Why is late replying a red flag?

[TheSimFans]

When is a late response a red flag? These seem like stupid things that should raise red flags. People have lives as well as jobs. Does is realy matter. Ghousting is a red flag. That i experience througonline. Getting a red flag opinion can cause confusion. Through online dating, I met a guy. Did you reply more than once? Cheating can happen at any time. Also, I have been cheated on. Returned ok on a holiday near the time of the reply and not late. Did finally arrange to meet up at M&S. It's not a wise idea to annoy other users since they could be trolls. I have had different experiences with previous relationships. I have a learning disability. I can get very confused about users opinion. I still don't get why late replies are such a red flag when it comes to dating and online dating. My match with a guy was on a dating site on Facebook dating. Got to know me, askedons. Was ok with moving a bit slower when it comes to online dating.

[blackgaletiger]

I hate when people complain about late replies. Yes you want to get back to the person as soon as you can but sometimes you only have so many hours in a day. Me and my partner were in a long distance relationship and was in school at the time. She had loads of free time and would always complain i would reply late. 8-14 hours sometimes. I explained the situation to her why and told her I understand her frustration. When you have lots of time on your hands and your invested in your phone then 10 minutes can feel like a long time. But when you work have responsibilities and have to balance other parts of your life then a whole day goes by quick. Its not a red flag as long as there is a good reason for it and a person is able to communicate it well and effectively

[TheSimFans]

I know that people can have jobs , study a course at uni and people have different opinions about. Not complain. I just got confused about what some users think is a red flag.

[Summeroflove]

It depends. You’re right if someone feels entitled to your time. If they feel you should respond in 5 minutes when you have a life. It’s a red flag.


If it’s important or like you said ghosting yeah that’s wrong. But I think you just hit the nail on the head with this one

[LoneleeGirll]

I see it as everyone has time to reply a least once in a day. If you can't find 60 seconds to send a quick message in 24 hours, I don't necessarily see it as a red flag, but I do see it as me needing to me on my guard and to be careful. Firstly because if you are involved with this guy and he is taking more then 24 hours to reply to a message, it shows he has lack of interest in you and your relationship. It could also be a sign you are not the only person he is talking too. Worst case scenario, his lack of communication can also be a sign he is already has a girlfriend.

[TheSimFans]

How can be a lack of interest if he is willing to meet up with me. He said he would like to meet up and did arrange to meet up after new years. I also did check if he hasn't gotten a girl girlfriend since I asked to make sure he is single.

[LoneleeGirll]

Okay. This is time wasting trying to explain things to you. If you don't see certain things as a red flag that is your right to do so, but it is very hard to explain when it is clear you don't see or understand why so many of us see it as a red flag.

You legit twisted my words. Never once did I ever say about meeting up. I said his lack of communication via calling and texting is a sign of a lack of interest in you and your relationship.

[TheSimFans]

I didn't twist you words. don't really understand modern dating. Was taking about meeting up at public place in city.

[MzAsh]

I’ve always considered a sudden but consistent break in the pattern a red flag more than the frequency itself. If he’s texting back quickly for weeks then all of a sudden taking longer and longer, that’s a red flag. People are very much creatures of habit.

[Guy13]

Because it shows a disregard for other person. 12 hours is late,

[TheSimFans]

You still not being very clear to me.

[TheSimFans]

How can is be a red flag.

[Anonymous]

It's not to me. I try to take the entirety of a person into account. I know people who are really punctual and I know people who are routinely late. If you try to apply one standard to everyone you know you're going to make yourself crazy when half don't meet your expectations. The people I'm acquainted with who are not very timely is generally because they have a habit of overlooking thier time, keeping too much on thier plate so-to-speak. Believe me, they end up paying for it. Because generally they are the last people I invite to things. Not because I'm offended. But because I know when I invite them they're probably going to be busy that night. I think too many people get far too offended far too quickly at perceived slights. If I message somebody, I don't even care if they respond back to me in the same day let alone some arbitrary time clock of what an acceptable response time is.

[Alex8736]

depends on how you construe the message on the late reply vs no reply

[TheSimFans]

What do you mean by replying late. Has been texting a guy on message that I match through facbook dating. What classes are red flags or no. Amber flags and green flags. dislike when people do ghost you. Replying is depends.

[In_Trance]

It's not