, is it sexist for a straight person to not want to date gay? No, because that's not what they're attracted too. Same thing applies to skin color.

There's no hate in having preferences.

[lightbulb27]

sure, but who cares, it's your perspective, it doesn't matter that much other than why you think that way and if you choose to change your view. The problem is it's hurtful to others in regards to something they cannot change, but they don't own it, you do... and you are the one limiting you.

[JDavid25]

I believe if you are refusing to date a particular race is a racist.. I mean you refusing to date them.. Whatever the reason is, it'll most likely be racist.. Although, you could say that you date to marry and you don't like the features of that particular race, so you won't date them.. Fair enough..

[bayoubob]

Nope. For one, who could tell? No one can tell that. Nobody. Just like butt hurts can tell the rest of the World what is and what isn't Misinformation. What we do know as a people. We all know LGBTQ type people. We do. And when we find out, it matters not. We love everyone the same. That is the truth.

[Katyalov]

It depends on why you refuse to. It’s one thing if you’re not physically attracted to a specific race, but it’s another when you have outright hate/prejudice towards a race. Also I think it's good to at least try to be open to dating nationalities/race of all kinds. You can be attracted to a certain group of people but that doesn’t mean that you’re going to fall in love with exactly who you’re physically attracted to.

[Anonymous]

Anyone who tells you this is racist is totally fucking retarded.

In order for it to be racist the person would have to have a right to date you and clearly this is not the case.

Everyone is completely free to refuse to date anyone else for any or even no reason.

Why is this confusing to people?

[Anonymous]

My opinion is that it can be very racist. I feel most races don't have a legitimate reason to not date a certain race. For myself (I'm black) I'd have to really like a white person to consider dating then due to them most likely having a hard time understanding me and what I've gone through being a black woman in America. If there's no reason other than, "not my type", I think it's racist.

[Opinion Owner]

Also, refusing to date a race is a wild thing. Even I'd consider dating someone of another race if they were aware of the world and knows that things are not equal

[grega239]

Not my type is a legitimate reason and not racist.

[Counterclocking]

No, that’s total BS. Choosing not to date a particular race doesn’t mean hating that particular race. Having a racial preference isn’t racist and choosing not to date a particular race isn’t racist. As for me, I’m a white man who only prefers dating white women and if I’m still considered a racist, so be it.

Anybody who says having a racial preference is racist is an absolute moron.

[LiamJHayden]

It would be racist for me to do so, but I can also understand that others might not find certain general characteristics appealing so for them it might just be personal preferences.

However, it is by definition prejudice, pre-judging someone for inherited characteristics. But as I mentioned above, it might not be racism.

[DizzyDesii]

For me its about the reason. If you just simply prefer to date a certain race, fine whatever. If you down your own race, that shit is odd. And if you call another race ugly that shit is odd because not every single person is gonna be ugly.

[Lexi_87]

No. Everyone have a preference to who they find attractive. And saying someone who isn't attractive to a certain race is "racist" is like saying if your only attracted to 1 gender your "sexist"

[Anonymous]

Refusing is a strong word lol. Clearly if anything is forced you’re going to reject it more and only you can determine who you want to share your genitals with, no biggie. But there’s no need to drag a particular race/ethnicity all over social media. They have nothing to do with it, don’t make people feel bad unnecessarily

[VanillaSalt]

no even if it is who cares. Preference is preference. You wanna hold it against people for who they don’t wanna marry?

[jshm2]

Depends on context.

You are allowed to not like people, you just have to have a valid reason for it.

[DaveToo]

As a white heterosexual male, if she has a vagina that is first on my list. If you peeled the skin off a woman of any color she is exactly the same as any other woman.

[SamK20]

Of course it is.

Personally, I don't have this problem, if she's dating material, I could date her, I don't care if she's Chinese, African, Russian, Filipino, Brazilian or Antarctican 😂, it doesn't matter.

[ElyaM]

In my opinion it is racist. Let’s say someone said they are not attracted to the purple race. If you ask them why? The reason is always racist… its either their color, or stereotypes they have about them…

[Phoenix98]

Not really I mean everyone has a preference and it’s their choice to date or not date someone.

[AdithyaR]

While the preference itself may not be racist, often the reasons people give are wildly racist.

[FilmGuy93]

That's racist by definition. Is it wrong? I'll let other people decide that, but it's definitely racially based.

[AmyHew1tt]

Not if they just aren't attracted to this other race. If you decide you don't want to date Asian people, that's different. But if it's a matter of attraction, I don't see how it's racist.

[FilmGuy93]

@AmyHew1tt That's what the asker was asking about though; refusing to date Asian people.

[AmyHew1tt]

Then yeah, if it's a conscious aversion. Unless you have some sort of trauma related to it.

[FilmGuy93]

@AmyHew1tt And even then, we have to be careful about blaming trauma for things. Hurt people hurt people.

[AmyHew1tt]

Yeah, I agree.

[SpokenTruth]

If I dated at all I would only date white girls and I don't care of someone thinks it racist or not if my attraction is their racism that's on them.

[slatyb]

Completely refusing no matter what? Yes, that's racist. "Not usually attracted to..." Is normal.

[TheVigilantOne]

In my opinion no everyone has a preference to who they wish to date.

[Anonymous]

Not really, some people aren't as attracted to certain races and it would just be stupid to date them.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Yeah for sure. Once you get down to the reasons and if you mention skin color, that’s wrong.

[Account]

I consider it racist.

[KostasKouvalis]

It CAN be, but it usually isn't. But you can't force yourself to be attracted to something

[tfan1]

No I don’t believe so. It’s your choice, and your life to decide who to choose to date.

[MountAverage]

Well, what else would it be based on other than racial prejudice?

[DiegoO]

It's sexual racism. There's no logical explanation, beside prejudice.

[Tracker1958]

Should pass a law that no one can date inside their own race.

[Anonymous]

No of course not, We all have things that we find Attractive and things that we don't find Attractive.

It's only racist if your verbally abusing them in Public.

[Anonymous]

Uh, yeah. Judging people based on thier skin is the very definition of racist. 🤣🤣🤣

[Lemonsmile]

Having a preference is absolutely fine. Refusing? Thats not okay. Its definitely for racist motives.

[JesseJayNeak]

No. Unless you’re against that race entirely

[mrpaythebills]

yes it is depending on your reason. it is your body and you can do whatever you want.

[Labokachulaa]

No it's not racist, it's a preference.

[Mia-Wallace]

None of my business. It's your preference.

[sheenagwapa]

not really some probably just have a type

[AmeerX]

No it's just preference

[grega239]

To each their own

[LimitedBenefits101]

Neither.

You date who you like.

[Fuentes]

Preference is Preference

[Songomatic]

Is it prejudice to have your own taste?

[rienna888]

Not really

[Jamie05rhs]

No; it's not!!

[Anonymous]

Nope