my boyfriend and i have been together for 8 years. in 2021 i found out he was following half naked girls on social media, liking their pictures, screenshot them, DM a handful of them complimenting them on their looks, he has said so many bad things to me while drunk and angry. we both have cried about everything we’ve gone through together and i can’t seem to get over it. it doesn’t bother him, but i can’t let it go. i’m so angry and sad about it still. its was happening from 2015-2021. i’ve asked him why and he said he wasn’t sure if we were going to last and also he said he wasn’t feeling any love or affection from me. i asked him why he didn’t break up with me when he thought about this instead of putting me through all this and he said bc he didn’t want to. i hate that he put me through this, i hate how he couldn’t just break up with me. i am so angry and heartbroken over this. yesterday we hung out for Christmas eve and everything was just so awkward. we barely spoke to each other. today is Christmas and he’s with his friends and i’m home with my family. he tried hanging out with me today and i told him no and he just gave up and said “i’m so tired of your crap and blocked me. for the past two years we haven’t gone out on dates, on any adventures, we only hangout at night at his house. when we do hangout, we barely talk. we would just go upstairs to his room, we would lay on opposite side of the bed and watch youtube on our phones, separately. it’s so boring and so sad. he would tell me “i’m not as happy as i used to be” me either kid, me either. i actually miss who i used to be before i got so angry and bitter and sad over him. i used to laugh at everything, i used to go out with my friends, my eyes used to sparkle, i used to be excited to see him. now everything has gone away. if anything, i just want my happiness back. anyway, my question is, could it be the nagging the reason we don’t go out on dates or adventures anymore?
I have a bad attitude towards my boyfriend, could that be the reason he doesn’t hangout with me often?
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If you’re not nice to him probably a good reason. When someone is always in a bad mood. They’re no fun to be around.
But he could be emotionally cheating depending on his intentions with this. He’s been abusive to you.
Maybe this relationship isn’t meant to be
yes i have a huge feeling he’s emotionally cheating. he’s so secretive with his phone.
Then break up
Dont have kids with him lol🤭
i was pregnant this year and i unfortunately had a miscarriage. we were both so sad about it, we cried for days. after weeks, i talked to him about going to the gym right, he did not like it, he called me a baby killer.
Absolutley not okay. Because it wasn't your fault.
he's not nice. So if you have his kids you be stuck with him forever
i think i stayed with him for so long bc his family and friends will all tell me how nice, loving and honest he is and how he will stop drinking so much once he has kids and how he is so in love with me. i loved that everyone said it to me. little do they know how he acts when we are by ourselves.
I get it I do. Alcoholics arnt nice people. They tend to be mean. So what are you going to do now?
i just want to work on myself. i want to be happy again, i want to build my confidence. i hate who i am now.
at this point, i don’t care if he’s with me or not. i’m miserable regardless
You can get better though. But you have to get out of that toxicity