Do you blame yourself for getting rejected?

[LegendaryDater]

[DaveJord]

Only when I knew I fucked it up. Live and learn, sometimes no matter how hard you try with some women, you just seem to be doing all the wrong things at the wrong time. But even then, in most cases that can just as easily be as much about the things they do or not doing for you, as it about you doing things or not doing things for them.

When a relationship fails, or you get rejected it usually not about any one person... and it's not about blame at all. It just that it was not going work out, and that usually has just as much to do with them, then it does with you.

These at 46, when it happens to me... I do not shed a tear over it, I know what i want and so does she... we just were not going to work together. She wasn't doing it for me, and I was not doing it for her... that's just how it is. And that does not mean there is anything wrong with me, or the things I want or get out of relationship, and there is nothing wrong with what she wants. It's just not going to happen with me.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes. I think it’s situational. Sometimes I’m like “Man, I am such a loser. That’s why I can’t get a date.” I think I blame myself more in general than a specific rejection, though I have probably had some specific ones that have felt personal.


I have a hard time with attracting women. I know some of it is beyond my control. Sometimes it’s “ok, I’m just not what they’re looking for.” Sometimes I’m annoyed that
so many seem so demanding about what they want (especially for their level of what THEY bring to the relationship) , but sometimes I DO blame myself.

[jennifer_bloom]

If I get rejected, its because I invested in other areas of my life and did not focus on making myself the ideal candidate for the guy I invited for a date. If I was as devoted to looking good as I was to my other projects, I would have no difficulty getting a guy but I prioritized other things.

[LegendaryDater]

That is so complicated to unpack. So you half assed it because you had other things going on that were more important is what you're saying?

[Aerissa_Jade]

I don't blame anyone, it really doesn't matter if someone is not interested in me. In fact I have to make a move to be sure, otherwise, it is always. I wonder if he would of been interested in me.

Move on and try again.

[LegendaryDater]

Yes love the attitude.

[Guy13]

It is me... I f i get rejected then I misread and acted inappropriately in that circumstance... No PhD required.

[LegendaryDater]

LOL okay man thanks

[Guy13]

Alright. Best in endeavors !!

[Cuminginside]

Nah f*** that I blame circumstances because there's really no excuse for it anymore we have the technology and under a minute I can get a bank loan I could get a car I could get a weapon in this country anyway I mean that's the fastest usually it's 15 20 minutes sometimes 3 hours but people what makes it worse that years can go by before someone responds to you and then you call them out on it and then they act stupid and play stupid and that makes the anger worse and then they give you b******* excuses and the anger that boils inside you well That's the problem.

[sheenagwapa]

no 😭 with my crush before no i know the girl he lokes and even me keep staring on the girl. my crush told me who he liked and i was heartbroken but after 5 minutes i move on. with my ex yeah i blamed myself i was a linatic bitch from time to time but my neighbor in frony is waay more linatic than me but her boyfriend is still with her so... other than that i tried my best and i also cannot blame myself for being practical with his mom's condition. when i i talk to her I don't know i feel so sad and wanna cry that she will die. i feel so lonely and sad it's hard to explin. and then i get mad to my ex and his brother because i felt thry are just being sweet but not doing enough next i don't wanna have a son i wanna have a daughter. i researched on the internet how to fuck and end up havig a daughter. i i can rrally be immature.

[12Volt]

Tommy Edison is said to have had thousands of failed experiments, before inventing the light bulb.

Fred: Tom, why keep trying to invent a light bulb, after all of your failed attempts?

Tom: I've NEVER failed once. I'm eliminating possibilities.

That's the attitude to have.

[LegendaryDater]

Love it.

[12Volt]

I remember back in 8th grade, and there was a guy who always had a girl on his arm. I asked Mike why so many girls like him. He said that 99 out of 100 girls hate him, so that's why he always approaches 100 at a time. lol

I've tried to give that advice on this and other sites, but it's not well received. People are looking for a magic pill or something. Mike just had zero fear, and as a result of that, he saw more ass than a cowboy's saddle.

[ShadezMcgee]

I do and took a lot of it personally when growing up and when getting my feet wet with the dating world. I found myself frustrated and hurt that my buddies had no issues getting women and I couldn't get a cute girl to go one one date with me. It got to the point I legitimately thought about quitting altogether because it made no sense to me that I struggled so much despite trying and making attempts to ask women out just to be shot down or ghosted or stood up.

[CA4444]

Not always, I may think I did something wrong but I’d also think okay I’m not their person and that’s it. I rejected tons of guys in the end, and it’s not that they did anything wrong, I’m just not hooked, for a reason I can’t explain

[LegendaryDater]

I agree we can't be everyone's snowflake.

[Date_a_Snob]

As the guys it's hard getting rejected again and again for seemingly no reason

[AsaKyo]

No, I've just accepted that the guys I like will never like me because I'm not their type, cause' I'm never really anyone's type and if surprisingly, a guy does show interest in me and I take them up on it, they treat me like shit, no matter how kind I am towards them

Maybe guys just hate mixed girls or some shit I don't know

I don't even go after muscular super studs or "chads", just like normal people who are fat, in the middle, slim, tall, around my height, short, like goddamn 😭

[Static_In_The_Attic]

I never blame myself for getting rejected because I rather try & fail rather than not try at all.

[LegendaryDater]

Love this. I agree.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Thanks Bro! In addition if someone reject you the second the person does simply start laughing. After you laugh thank the person & if they ask why you are laughing say I wanted to thank you for doing me a favor & after that walk away & go about your business.

[Pink2000]

The only time I was rejected was because he had a girlfriend and I ended up dating him after they broke up. I don’t put myself out there because I’m afraid of getting rejected.

[LegendaryDater]

Did you blame yourself or blame timing?

[Pink2000]

Honestly myself. I’m scared of rejection.

[LegendaryDater]

For what reason? He had a girlfriend so?

[Pink2000]

Because I should’ve never asked about him. That was the first and last time.

[LegendaryDater]

There are people who go for it and people who look back in regret. You have to decide which one you want to be. Rejection is a part of that. Appreciate ya.

[DynamicKicker]

Of course, I blame myself. Either I wasn't attractive enough, interesting enough, compatible, or approached the wrong way, etc. Otherwise, I wouldn't have been rejected. But it doesn't matter, you just keep yourself moving and live to see another day when a new one comes around

[Jimrat86]

I'm not ruling it out-since I seem to only attract toxic behaviors on the apps (flakey people ghosting and ignoring me). I am seeing a therapist so I can make sure I rule out any chance that it is me elicitting toxic behaviors. At least this may help me spot the narccissists early on and remove them from my life IMMEDIATELY lol

[CoolCatMar1]

I was rejected mostly due to the fact most guys i ever crushed on had been taken without me knowing about it. Hahah... Anyway, now i know why i was so "unlucky".. because my boyfriend was waiting for me 🥺❤️

[Audiofox]

Most of the time and I definitely have been rejected. But getting rejected isn’t the end of the world.

[Mina09]

Never feel the need to blame yourself for getting rejected. It just shows they're not the right person and don't deserve someone like u.

[captain_voidwalker]

You have no one else to blame. The trick is to not care about getting rejected

[LegendaryDater]

Having no expectations is the way to go for sure.

[Anonymous]

It really depends. Most guy DO NOT approach women unless she's signaled him for her willingness to be approached. This is a game that MANY women play. Women WANT guys attention even if she KNOWs she ultimately going to reject him regardless. This is wrong to do. But MANY women erroneously consider completely fair game.

[Labokachulaa]

No, I just look at it as room for improvement. There's no reason to take it out that there's something wrong with me. Thank you for helping me better myself, is what I would think.

[MCheetah]

Yes. 45% is my fault and what I said and 55% is my height/physical appearance, which no woman would be attracted to (I'm under six feet.)

[LiamJHayden]

No, I just don't fit her preferences. No big deal. I just move on.

[PinkRose24]

I've never asked a guy out. I've rejected guys and I hope they don't feel bad afterwards tbh and I hope they can realize we just don't click.

[dustybiker]

No one person is liked by everyone.

[LegendaryDater]

Do you think there are people in the world who think there are?

[dustybiker]

Yes. Too self absorbed to notice anything.

[es20490446e]

No, plenty of crazy out there.

[AdithyaR]

It's not exactly blame but more like resigning to the fact that I already knew I was going to get rejected, so mostly just regret that I tried.

[24kt_8k]

Well, yeah. I asked a girl out some time back and I was rejected. I don't pin it on her for "not having good taste" or "being a bad person". I just assumed I wasn't her type and I moved on.

[Lakeshow12]

Don’t be too hard on yourself dude sometimes maybe it’s the circumstances there’s thousands of reasons people get rejected you don’t have control over any of those things if they’re not interested then that’s on them not on you at least you tried bro that’s all you can do it’s better you had to took the risk then to have not done anything about it be proud of yourself man for putting yourself out there because not too many people can do it it’s just too much to go through trust me ik rejection is not an easy thing to deal with I’ve gotten rejected to bro it sucks I know it does

[_Just_A_girl_]

If overweight and it's not genetics yes

If a guy and broke as ever yes again

[MountAverage]

I do have that tendency.

[LegendaryDater]

It's never your fault.

[trina_x]

i haev never been rejected

[superderpy250]

I blame myself for never putting myself out there

[Nattt123]

I blame myself for rejecting someone

[AngryCarl]

If I'm honest, yes. I kind of do.

[Anonymous]

Blame the drug

[Anonymous]

Haha lames