POLL- Is it bad to have sex at age 25-30? Does your mom get mad for her child age 25-30 having sex?

[Sugar100]

I’m asking as I have my mom, family, past landlord & moms friends judge me. My mom says I can never have sex only she can have sex and she’s 60. Then her friends live alone & have kids & they say to my mom why your daughter lives alone? That’s strange. Y she’s not living with her mom? She is hiding men in her apartment for sex. Wtf? I have a boyfriend, a partner , I’m not 15 hiding men. Im 25 as well. Y her friends are acting like I’m 15? Unless my mom is saying lies to her friends that I have no boyfriend & not 25. My past landlord had a son 23 & already with a baby. But he was living with her & ex girlfriend living alone with baby. And I was 24 no baby & have boyfriend visit me in my apartment I’m renting. All she did was spy on me. How did her son and she herself have babies? By having sex. Her sons not married. Why she’s so angry boyfriend visits me when her son is having sex younger than me and already has a baby now? I’m so confused.

Yes

No

[melanieeeB]

Girl you really need to stop listening to your mom lol It's all good! You can have sex at that age or even younger, you can even go and fuck around if you want to. You are a grown ass woman, who should make her own decisions! You're not a little child anymore. You can do whatever the fuck you want, just make sure to not break the law but like yeah... you can go and be bi, you can go and color your hair, you can go to the club, you can drink alcohol and for sure can you have sex with your boyfriend etc no matter what your mom tells you. Your mom sure has issues but that's her problem, not yours.

I recommend you the books: 1. You do you by Sarah Knight and 2. The subtle art of not giving a fuck by Mark Manson.

My cousin once called me slut for one kiss that she knows off smh People say a lot but it's you and your mindset that matters in the end

[Sugar100]

The reason y I talk a lot of my mom
Is cuz I only visit her every 2 months.
And the one day I see her she asks me a million questions n screams n wants to make any excuse to beat me. I even tired hide my new home adress and parents found it be stalking me with an air tag

[Sugar100]

Now she’s saying her friends think
It’s
Suspicious I’m living alone and. Not with my
Mom and I’m
Prob hiding men for sex at my apartment at night

[Sugar100]

Wtf lol
I have a boyfriend a partner

[Sugar100]

It’s good he visits me
Often at my
Apstment. I want live together soon on day and have baby

[melanieeeB]

Yeah I didn't mean no contact but just not letting her stuff that she saying getting to close to you, building some resistance to her words and well ignoring them 🙏🏼

[Sugar100]

I like to not see her few months , that’s only way not hear what she says. She screams n wants look for any excuse to beat me. She hasn’t beaten me yet as we don’t live togeher thankfully. She questioned me other day how much do I pay for rent? She knows it’s $1k but she keeps wanting me say it with my own mouth so she can beat me. I didn’t tell her how much I pay as she had asked 100x already same question. And she screamed super loud like a monster!!!

[Sugar100]

She thinks $1k is a lot of money for a studio apartment, and since she’ll be jealous I pay rent and she doesn’t , she’ll he pissed off I pay $1k and for that reason want beat me. To her $300 is okay to pay for an apartment

[melanieeeB]

It's not her business, you're not her teen daughter

[Sugar100]

Then she says my landlord doesn’t ask where’s my mom n dad? Wtf

[melanieeeB]

Again I would just start ignoring her comments. You're wasting a lot of your energy into the stupid shit your mom says, it really doesn't matter what stupid shit she pulls out of her sleeve. You're a grown woman and that's about it.

[Anemone978]

Yes my mom won't let me have any guys over and defo will not let me have sex lol

[Sugar100]

How old are u? I live alone tho. I don’t live with my mom. And her fiends r still talking shit to me

[Anemone978]

I'm 34 and my mom judges me harshly so I just don't worry about it until I can move out again lol

[Sugar100]

Do u think seeing mom every 2 months is still too much? Too often?

[Anemone978]

If she is mean and that I wouldn't want to visit her that much lol

[Sugar100]

So not seeing her every 2 months is too much huh? i just saw her Christmas and then I left and she was crying. She needs to let go. I’m guna have baby soon and live one day with my partner she needs learn not cry. I was with her daily since age 22, have no life. Now it’s finally my time to live my own life

[Anemone978]

To be honest she sounds a lot like my mother lol are you her only daughter? that might be why she is so over the top

[Sugar100]

She has a married brother but she lets him do whatever he want as he’s a guy. Still it’s not right I’m not 15 and pregnant. I’m even pregnant late all girls have baby way ealry at age 18-24

[Sugar100]

She believes u can only have sex until u r married too

[20yearsolder]

I don't know where you live but here in the USA, consider an adult at the age of 18. Of course if you live under her roof, you have to play by her rules. Most people try to be out of their parents home long before the age of 25 to 30 in the US

[Sugar100]

I live alone and 25

[Sugar100]

I moved out since 23

[20yearsolder]

Then there's really no need for her to know if you're having sex or not. That's really none of her business

[Sugar100]

She believes only married people can have sex only too

[20yearsolder]

Can I PM you for a moment

[20yearsolder]

Or you can DM me either one

[Summeroflove]

Well it’s normal to get married and have sex. Maybe you should keep your sex life to yourself I’d you don’t want people knowing about it. Lol.

[Sugar100]

I’m not Married

[Summeroflove]

Well…. If you don’t want people to know about stuff. Don’t tell them

[Summeroflove]

Maybe they’re trying to help you and you take it as judgment

[Sugar100]

No mom says it nonstop doesn’t shut up and no one but her is bringing up sex she’s like obsessed with sex

[Summeroflove]

Well. Maybe she’s trying to help you. That or tell her you don’t want to talk about it and have boundaries with people. Including men

[Sugar100]

She screams super loud gets pissed off when I say I don’t want to talk about it. She’s not a mature mom that says I understand honey , she don’t listen she gets pissed and continues talk of the subject

[Summeroflove]

If you’re a adult she really shouldn’t be doing that. But I still stick by my answer. Not to be rude but I feel like you’re trying to get the answer you want to hear.

You might as well invite others to your question because you’re not getting it from me

[Sugar100]

Obviously I’m an adult im 25.

[Sugar100]

I just wanted to see if there are other people with moms like this or is it just me and I’m fucked

[Summeroflove]

Well…. Truthfully I think you’re both immature. You seem to be sleeping around and your mother is being controlling.

But again maybe she’s just trying to help you.

[Sugar100]

I’m not sleeping around with different men, I have one boyfriend he’s my partner.

[Sugar100]

I don’t have different men. It’s just soemthing her friends are making up.

[Summeroflove]

Well that’s good. Maybe she should mind her own business. But it’s also not good to have sex before marriage.

It creates bonds to people and this is why when break ups happen and sure form purely romantic relationships I’m not saying stuff doesn’t happen there either. But not as bad.

But. Your mother might just be controlling and if she’s saying stuff about you. Other then to you it could be defamation

[Summeroflove]

But if she really believes the stuff she’s saying well…. It’s a complicated subject

[sunflower00]

Where do you live/are you religious? That doesn’t sound normal. 25 is an adult, majority of people have had sex long before then. They sound very controlling!

[AmeerX]

I am 29 and virgin. Waiting for sex after marriage. I am not religious but I just don't want to be with anyone but someone special

[Sugar100]

Yea my parents stress me out a lot, I don’t see them often tho. I see my mom every 2 months and been 6 months I don’t see my dad.

[AmeerX]

This reminds me, what does your dad say about your relationship. I think he must be supportive of you right?

[Sugar100]

@AmeerX he is same but he is quiet unlike mom who screams and talks a lot. But dad is fake he is quiet but talks shit behind ur back. But makes people believe he’s an angel so nice.

[Sugar100]

He does give me my space tho but works together with mom as a team to stalk me when mom needs to

[AmeerX]

Where do these people come from? He divorced your mom and he is in team with her when it comes to you 🙄.

But try talking to him. May be if one of them is on your side you won't have to worry about the other as much

[Sugar100]

@AmeerX yea he still loves mom but wen they were married dad beat her while she’s pregnant and cheat on her with stripper

[Sugar100]

He doesn’t deserve to see mom , he deserves he alone and neevr see her again but mom is best firends with dad

[AmeerX]

Well, I think they both understand each other. Why don't they remarry 🤔

[CateM]

This is so weird... and sounds controlling too

[Sugar100]

YES VERY CONTROLLING

[art84]

Sounds like your parents still treat you as teenager rather an adult. You should have sex whenever you like if you are responsible with using protection.

[Sugar100]

They get angry if I call myslef an adult it pisses them off. Everyone else can hav sex or live alone Except for me. It’s not right. I only visited mom for Christmas but I will continue remain distant few months again from her.

[Sugar100]

Y her friends too say all that stuff about me? Y she’s living alone? Very strange. She’s hiding men in her apstment for sex.

[Sugar100]

Also that past landlord too.

[Apple1996]

Nah my mom encourages it since she wants more grandchildren

[slatyb]

You are an adult. Why do you care what your mother says?

[Jerre]

You should be having as much sex as you want. Try to block your mom’s opinions from your mind.

[Sugar100]

But why her firends judge me for living alone then saying she is hiding men at night in her aparment for sex? & Say it’s strange I’m living alone? 25 isn’t 15-18

[Sugar100]

Also y that past landlord was angry boyfriend visits me when her son is having sex and younger than me and has a baby now? Y she’s not mad at him for having sex?

[Jerre]

It’s a shame people have to be like that. I fuck a lot and would hate to see things about the young girls I date and fuck.

[Sugar100]

As long as I keep distance not see them many months then I’m okay. And can live my own life and they know nothing

[Jerre]

As long as you live alone, you can fuck everyday if you want. Enjoy those orgasms, have one for me

[Bklynbadboy12]

Your mom is crazy you pay your own bills and you live on your own you mom can't tell you shit do what you feel is best for you cause nobody loves you better than you do

[JosyJosy]

My mom has nothing to say. I go my own way.

[Anonymous]

Is this a joke?

[Sugar100]

NO it’s my real life

[Preeti161101]

18+ is good age to start x

[moviedude714]

Quite a dumb parent